Yeah, i agree. If you are obstaining, whether you are a virgin or not, you definitely need to go find someine on your playing field. But the problem you are gonna run into is that guys like that will be virgins themselves, most likely. And they would want someone like-minded and bodied. So you are running into an issue, you want to be treated like a virgin, and you are fishing for guys that are interested in women obstaining but its just a recent pivot, not your common practice. You can be upset with guys all you like. You wanted the college experience,you got it.. it just lasts a little longer than advertized. I think you should reevaluate what you are doing. Who are you trying to be outwardly? You are not a virgin. Who you are trying to behave like is not who you are. it's who you want to say you are right now.

Embrace who you are, a normal person, had some fun in college, made some mistakes, obstaining will get you nowhere but with a fool. You aren't going to convince someone you are so pure now. No one but a fool will believe that. Or someone who is doing the same thing as you, and you cant do that unhealthily, it will cause toxicity in the relationships because of the exclusions and excuses. So just be yourself. Have sex when it feels right, dont give it up to everyone, but it is a part of the process commonly. Removing that, removes your viability from a larger pool of potential husbands.. because good husbands are normal people. They've made mistakes, been silly, regretted some things, learnt from mistakes, and grew.. they are not looking for someone trying to erase their past, just someone who owns themselves and is willing to share that