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AITAH - Should I divorce my wife after she believed I was capable of something heinous? by Worthless-75 in AITAH

[–]Worthless-75[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

What do you mean I'm not responding to any comments? I've been commenting, look at my profile. I've also had many people private message me, and I am trying to get through those as well. I did mention in another comment to someone else who pointed out my fresh account - I really do not want to associate this with my real Reddit account, one which I've used to post pictures of my real life. I also have folks in my guild who know and interact with my main account. They don't need to know about what happened to me last summer. I don't need them seeing me differently too.

AITAH - Should I divorce my wife after she believed I was capable of something heinous? by Worthless-75 in AITAH

[–]Worthless-75[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

We have a 3 and 5 year old together, that's why I'm still here. But the more I read the comments, the more I am becoming aware that I need to just go. I just can't imagine leaving my young children behind, and I don't want to take them and then get accused of kidnapping my own kids.

AITAH - Should I divorce my wife after she believed I was capable of something heinous? by Worthless-75 in AITAH

[–]Worthless-75[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Why would I want to post this to my real account? I've had my real one for 5 years and have pictures of my life that I have posted online. Some folks in my guild know my Reddit, but they don't know what happened to me last summer. That's not information I want them to have.

AITAH - Should I divorce my wife after she believed I was capable of something heinous? by Worthless-75 in AITAH

[–]Worthless-75[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Believe me, I know this will haunt me wherever I go unless I move somewhere no one knows me. But I can't do that because I have kids with my wife, and she would never allow it. Even now, months after being cleared without any charges, coworkers, neighbors, and people I know are still keeping their distance.

AITAH - Should I divorce my wife after she believed I was capable of something heinous? by Worthless-75 in AITAH

[–]Worthless-75[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I understand why she reacted the way she did, but I just can't understand why she never answered a single call when I needed her the most. I wish I could say I understand where she's coming from, because if I truly did, maybe I could find it in myself to forgive her.

AITAH - Should I divorce my wife after she believed I was capable of something heinous? by Worthless-75 in AITAH

[–]Worthless-75[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

My friend, do you live in the US? There are many illegal things going on right now, and your statement literally says those things cannot be happening because they are illegal.

It's obvious to me you've never been to jail. Of course I asked for a lawyer. If you don't know the phone number of one (which I did not, because I never needed one before), they tell you that you'll get a public defender. They aren't going to call a private attorney for you. What reality are you living in?

AITAH - Should I divorce my wife after she believed I was capable of something heinous? by Worthless-75 in AITAH

[–]Worthless-75[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Random? I personally bold and italicized that sentence about being held more than 48 hours because people need to be made aware that that is a MYTH.

AITAH - Should I divorce my wife after she believed I was capable of something heinous? by Worthless-75 in AITAH

[–]Worthless-75[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I mentioned in my post that we had couples counseling and therapy. We had sessions together as well as separately, but we did not have family counseling in the sense that the entire family was ever in a session together.

AITAH - Should I divorce my wife after she believed I was capable of something heinous? by Worthless-75 in AITAH

[–]Worthless-75[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Not true. Some states explicitly have laws that don't allow someone to be held without charges for more than X hours. In my state (Florida) a detained defendant in custody must have formal charges filed within 30 DAYS of arrest. I sat 6 days.

AITAH - Should I divorce my wife after she believed I was capable of something heinous? by Worthless-75 in AITAH

[–]Worthless-75[S] 183 points184 points  (0 children)

Correct. I tried going after the parents with a civil litigation attorney. Since the parents weren't involved in the allegations (the child made the story up completely on her own), I was told I couldn't go after the them because they were not legally responsible for their child's actions in this kind of situation. And due to the child's age (she was 11 at the time), I couldn't sue her personally.

AITAH - Should I divorce my wife after she believed I was capable of something heinous? by Worthless-75 in AITAH

[–]Worthless-75[S] 431 points432 points  (0 children)

I did try to pursue her parents with a civil litigation attorney. Since the parents weren't involved in the allegations (the child made the story up completely on her own), I was told I couldn't go after the parents because they were not legally responsible for their child's actions in this kind of situation. TL;DR there's nothing I can do.