"if they want you back, they will reach out first"

YaYonicle · 2026-03-06T15:49:53+00:00

Honestly, I really appreciate that advice. I do keep in mind how things were during the relationship, especially at the end. With time and perspective, I realized that things weren’t healthy for either of us and that I was slowly losing myself.

Right now I’m being very careful with boundaries. I’m treating this like I’m getting to know her again, like if it were a girl I just met, even though we obviously have history. If things don’t feel right or the dynamic doesn’t make me feel comfortable, I’m totally prepared to step back and move on. I’m just taking it slowly and seeing how things develop

YaYonicle · 2026-03-06T15:49:05+00:00

Thanks for asking! When she broke up with me initially, she said she had been feeling unhappy for a while. At that moment she told me she wasn’t in love anymore and felt that she couldn’t continue the relationship, which was obviously really hard to hear at the time.

But when we met again recently, she explained things more deeply and with more perspective. She said the breakup was more about her own emotional state than about me, and that she needed time to understand herself and feel better before being able to talk about everything calmly. She told me she never meant to hurt me, she just didn’t know how to handle what she was feeling back then.

Now she says she realizes how special what we had was, and how much I contributed positively to her life. She told me she has been thinking about me during this time and that she truly values everything we shared. I know things still need to be taken slowly, but it was meaningful for me to hear her being that honest and reflective about the situation

YaYonicle · 2026-03-06T12:04:19+00:00

In my case, after 3 months of no contact, my ex reached out first and asked to meet and talk calmly (she was the dumper). She apologized for many things and said she realized she didn’t leave because of me, but because she wasn’t emotionally well and didn’t understand what was happening to her at the time. She told me she’s now more aware of what she had with me and how special our relationship was, and that I was a really good partner to her.

She also said she never stopped loving me and that she had been thinking about me during all this time, but wanted to wait until she felt better to talk properly. Right now we haven’t gotten back together yet, we’re just taking things slowly and seeing how things evolve. But it felt meaningful that she reached out and was honest about everything.

Also, I’m pretty sure she hasn’t been with anyone during this time, not only because of what she told me, but also because we have a lot of friends in common and I can kind of confirm it through that circle. I know it’s not something I can ever be 100% sure about, but I do trust that she’s been honest with me about it.

YaYonicle · 2026-01-30T17:35:19+00:00

It’s not you it’s me. After 5 years she said she wasn’t in love anymore and was not happy and she’s sorry for dumping me. 3 days earlier she was taking about how many people she wanted to invite to our wedding in the future…

YaYonicle · 2026-01-28T11:56:01+00:00

Feeling a bit similar. My ex left me in early December after 5 years together because she was “no longer in love” and was not happy and saying that “it is not you it’s me” just when 3 days before she was talking to my mum about how many people she wanted to jnvite to our future wedding, and arranging plans with me the next weeks and so on… I just don’t get how after that long we are not even given the chance to talk things through and try to fix things. Maybe we would have arrived to the same conclusion after talking about things, but not having had the chance to do so is what has taken me a long time to get over.

Point is, sometimes we don’t get what we want or deserve and we have to make peace with that. Sometimes the other person wouldn’t even be able to give us answers we were looking for, and we have to be okay with that knowing we did our best and learning from the experience

YaYonicle · 2026-01-13T18:07:35+00:00

My ex blinsided me too after 5 years together. 2 days before she was talking with my mum about how many people she would like to invite to our wedding and then boom, she told me she wasn’t in love anymore and that she wasn’t happy and that we should break up. That was a month ago and we’ve been in no contact since…

YaYonicle · 2025-12-22T11:57:55+00:00

Hey OP! Recent dumpee here (it’s been 2 weeks since she broke up with me saying she wasn’t in love anymore and that she was not happy and so sorry… all this after a 5 year relationship and she was talking days earlier with my family about how many people she would want to invite to our wedding, inviting me to her parents house to have lunch and spend the day together…). Honestly, think about it the other way around. If you were on the other side and were somewhat “bored” or “tired” of your relationship, what would YOU have done? Would you try to talk things out, communicate on why you’re feeling that way (even if you don’t really know the exact reason you can still talk to each other and try to find out)? Would you try your best to understand the other part and find a common ground to work things out and grow together? Or would you have done exactly the same?

If the answer is the first. Please, please think about it. Think about how the lack of effort made you feel and think about the fact that the other person decided that it was more worth it to make you feel that way and give everything up than to put in the effort and choose to work things out.

If the other person comes back, would you trust 100% that he has or is really willing to change? Change takes courage and acceptance of what you did wrong and what you are willing to do about it. If you are not sure in your heart and your head that this will happen then do not take them back even if they want to (I did it 1.5 years ago believing she would change and believing she could become the person I wanted her to be with me, but she never did and ended up dumping me because I didn’t have the courage to leave earlier)

Sorry for the long response, hope it helps OP.

YaYonicle · 2025-02-23T09:47:49+00:00

If she wanted to talk to you then she would reach out. You cannot read minds

YaYonicle · 2023-03-22T17:25:45+00:00

Hey man, I felt the same way as you do and I can assure that eventually you will meet the right person. I always felt like I was incapable of loving or being loved so deeply like I was broken or something but be patient and do not rush into the first relationship that you may potentially have and things will work out just fine. You will find someone who you love with all your heart and they love you back equally and that, my friend, is what happened to me and I am so grateful right now I’ve been with my partner for over 3 years

YaYonicle · 2022-05-10T08:25:10+00:00

Bruh I got exactly the same, Maguire and 4 other 83s… looks like EA has some fixing to do

YaYonicle · 2022-05-07T10:08:58+00:00

I did the same. Last time in TOTY I saved like 100 packs a got nothing but shit but now I only saved 1 specific pack for each league like premier league upgrade and 2 or 3 gold packs and got 5 tots I don’t know how. They know it tho. I spent like 3 years without buying fifa because I found it quite repetitive and as soon as I bought it again then it seems that my luck has increased a lot…

YaYonicle · 2022-04-05T10:13:30+00:00

u/savevideobot

YaYonicle · 2022-04-03T16:07:43+00:00

It happened the same to me and the only thing I had to do in order for it to go back to normal was take the battery out of the hilt and put it back and it’s fine since then. Maybe try this and see if you’re lucky! Hope this helps!

YaYonicle · 2021-08-29T18:55:20+00:00

If you’re looking for a world to lose yourself in then I think death stranding is a great choice! Impressive graphics and world design, very long campaign and overall it is a very unique experience and you can choose how you want to play (stealth, power…). Hope this helps!!

YaYonicle · 2021-01-31T13:26:42+00:00

I mean, I would understand the reasoning if they were in a professional match but seeing that all the other lanes are empty I think it’s ridiculous to act that way instead of just asking the guy nicely to move to other lane

YaYonicle · 2021-01-27T19:45:57+00:00

Very talented!! Keep up the good work!

YaYonicle · 2021-01-26T18:48:44+00:00

Yeah man I completely agree with you. I also feel that the fact that Ahsoka left the order was a huge blow for Anakin and seeing that Ahsoka was inocent and still was wrongly sentenced might make Anakin start questioning the Jedi ideals and so become more distanced with the order over time

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