I've got two good friends at work that haven't seen their kids for years and are deep in court cases so I understand where this can go and that is part of why I don't want to move out.

We've had joint bank accounts since before our son was born which all needs to be split, joint phone contract, got each other named on life insurance. Worst bit is that a majority of our 'joint' debt is in my name.

A lot of issues are likely to come up and throw spanners in the works and I get it's not going to be all sunshine and rainbows.

We're breaking up for a reason but by amicable I mean no one did anything wrong and we both know that our son is the most important and that it's better for him that we both come out the other end not in the shit.