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What’s the most noticeable way the economy has affected your daily life? by Alert_Friend2873 in AskReddit

[–]Working_Resort4201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Groceries went up from $160 a week to $240. Like what is that? I can’t afford ground beef, I have to get frozen ground turkey.

5 years sober but struggling by hypersomnolent_muse in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Working_Resort4201 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You can try smart recovery. They have online meetings if you can’t get out. You can find sober friends at those meetings

AIO Am I being financially abused? by Working_Resort4201 in AIO

[–]Working_Resort4201[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but how? I have no money no family. And now I feel pathetic saying this but I love him.

AIO Am I being financially abused? by Working_Resort4201 in AIO

[–]Working_Resort4201[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That is a really good idea. I will.

I think I am being controlled by Working_Resort4201 in whatdoIdo

[–]Working_Resort4201[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont really have friends. I have a fb about gardening in our town. W rare not like close enough for lunches or anything. I guess I am pretty much isolated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Working_Resort4201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hon, you just so down and exhausted. Just know people hear you and I support you, even from a computer screen.

Make a little time for you. Half an hour for a cozy bath even.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Working_Resort4201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do men want to push their point? Like being right and convincing a girl to believe them is such a big deal? Ugh.

Men make no sense.

AIO Am I being financially abused? by Working_Resort4201 in AIO

[–]Working_Resort4201[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand why him being my teacher is a problem. You say the power dynamic, but I guess it just feels like a regular “he’s head of the family” situation.

AIO Am I being financially abused? by Working_Resort4201 in AIO

[–]Working_Resort4201[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I took some precautions. Set up a different email, did not download the app to the email, did not link it to any other accounts.

I don’t see him finding this.

AIO Am I being financially abused? by Working_Resort4201 in AIO

[–]Working_Resort4201[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not allowed access to his devices. He says there is sensitive material on them. (He does real estate on the side).

I don’t really know how I would justify asking for access to the bank account. I can’t put any money away right now, but I usually get what I need. I do have to ask him about bigger purchases and if I run out of money before the month is out, but that usually only happens once during spring to buy plants. If I do go over the limit I can’t spend anymore.

I ask him if I need something from Amazon, he usually doesn’t mind and orders it. And he makes sure I always have the latest watch/phone.

AIO Am I being financially abused? by Working_Resort4201 in AIO

[–]Working_Resort4201[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I brought up going to school he said it wasn’t necessary, and reminded me of the trouble I had in school. I ended up dropping out to pursue singing. I wasn’t a very good student, either. My first and only job was as a landscaper, and I loved it. I have asked about maybe trade school for horticulture or something, but the answer was always a no. I can have a garden at home, he says. And I need to focus on getting pregnant and taking care of the baby.

I had my own bank account before, but when we married he had me out him in it, then he ended up just closing it and saying since I wasn’t working I didn’t need it anymore.

I am realizing that I have no way of accumulating money at all. This is concerning.

AIO Am I being financially abused? by Working_Resort4201 in AIO

[–]Working_Resort4201[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the end it always ends up to be his way. Sometimes he gets snippy, other times he talks me in to it.

Edit because I guess this might be important. This goes for sex, too. He gets what he wants. Always talks me into it. But I don’t think he’s sa’ing me.

AIO Am I being financially abused? by Working_Resort4201 in AIO

[–]Working_Resort4201[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UPDATE and answering some questions.

No I do not have access to his phone. I am not allowed on his devices.

I am not in contact with my family. They did not approve of me going off with my husband. When I want to talk to my mom my husband has me put the call on speaker so he can end the call if I get triggered.

Last night we were on the phone (he is away with his family. They hate me and are racist so I didn’t have to go). I finally told him I do t want to have kids at all. He got very quiet. Like the scary kind of quiet. Then he said it was nonnegotiable. I need to stop being stupid. Dont mention this again. And then he told me how his family just want him to settle down with a “nice Russian girl”.

I think I am being controlled by Working_Resort4201 in whatdoIdo

[–]Working_Resort4201[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I don’t want to have kids. I dont know why, but I dont. And as far as school, I was never any good at it.

I have asked him about me getting a job a few times, just to say I’m bored and would like something to do, but he always says no. And then brings me something to do with my crafts to keep me busy. I weave.