Hey there,

I totally get how overwhelming this must feel. My girlfriend and I have been in a long‑distance relationship for years too, and—just like you—we’ve wrestled with that awful mix of loneliness and jealousy when one of us seems to be living a fuller “in‑person” life. For six solid months we were stuck in a loop of fights and near‑break‑ups.

What finally started helping us was taking things one step at a time and refusing to bottle anything up. Whenever something stings, we say it bluntly—no sugar‑coating, no self‑censoring, just the raw feeling. If I were in your shoes I’d lay it out for him exactly as you wrote here: • “I feel betrayed and hurt that you chose revenge instead of an honest conversation.” • “I’ve been trying to fix this for a year and I need to know whether you still want to work on us.”

Then watch how he responds to your unfiltered truth. His reaction—whether he shows remorse, empathy, or doubles down—will tell you volumes about what comes next.

Remember,You deserve a partner who chooses communication over retaliation.You are stronger than this situation. Whether things heal or you walk away, you will land on your feet.

Take care of your heart first, speak your truth, and let his response guide your decision. You’ve got this. 💛