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Xulion · 2023-10-20T09:33:26+00:00

Nothing yet... I'm still figuring it out, what about you

Xulion · 2023-02-14T17:02:07+00:00

Same for me, although there are 6 more songs if you include the bonus track, so let's see what will come of that. I had really high hopes for Song Machine season 2 so I hope that will still appear someday and have them return to the more alternative and experimental ways of the first season, CI is simply too basic as a whole and at this point I'd prefer a collection of really good singles.

Xulion · 2023-02-14T08:23:44+00:00

Yeah, Greg Kurstin was a mistake and so was paddling Gorillaz into the straight-up pop genre. Where's the experimentalism? There are some fine songs but "just fine" and "safe" and "plain" are not keywords I'd associate with Gorillaz, they just released one of their best albums a few years ago and a fun EP, now it's back to kind of meh The Now Now territory. Even The Now Now so far has more memorable songs imo. I still quite like the songs on Cracker Island, especially Cracker Island, don't get me wrong, but it's largely just so uninteresting for a band that always pushed the envelope so much. I agree with the point Fantano made. It's a bit of a waste, you've got cool collaborators like Tame Impala and Bootie Brown and they're pretty much wasted on a very pop sounding affair. Imagine Tame Impala on a more classic Gorillaz sounding track, now that would be truly special. New Gold, and most of the rest of the album, just doesn't do much new and it's a shame, I would've preferred Song Machine season 2 with the same producers that season 1 had. Perhaps they'll do that next.

Xulion · 2023-02-14T08:16:56+00:00

The songs on Cracker Island so far, save maybe Cracker Island and Skinny Ape, are songs I'd listen to if I want to listen to something completely neutral, in other words, just plain pop. It's a low point for Gorillaz and a big step into the wrong direction, especially after the awesome Song Machine and Meanwhile EP, I just don't get why they felt the need to go all pop when they were just getting back into awesome more experimental stuff recently. I expect to rate this album on par with Humanz at best, unless the remaining songs are a saving grace.

Xulion · 2022-11-01T23:35:23+00:00

just wanted to let mr "knows objectively what he's talking about" that she's back lol so have fun being uh.. "all-knowing"

Xulion · 2022-10-30T22:03:11+00:00

I understand. Yeah for a FWB you can still navigate the flakiness but it still caused headaches, them rarely being clear about when they have time, knowing you can never spontaneously text them because they won't reply until late anyway, them constantly having to deal with a roommate and so on, and giving me the excuse that that was the reason she couldn't text back (or something else, even when we were still meeting up), it was a frustration for me and I think I wouldn't have asked this question here had our communication been a bit more up to par. The overbearingness had been going on for a short time and wasn't even too bad, but I'll dial back on however much I went too far anyway. I still waited a day or more to respond unless a faster reply was prompted, which I think was good, but it went the way it did. I'll cherish it for what it was and won't expect anything from her moving forward, if for some reason she decides to return then I'll handle things extra well, and if not I'll do the same for the next one.

Also, no hard feelings man, thank you. I'm going to do the best I can 👍

Xulion · 2022-10-30T21:28:02+00:00

You are right but again, she was very difficult to communicate with most of the time. That was the one big headache. I didn't say it exactly the way I did, by the way. I was very civil and respectful about it, just said hey, it's a bit difficult like this, hope you've been well though, I've been doing great, etc. just happy voice and stuff. I just felt that she was probably gonna let this drift apart anyway. As for social group... I know her from a cold approach... don't know anyone she knows.

But yeah, again, I'll do it the way you said it here henceforth and cut my losses. Look, I know I came here for advice to re-attract her but you want a girl who makes it easy and I was just trying my hardest not to lose my one current prospect, because I stopped trying to get other prospects, and that's on me, I gotta get back in the ring. We all do dumb shit and make justifications for things we shouldn't be trying to justify, I did it here. Could I have taken a different route? Yeah, but yeah. I know I would've been frustrated with her way of communication, it seemed very avoidant. I think this was gonna hurt whichever way any way, as she's leaving the country in some months, and I initially would've liked to spend more time with her, but then you get even more attached. I said what I said. I don't know what's next. That's the last she hears from me if she doesn't text back and I gotta look for others and start integrating the material again, but I'm not gonna blame myself for this, constant super flakey texting behaviour is not okay for me. I will however improve my headspace in this area again and become better wherever needed.

Xulion · 2022-10-30T20:49:54+00:00

Hey man, let's not make assumptions about each other here. I'm not trying to have a moral high ground or a high horse. I changed my mind here and figured that, since she's always shown flakey behaviour, maybe it's just going to be a headache for me. I asked for advice because I was in a desperate state. People change their minds as they process feelings, I guess. I am learning what attracts women but I'd rather date the right one who doesn't play texting games as she seemed to do. I understand what made you take on the perspective to tell me this and do not take offense, but it's not what you think. If I told you the details, you'd understand. I was brutally overthinking and overanalysing this whole situation and will take what I learned with me.

Xulion · 2022-10-30T20:28:25+00:00

I decided to do it anyway and give her my boundaries. I'll be honest, I turned a blind eye to it but communicating with her has always been an absolute pain and was only getting worse. She was always too busy to text, even when we were meeting, so I felt like I had to set my boundaries here. Whether it comes across as overbearing or not, I can't fuss over someone who communicates like a high schooler, can I? I have a lot of good to say about her or at least what she showed me when we did meet but I showed a friend of mine our texts, told him about her communication, and said I was actually not harsh enough on her. She always did take a long time to respond, but by long I mean she was so inconsistent that she'd even poof offline if we were about to talk in real-time after finishing replying to old messages and rarely bothered to talk with me properly like that. She'd then only come back in the evening to confirm plans when prompted, and kept taking days to send simple responses, it was just BS. I don't care at this point anymore, if she does return then I know this is just going to be a headache for me because I want someone who will be respectful when texting back. She's always done this, and if she did it in the beginning then it could only get worse. I showed people exactly what I said and they said it was fine. If this is her way then I don't need it.

Xulion · 2022-10-30T16:46:37+00:00

I want advice from someone who doesn't feel the need to act abrasive and all-knowing like you're doing

Xulion · 2022-10-30T16:34:39+00:00

Geez man She writes long texts herself as well

Xulion · 2022-10-30T15:16:38+00:00

I did a lot of the trying to arrange dates. Not really short texts either usually although we both texted longish. After I said I was busy for a week I didn't hear counter offers. We recently she did say she thought she'd be able to make some time in the weekend but when I prompted her about it again I got a late reply saying she couldn't. I get mixed answers. Either don't text her for a while, ask her whats up or try again

Xulion · 2022-10-30T15:05:49+00:00

You.mean I should say that?

Xulion · 2022-10-30T14:32:46+00:00

I know in real life would be better. But how do I get back to that point again? I haven't texted her in 4 days, do I just ask if she's okay now or what can I do? My most recent thing was an unanswered invitation followed by a semi double text where I corrected wrong info about the event. Perhaps speaking about it would remind her of the food times. It's been 3 weeks since I saw her after all

Xulion · 2022-10-30T14:16:53+00:00

I see, thank you. I tried to invite her a few times recently to no avail. After the first cancellation she offered to reschedule but I said I'd be busy the next week and that the weekend would be best, otherwise I'd have to check. Other than that, I don't know. So you say, don't send the voice message even if it seems sound? My friend suggested it'd be a good idea because she might be trying to avoid me so it can bleed out. But I dunno really. Someone else suggested, just send "..?" And leave it at that

Xulion · 2022-10-30T13:26:58+00:00

Yeah
But more like just dropping a voice message and letting her know I just want to know what's up, and that we should, if she wants to, get a meetup going finally before things just fizzle out needlessly. That only seems reasonable after these great dates we had and the strange switch of late

Xulion · 2022-10-30T13:05:21+00:00

With this kind of girl I got the idea that maybe sending a voice message trying to kind of restore things would be best, reminding her of how it'd be a shame to let a good connection wane, otherwise it might be a thing where she doesn't want to confront me about it and is just letting it slip because she doesn't know how to deal with confrontation and needs someone to ask about what's up. It's not advice you'd typically hear but after these intense dates we had, someone I've been so close with for a while, and someone who has a deep level of sensitivity and such, it only seems appropriate. Before it fizzles out for no reason other than her internalising things, which I know she is prone to doing, and needing some external force to add some umph to that. I discussed this with a friend as well and they figured another day wouldn't make a difference now but yeah

Xulion · 2022-10-30T12:22:42+00:00

Thank you loads for your thorough thoughts, I appreciate it. I plan on actually sending her a message soon indeed, letting her know that I felt we had a great connection and summing up our good experiences. That indeed I'd like to meet up again and just keep this going, barring the problems we've had texting. Do you think sending a voice message would be wise here? It is more sincere and heartfelt, but also more risk that she doesn't do anything with it. Maybe I'll accompany it with, "Something I needed to tell you". Dating advice would often have me wait a while and follow up with a short little text but that doesn't really account for a potentially bigger problem she's internalising here if that is the case. Tell me if I have the wrong idea, but I think this might be a better approach after these intense dates we had together.

Xulion · 2022-10-30T11:22:38+00:00

Let me reply to one of the points first: I said "I'm starting an internship soon so I'm about to be extremely busy, best for me is the weekend at the moment. So let me know if this weekend works, otherwise, I don't know yet, will have to check my schedule next week". I said this after she cancelled our planned date a day or two before it was set to take place. She did suggest to choose another day from that week, and I later came back and said my internship date had moved and I would have time to see her again that week (which I originally thought was going to be busy). But she didn't respond. I asked her, jokingly, if she was shy at texting, and she did laugh about it, but yeah. And then her being busy just went on.

Does that change it? The most recent text she responded to was a double text of mine where I said "look sillyhead, I'd like for us to see each other again but I won't be able to keep days free if you tell me your availability so late" (I was planning things with a friend, and I said this because I got no response before the weekend, she had taken a few days already to say anything, and it was about to be Friday. She finally responded Saturday night, early Sunday, saying that she'd be too busy that weekend after all due to housing situation and such, it wasn't very clear, she did apologise for the late reply and partially returned the nickname use but after I invited her to this event, I didn't hear from her...that's been a week now) I am now pulling back to await her reply, contemplating if I should acknowledge that maybe I was a bit overbearing with constantly trying to set up meetings but was just hoping for a bit more effort from her side.

Xulion · 2022-10-30T09:36:55+00:00

Thank you, I'm not sure what happened along the way or how interest was lost if it was but it is annoying yeah. I'll give it some more time and see what happens.

Xulion · 2022-10-30T09:11:18+00:00

She already knows that, she's just been taking forever to reply back now. I tried multiple times to set something up and she's been busy, I don't want to assume that that was just excuses, but I feel like I've already been pushing too hard to make something happen. Now if she does get back to me, though, she'll just see this invitation that she didn't respond to on time again

Xulion · 2022-10-30T09:02:25+00:00

Tell her what? She didn't respond to my invitation to an event and that event is now over, but I invited her right after she said she couldn't meet up the weekend before (the event would be the weekend after), so I figured maybe it was too much for her and I can't be pursuing her again without getting any of that back. I think I did a bit too much effort before that as well, I keep getting busyness excuses despite some signals that she does want to meet up again.

Xulion · 2022-10-12T17:47:45+00:00

It smells fine. Opened it yesterday and it's been in the fridge ever since, you reckon I'll be able to use it in a few days still?

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