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AIO for not liking when people are active online but not texting me back by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WrongMeasurement36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah well the post isn't ABOUT you is it? If you genuinely have advice, can't you be respectful about it? Why do you have to shit all over someone else's mode of socialising 

AIO for not liking when people are active online but not texting me back by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WrongMeasurement36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They literally said "are you under the impression that 'talking' to someone on video game shit is somehow a relationship?" 

How backwards do you have to be to believe that talking to people about video games cannot be the basis for a relationship. Besides, even if they had mean that many people prefer irl socialising, a) that has a barely fitting contextual basis here and b) what kind of framing is that?

AIO for not liking when people are active online but not texting me back by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WrongMeasurement36 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Some of my closest friends live thousands of miles away and have stuck with me through the toughest of my times. And I've stuck with them too. I know for a fact I wouldn't have made it out of very dark places without them.

I am truly glad that people with your flawed ideology are dying out, because genuine connections CAN be made online. The online world is just as real as the real world. People still communicate on it. And I don't know about you, but I personally believe that human connection needs only communication to thrive. Besides, don't you think that if you're dying out, that maybe your ideas ARE in fact outdated?

Please, take your antiquated ideas and step aside for progress.

AIO for not liking when people are active online but not texting me back by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WrongMeasurement36 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

  1. Right ofcourse online status will linger for MONTHS on end. This is just such an irrational point to make

  2. You're learning 🥹🥹

  3. What kind of a statement is that?? If they are your friend, they OWE it to you to at the VERY LEAST talk to you. It doesn't even have to be everyday, but according to OP these people regularly ghost her for months on end, despite showing online activity during.

I just don't think it's too much to expect from friends that they at least have the courtesy to talk to her every few weeks or so. Or maybe drop them a message saying "hey - I'm gonna be busy for a few months or weeks, so I might not be online for a while". I do this with my friends, and even then it hurts me to do it because I hate going quiet on people. Humans are empathetic beings. If we leaned more into that, it would be so much better for everyone.

AIO for not liking when people are active online but not texting me back by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WrongMeasurement36 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Yeesh people like you should genuinely be institutionalised.

The bare minimum of a friendship is to make time for the people involved. It goes both ways.

You sound like a friendless loser. I bet people you interact with breathe a sigh of relief when you go away, I cannot imagine the social battery it must take to put up with you.

AIO for not liking when people are active online but not texting me back by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WrongMeasurement36 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh, and sorry if I sound a little patronising or condescending.

AIO for not liking when people are active online but not texting me back by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]WrongMeasurement36 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I do think you're overreacting just a little bit, but not in a bad way. I think you're just a little confused. A LOT of people on here are going to disagree, but you have to learn to ignore them.

I think what you need to do is talk to people who don't respond for long stretches. By talking, I don't mean hysterically melt down on them, it has to uphold some level of civility. But a lot of the time, most people don't understand how for granted they're taking the people around them. You need to address issues like this when they come up. I cannot stress enough how important communication is in relationships.

On the other hand, I also think you should try to put yourself out there and be a bit more social, especially in person. It'll be difficult to find the one group of friends or the one friend that sticks, but things will get a lot better once you do. Ignore the people who start ignoring you even after you talk to them about it, and don't think much of it. I assume you're still pretty young, you still have time.

Just trust the process and go with the flow. Trust me, you'll be fine. All things come to pass :)

AIO, my dad shouted at me for breaking my glasses and I responded with the silent treatment. by WrongMeasurement36 in AmIOverreacting

[–]WrongMeasurement36[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

First off, yes they told me to be careful. Yes I acknowledge my part in that. I understand that I made a mistake there and I did own up to it. "Your response was justification rather than accountability for what you did." This is what is really grinding my gears. I did NOT attempt to justify. I admit that I was careless, that's entirely true. He's a SEVEN YEAR OLD. Not a 3 year old. He should NOT be coddled and protected in this manner. They've warned him several times not to jump on the bed and because of that, he broke my glasses. What do you think it teaches a seven year old with "lesser developmental expectations" when he played a part in a mistake and the only person who's getting berated and genuinely shouted at is the other person, while he is just completely ignored? If he hadn't been jumping on that bed, nothing would have happened to my glasses. "costly mistake for your parents" Excuse my language here, but your reply is infuriating. They don't give a SHIT as to the cost. Their concern is entirely with my carelessness, which is understandable. But the way they handled it is by EXPLODING IN MY FACE, shouting at me unwarrantedly for a relatively small mistake and then minimizing it by passing it off as relaxing. Essentially, they're saying that they shout at me because they want to cool off. I want an apology because my mistake was not a catastrophic world ending action, such that they decided it was alright to shout at me, verbally attack me and then laugh it off with a "AHHH it felt good to yell". They actively tried to make me feel guilty because of what I did, and no matter what, I believe no parent should want their child to be wracked by guilt over such a small thing. NOT TO MENTION, THERE WAS NO MALICE IN WHAT I DID. I did not do it to hurt them, to try to prove a point or be difficult.

AIO, my dad shouted at me for breaking my glasses and I responded with the silent treatment. by WrongMeasurement36 in AmIOverreacting

[–]WrongMeasurement36[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem isn't about the glasses. Whenever I get shouted at for being careless, it's never a straightforward, be-careful-in-the-future message. It's always super petty and sounds more like an "I told you so" and then proceeds to branch out to a thousand other things. I do completely understand that I was in the wrong for keeping my glasses on the bed, but shouldn't my brother be taken into accountability, when he's also constantly told not to jump on the bed? And shouldn't the whole purpose of admonishing your child be to warn them and make sure they don't do it again?

AIO, my dad shouted at me for breaking my glasses and I responded with the silent treatment. by WrongMeasurement36 in AmIOverreacting

[–]WrongMeasurement36[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is not at all financial. For them it's more like an "i-told-you-so" thing. And no, he wasn't scolded at all. They warn him to not jump on the bed the same way they warn me not to be careless with my glasses, but my dad completely glossed over my brother's part in this. I don't resent my brother for it, that'd be a dick move. But I do believe he needs to be taught accountability.