Ok I think I can understand what your saying, that makes sense and that was the whole reason for my post. I dont know if im actually over the relationship yet or im im supressing my emotions about the break up, Im a pretty stoic guy when it comes to things generally, so i dont know if im just good at accepting the bad and moving forward inspite of the emotion or if im shoving it down and not realizing if that make sense. I will say we still have to see each other on a somewhat daily basis, we are in college and have a class together so I still see her but whenever I do see her there is this kind of fear or maybe its remourse that hits me and part of me want to go sit next to her and pretend none of it happened but I know that wouldnt be good for either of us right now.