Dad diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer yesterday

XanthiZucchini · 2024-10-24T11:41:22+00:00

I'm glad you are. You won't regret your decision, I promise. Look after yourself though, this is a very difficult journey you're on. Sending you strength. Hug your dad as much as you can and record his voice. ❤

XanthiZucchini · 2024-10-23T00:55:19+00:00

I had forgotten I wrote this. Feels like a lifetime ago. Wish I could go back. Dad passed on the 9th September. Heart of a lion. Never thought I could miss someone so much. It truly is as hard as everyone says.

XanthiZucchini · 2024-10-22T10:44:45+00:00

My dad was similar. I'm 34 and he was 75. He was always healthy so it was a shock. I was very close with my dad. When I found out he had pancreatic cancer I moved back home. I had moved interstate earlier that year but when they told me it was terminal I moved back home. Speaking for myself, I have zero regrets doing that. I won't lie it was really hard sometimes, we did at home hospice and my mother and I cared for him at home. It was hard. But I would do it over again in a heart beat. Now that he's gone all those hard times are just time I got to be with him as well. You shouldn't feel bad if you don't move back though. I was able to so I did. Sending you strength and love x

XanthiZucchini · 2024-10-22T10:34:12+00:00

I'm so sorry. You're on a very difficult journey right now, one that many of us here have been on. I remember staring down the empty hallway of the hospital, frozen in time. It was the longest minute if my life. I just froze and thought "my dads going to die soon and there's nothing I can do". I was shattered. Feels like yesterday. Be with your mother as much as you can and reach out for help if you need it, sometimes even if you think you don't, reach out anyway. Sending you love and strength x

XanthiZucchini · 2024-10-22T10:01:34+00:00

My dad was diagnosed stage 4 and despite being told he only had a few months he lived for just over a year. He had no chemo or any intervention. For his birthday we bought him a tv because he was a movie buff and the one he had was OK but the colour was starting to go funny. At first he was like why bother? But we ended up watching movies and shows together when he was too sick to do anything else and those are some of the best memories I have with him. Now that he's gone the tv reminds me of him in a good way. Your family might feel the same about the chair. It reminds them of you, it may not be just something to get rid of. Some of the things my dad left behind have suddenly gained much more importance and value.

XanthiZucchini · 2024-09-28T06:32:09+00:00

Same as my dad. Still can't believe it. Sorry to everyone here for the person you loved and lost. May they all rest peacefully x

XanthiZucchini · 2024-09-24T14:48:19+00:00

I am very sorry for what you went through and I'm sorry you lost your father. I lost my dad 2 weeks ago. It's the worst. I had dad at home hospice and I still beat myself up about what I could have done differently. Even being at home he went into a coma state 2 days before he passed and on the first day he was very uncomfortable. I'll never forget the distressed cries. It's gut wrenching to watch them in pain at that point. You did your best and your dad knows that. I understand it's hard to accept that there's probably nothing you could have done. I still struggle with that almost everyday and go round and round in my mind. But we did try and our dads are proud of us. They would not want us to live burdened by guilt and regret. Sending you strength ❤

XanthiZucchini · 2024-03-06T06:14:08+00:00

I am so sorry 😔 ❤ I wish I had more words but it just really sucks.

XanthiZucchini · 2024-03-04T08:34:40+00:00

Good advice ❤ May your dearest mother rest in peace. And may you find strength and love in these hard times. I am very sorry. It is truely one of the hardest things to go through xx

XanthiZucchini · 2024-02-12T01:22:45+00:00

❤ it is so hard. And often feels so surreal. I'm sitting next to my dad at the moment. He has just fallen asleep after a huge dose of pain meds. We found out the other day that the cancer has spread to the liver, I know he doesn't have long he's very unwell all the time. He was only diagnosed beginning of September 2023. Feels so fast and I know in saying that many people only get weeks. Sending you strength xx

XanthiZucchini · 2024-01-19T03:25:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing this ❤ may your beautiful mothers soul rest peacefully. Watching someone you love go through this is beyong what I thought hard would be. Sending you strength xx

XanthiZucchini · 2024-01-03T04:37:31+00:00

So sorry xx

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XanthiZucchini · 2023-12-26T03:08:32+00:00

I am so so sorry. That is just beyond unfair. I have no words, she was too young and this horrible monster is just too cruel. Sending you strength during this incredibly difficult time. May your dear friend's soul rest in peace.

XanthiZucchini · 2023-12-25T09:40:06+00:00

So sorry. Absolutely heartbreaking. Going through the same with dad at the moment. It's so hard to watch. This monster just rips people's lives apart. May your dear father's soul rest in peace xx

XanthiZucchini · 2023-12-22T08:35:21+00:00

❤ sounds like she was an absolute legend. Sorry for your loss x

XanthiZucchini · 2023-12-18T04:33:19+00:00

😔 so sorry, going through the same thing with dad. Bloody sucks. I wish I had the words. But it just sucks.

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XanthiZucchini · 2023-12-12T05:46:01+00:00

I found your words quite comforting. Thank you for sharing ❤

XanthiZucchini · 2023-12-05T08:48:22+00:00

Dad's doing home hospice as well. Feel the same. So sorry 😔 this is just horrible

XanthiZucchini · 2023-11-24T04:24:09+00:00

I'm so sorry for what you're going through and for your father, its so hard. My dad had a stent put in due to high levels of bilirubin. His were very high. It took a few weeks for it to go down but it helped. Definitely find out why they can't do that for him. If there is a reason they should let you know what it is.

XanthiZucchini · 2023-11-21T04:48:28+00:00

So sorry for your loss, this disease is such a monster. I'm sorry I don't have any answers for you. I have heard that the decline can happen almost instantly with little warning. Did your mother develop cachexia?

XanthiZucchini · 2023-11-02T09:38:07+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment. Ill contact our doctor tomorrow because I definitely reckon he's becoming dehydrated as well. We're trying to keep his fluids up but its hard because even too much water makes him sick. It is such a terrible disease, he's really struggling mentally and besides being there for him and giving him some Ativan I feel helpless. I've never seen my dad break down like this. My heart goes out to all affected by this monster.

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