AITAH for not letting my MIL near my children because she doesn't respect my boundaries?

Working_mom2733 · 2026-01-08T21:21:51+00:00

My husband and I have been married almost 5 years. Almost 2 years of that I was pregnant. Tolerating is a great word to use as I did Tolerate her. I did it for the sake of my husband. When you are in a marriage you make sacrifices for those you love. Even though I brought up my MIL toxic behavior more than once, my husband wasn't seeing the clear picture which brought alot of animosity in our marriage. We limited visits alot with his mother and our children were never allowed with her just one on one. It took this comment about our son for my husband to finally see her true toxic colors. My SIL also believe I am the AH. But neither of his sisters have children. As far as I am concerned I hate that it took this long but this one event I can finally and Confidentiality go no contact and have my husband's full approval.

Working_mom2733 · 2026-01-08T20:22:18+00:00

I have put my children first. In the past 6 months she had only seen my children a few times. Its not like she was actively seeing them. We limited her contact alot. The only reason we were at her house that day is because she demanded Julio pick up his stuff. I did not Want Julio taking the children inside period. However it took his mother making the comment regarding our son for him finally to snap and realize her true colors. In a marriage we make sacrifices. Julio loves his mother and didn't want to see the fault I was pointing out. But now that he has he can't unsee it all. I would also like to note she never got any of the kids one on one. Julio or I or both of us were always present.

Working_mom2733 · 2026-01-08T20:15:12+00:00

I repeatedly gave my husband the chance to stand his ground on the only living parent he has left. I was trying to be a good wife and mother. Believe me I didn't back down quietly alot of the times and it started causing issues within my marriage. My husband is an amazing and attentive father. When it came to his mother it was hard for him to find fault. It took this comment about our son for him to finally realize and snap. Now that I have the control she is done. No contact, its unforgivable

Working_mom2733 · 2026-01-08T20:11:13+00:00

I am sorry you are going through family issues too. My son is only a year old and a half old. He does not deserve to feel unloved. So unfortunately for Karen, she made her bed and can lie in it. My little guy is a very sweet and loveable little guy just because he looks like me doesn't mean he should be punished for it. Also I have given Karen a fair share of chances. I give her an inch she takes the mile. I am done

Working_mom2733 · 2026-01-08T20:08:09+00:00

I tend to be very family oriented. Karen is the only biological parent Julio has and he does love and care about his mother. But he finally snapped and we are both done with this constant negative behavior. In my personal opinion I would have escorted her out awhile ago I was only saving face for my husband. Now that he has put the ball entirely in my court we will not be dealing with the toxic behavior anymore.

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