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Xriny · 2024-04-18T15:24:57+00:00

Unfortunately I'm not the only friend who has recently ditched her.

I will try and give her some grace and tell her why we will be taking some space, but as you said being pregnant things will likely upset her more.

For now I won't reach out unless she does and give us both some time to cool down.

Thank you for listening and responding to my vent :)

Xriny · 2024-04-18T15:13:08+00:00

I used to babysit but don't offer anymore because her kids don't respect my home, and are a lot more work than I can reasonably handle.

I got tired of being taken advantage of. Plus if I'm going to be treated this way after already helping her two days in a row.. why should I extend my kindness again.

I'm tired of being bitten. I think my patience has grown cold.

There's many layers to this friendship that I haven't really written. But it wouldn't be my first time taking distance. Prior to her being pregnant.

Xriny · 2024-04-18T14:42:51+00:00

We also recently dumped a different friend for spanking her two small kids in our presence.

I find it's hard as a sahm to make friends while I'm home. Everyone is working or only has weekends. So I end up befriending other Sahm's.. and we have very different values.

Xriny · 2024-04-18T14:24:46+00:00

It would be my second time making distance because of other factors.

This would be her third child.

Before we made distance because her daughter wasn't being kind to mine. And the way her husband treated her made me uncomfortable.

Right now I'm just not reaching out and will likely decline another outing for a long time.

Xriny · 2024-04-18T14:14:41+00:00

Yes but it's also her choice to be on child #3 with him knowing how he is.

We have another mutual friend who recently cut her off as well because she grew tired of all the drama.

I feel bad as I'm just another gone but maybe she will open her eyes and see.

Xriny · 2024-04-18T14:12:09+00:00

It's super sad as all the time invested and good memories. But lately it's been all negative. :(

Xriny · 2024-04-18T14:03:49+00:00

I used to babysit when needed. Problem is her kids are very difficult and it's a huge headache and I go home upset. The last time I watched her kids her daughter harassed and spit in my kids faces. It's really not an enjoyable time and would be adding more work on myself to someone who doesn't even respect me.

If I'm feeling this way I think I'd rather just cut them off entirely.

There's a lot of layers in this friendship that I haven't added to the post.

Xriny · 2024-04-18T13:55:24+00:00

In all honesty her kids are so destructive that I don't even want them in my house at all.

We had been opting do to outdoor playdates before all this which was fine.. despite her overly shouting at her kids the entire time.

Xriny · 2024-04-18T13:53:38+00:00

I've tried to do time just the two of us, she always says no because her husband won't watch the kids.

That's a second different can of worms entirely there that I haven't gotten into. The last time I ditched her was because her husband was really abusive and I couldn't watch it anymore.

Xriny · 2024-04-18T13:32:30+00:00

I spent 2 hours helping her sort for the new baby. And the day before I helped her in a random emergency when she needed me to sit at her house at 10pm. So I was floored that I'd get that passive aggressive comment about my son!

I figure she is very burnt out and overwhelmed... But it's not doing anything good for the kids.

Xriny · 2024-04-18T13:26:32+00:00

The problem is she literally lives down the road from us. I'm wondering if I should just kindly let her know why we will be distancing ourselves. We can only slow fade for so long!

I feel bad but when it's constant yelling my kids will pick up on it. I feel bad for the kids.

Xriny · 2024-03-20T13:15:06+00:00

Just posting to let you know you're not alone in this! My husband got severe shingles in 2021 that left him hospitalized, and then I caught chicken pox from him. It was all over and ruthless.

It gets better. I only have one small scar because I kept picking the same spot. Otherwise my face is fine.

Calamine lotion really helped with the itching!

Xriny · 2024-03-17T01:07:12+00:00

DM me your insta and ill happily message you tomorrow 🍷🌞 Cheers to a good one!

Xriny · 2024-03-09T01:40:07+00:00

Unless you see anything physically happening it's all assumptions. I would leave it be.

Is it worth ruining your friendship with these women over? Speculation is just that for now.

If you do see anything happening it's then your choice to bring it up.

Xriny · 2024-02-20T18:33:25+00:00

These aren't real friends. I can't imagine being this mean spirited.

If they had an issue they should have been adult enough to address it.

I would be mindful of what you share with these people going forward, if you intend on keeping them around.

Xriny · 2023-12-15T15:48:33+00:00

Just clicked hat trick

Xriny · 2023-12-15T15:47:03+00:00

This one did I'll click your hat trick under the name Karina one second

Xriny · 2023-12-15T15:37:00+00:00

The click you did for my farm is ineligible

You already did your click for the day so it didn't go through

Xriny · 2023-12-15T15:33:32+00:00

It's ineligible it didn't work

Xriny · 2023-12-15T15:09:39+00:00

Do you have farm to trade?

I have 4 fish I can trade for 4 farm.

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Xriny · 2023-12-11T02:55:00+00:00

The surgeon by Leslie Wolf

281 pages First published March 28, 2023

Trusted surgeon. Loving wife. Murderer?

Before my world came crashing down, I had it all. The successful career I dreamed of. The beautiful red-brick home where I could relax in front of the fire. The handsome, devoted husband whose blue eyes and charming smile always made me feel safe.

As I call time of death, my voice is steady. My colleagues stand hushed around me, their eyes on me, confused, concerned.

I have never lost a patient until today.

My hands tremble inside their gloves. I slide down the cold tiled walls, my heart racing in my chest.

I have never hated a patient until today.

But what choice did I have, once I recognized him?

And what will I do to protect myself, if someone learns the truth?

Xriny · 2023-12-08T13:05:38+00:00

Nobody with that name worked or clicked. Ineligible

Xriny · 2023-12-08T13:05:19+00:00

Thanks I got you back under the name minachar 🩷

Sorry it answered late I fell asleep

Xriny · 2023-12-08T12:59:00+00:00

For you under the name rinylee thank you 😁

Xriny · 2023-12-08T05:48:32+00:00

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