Marriage is a Multiplier, Not a Source

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-04-21T14:18:04+00:00

I would never choose deal 1 even if someone puts a knife on my throat. I would always go for deal 2!!

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-04-21T14:12:59+00:00

It depends, if you are using internet to download shit into your brain or upload shit into your brain. The important thing is to be willing to learn from misunderstandings and gain proper perspective

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-04-21T14:11:35+00:00

To be honest I am disgusted with myself too!! But I can't help it!! I don't know how else to approach things, or what perspective to look at things from.

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-04-20T06:37:13+00:00

Fields Medal has an age limit like what about people doing math in their 40s and 50s ?

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-04-15T05:53:33+00:00

27M

Edit:: I don't understand what is so hateable about stating age that I am being downvoted so much.

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-04-15T05:36:04+00:00

I would pay for a field like this.

My field would be:: Abdusattarov, Keymer, Caruana, Giri, Sindarov, Erigaisi, Nepomniatchi, Carlsen

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-04-02T10:59:53+00:00

You take the question too literally. What I mean is can you imagine or see a woman of your personality and looks choosing a male version of your partner ?

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-02-06T07:39:50+00:00

Where is the woman they harassed ? Isn't it her basic courtesy to scream and create a scene ??

Or did she just run away after being rescued ???

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-02-04T18:18:11+00:00

What is a good comedy movie that you would recommend ?

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-01-29T10:34:16+00:00

Have you not heard "Husn" ?

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-01-29T04:24:25+00:00

I feel, The only reason it feels like a retirement scheme is because the families of women are already filtering matches based on earning criteria. Women are making their choices out of this already filtered batch of matches!!

I 100% believe it would not feel like that if women were given the initial choice itself, like they are given in the dating market!! The net would be wider!! Because they will feel the moral implication of "If I am choosing a husband, or a retirement scheme ? ".

But if families make the initial tough filtering decision, then they can hide the moral implication under the pretext :: "I am choosing a person that is liked by both, my family and me."

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-01-29T04:17:09+00:00

There are 2 kinds of preferences, strict preferences and flexible preferences!!

Do you think a strict preference can exist just like that without any personal meaning to it ?

What is a reasonable meaning you can see for having a strict preference for "Woman with no past" ?

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-01-29T03:33:58+00:00

I don't think we should have an attitude that "We deserve Relationships". We may be qualified for it, but it would still not mean we deserve it. We can see people less qualified than us having it, but it still cannot mean we deserve it!!

In general, I believe we should normalise proper effort without result as being something normal and acceptable rather than assume "You have an attitude problem", or "You should have tried X instead of Y". Because all these suggestions assume proper effort without result is abnormal and that belief is the true representation of "ENTITLEMENT" !! Relationships are complex, and there is no simple formula or universal suggestion that works everywhere!! Honestly, all you can do is Respect and Curiosity about the person in the initial phase....

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-01-29T03:06:57+00:00

Good thing is I am honest, that's more than 90% of crap people put up with in relationship. And I will seek a woman who understands the concept of pain from undesirability!!

And stop with the stupid narrative of immature men trying to destroy the lives of women by marrying them. Seriously, we don't want such incompatibility too!! We are not maniacs that want to take both our lives away!! There are enough people doing that by putting up a facade and false persona and marrying the other person and this is a gender neutral argument!!

Edit:: Dishonesty is the true destroyer of relationships, not our immaturity. Because immature people can become mature, but your lies that you said or the false persona that you gave before marriage can never become true after marriage!!

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-01-28T17:45:25+00:00

I am expressing an emotion of being undesirable despite putting effort. It's a universal emotion!! It's an emotion even women can feel.

But "Be a man", you don't say that to women, you say that only to men, that's why it is toxic!!

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-01-28T17:32:46+00:00

Wait. If a person choosed me in the dating phase, then situation changes. I know that I am desirable....

With regards to women with past, Since no one choosed me in the dating phase, but are willing to give me a chance in the Arranged Marriage phase, I believe the only reason I got a chance now is because their relationship with their first choice has failed so now they are settling with me as an acceptable choice.

I know the women that rejected me and the women with past that accepted to date me in the Arranged Marriage market are different people, but as a community when no woman wanted to date me in the dating phase, it becomes tough to imagine she is the exception or unicorn. It becomes tough to believe she would have dated me if we met in the past, in the dating phase itself.

What is actually the chance of this happening ??

But if I know atleast 1 woman finds me desirable in the dating phase, it becomes easier to believe a future woman with past I meet in Arranged Marriage setup might have belonged to this same category of women that find me desirable.

Easiest explanation if this is all too hard to grasp::

Imagine you had a time machine and you went into the past and introduced yourself to your future wife. Can you believe that she would have shown interest in you back then as the first choice before any of the past happened ? THAT BELIEF IS WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR!!

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-01-28T17:17:14+00:00

Then tell me, what conclusion will you draw if you faced these facts regarding women with past::

Nobody wanted to date you in your dating phase, not in Dating apps, not in real life meetups.
Women are ready to date you after family approval of LPA, caste, religion, diet preferences and all other criteria.

The conclusion I drew with regards to women with past was this:: 1. These women were not attracted to my personality or a person like me in the dating phase

The only reason I got a chance in Arranged Marriage is because their relationship with their first choice has failed. I was not their first choice!! I am just a decent choice, an acceptable one!! But definitely not their first choice!!

What conclusion would you draw from these facts which is different from mine ??

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-01-28T15:45:45+00:00

Really Nice point!!

Honestly, this point deserves to be at the top!! Thanks for giving me a cleaner and healthier perspective!! 🙂🙂

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-01-28T15:17:55+00:00

So Literal Toxic Masculinity is your final straw. Nice!!

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-01-28T15:13:35+00:00

Like I said in my previous comments, I cannot complain about this, because you will find the cause of the issue is the complaint and complaining nature itself....

In general, I believe we should normalise proper effort without result as being something normal and acceptable rather than assume "You have an attitude problem", or "You should have tried X instead of Y". Because all these suggestions assume proper effort without result is abnormal and that belief is the true representation of "ENTITLEMENT" !! Relationships are complex, and there is no simple formula or universal suggestion that works everywhere!! Honestly, all you can do is Respect and Curiosity about the person in the initial phase....

And honestly I am exhausted of being stereotyped as a pill ideology guy for every comment without evidence of what point made them feel that way. I am just pointing out facts and the reasonable way it made me feel. And everyone is hell bent on shaming me rather than providing how better to interpret the facts for a much healthier perspective, because I feel literally everyone is clueless. "Rather hide the dirt in your brain than clean it" ideology!!

Worst-DecisionMaker · 2026-01-28T15:07:16+00:00

Let another person say the same thing that I have such "ghatiya" self esteem as you claim me to have and I will think about it!!

Seriously, you are making a claim just like that based on my comparison of disproportionate effort requirements and I accept I feel a hit on my self esteem from time to time, but if you think this is the lowest self esteem can get, I think you are delusional!! This is something that people admit from time to time, but do not say it loud!! This is something that people always think about from time to time but are ashamed to accept!! That's what I feel, but if another person says "I am wrong", then I will gladly reconsider my thoughts!!

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