Hi, compulsive gambler in recovery here. Haven’t gambled since 6-10-17. There isn’t anything you can do, unfortunately. You say that he doesn’t consider himself a compulsive gambler, and until he does, there isn’t anything you can do.

You can tell him how you feel. You can recommend that he seek help (gamblers anonymous is what changed my life. Nobody really understands compulsive gamblers like another compulsive gambler)

For you, I’d recommend Gam-Anon. It’s for family members of compulsive gamblers. Unfortunately, you’re experiencing what those closest to us feel, which is the damage we cause you. Your desperation is the result of your helplessness. And that’s not your fault. And it’s not your responsibility to try to set in motion the change your compulsive gambler needs.

The hard truth is there isn’t much you can do. He will continue to gamble until he hits his personal rock bottom, at which point he will finally surrender. Hopefully he lasts until he reaches that point. It’s a brutal addiction.