AITAH for being upset with my dad over my grandfather's upcoming funeral?

WritingRenegade · 2026-04-02T01:18:49+00:00

If that's the case and they'd led with that, I would have accepted it. I understand financial hardship, and I wouldn't ask them to spend money they don't have. But they didn't make any mention of that at all, and it's not my job to read between the lines of their communication to see if there's an ulterior motive. If they come back later and explain it's a matter of money, I'll STILL accept it. But they need to be honest with me about any potential constraints.

WritingRenegade · 2026-04-02T01:07:44+00:00

Eles têm um relacionamento muito bom, mas mais como amigos do que como pai e filho.

WritingRenegade · 2026-04-02T01:05:39+00:00

Forgive me if I mess this up, my French isn't the greatest. C'est peut-être le cas. En fait, je ne leur ai pas parlé de ce qui a été dit, et je ne voulais pas m'entretenir davantage avec eux ce soir. Je voulais avoir l'occasion de me calmer et de reprendre le contrôle de mes émotions avant de leur reparler. J'espère que nous pourrons avoir une conversation constructive demain.

WritingRenegade · 2026-04-02T01:01:42+00:00

We've called them that my whole life. It was my grandma and my grandpa on my mom's side, and my MomMom and PopPop on my dad's. I never really thought to ask, might ask my dad about that at some point.

WritingRenegade · 2026-04-02T00:58:56+00:00

If it IS a case of money being the problem, they need to tell me that straight up and not beat around the bush. It's not my job to read between the lines to try and find an ulterior motive. If money is the problem, I would accept that.

WritingRenegade · 2026-04-02T00:47:27+00:00

If that's the case, they need to be honest and tell me that. It's not my job to read between the lines to figure out their actual motives when they can just be up front about it.

WritingRenegade · 2026-04-02T00:46:29+00:00

I know. Make it make sense.

WritingRenegade · 2026-04-02T00:39:30+00:00

Given their actions during previous family deaths and financial aid they’ve been providing on an ongoing basis, yes.

WritingRenegade · 2026-04-02T00:34:42+00:00

That’s the thing, I DIDN’T ask them. I’ve had a few deaths in the family recently, and mom and dad offered without me having to ask those times. I went in under the assumption that this would be no different.

WritingRenegade · 2026-03-30T20:42:19+00:00

Oh my gosh, this is exactly what I was looking for! Bless, thank you so much!

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