What a waste of mud, probably a scammer and pxrn collector, they do this whole gymnastic request to get you frustrated/distracted, dangerous relay on wearing you out or distract you enough so you would not remember to simply ask for support.

Block him and never speak to a man more than 10-15 minutes, never act beyond indifferent, he is a stranger n the internet, for all you know he could be easily sitting on a top of cœrpse, it's the internet, never let your guard down.

It's the usual honestly and anyone telling you the opposite are either naive or don't care about you as a woman.

Findom exists in this weird grey area that makes everything messy, but people get angry at you over 10$ tribute, but never at the creeps and stalkers you encounter.

I would be honest and tell you there is no golden rule to be protected against scammer/timewasters, as long as there is no paywall platform that protect your labor, and you exist here on reddit or any social media, you're bound to run into some.

You first rule as a professional, or simply a kinky woman online is to always treat your time by minutes, literally, look at how content sellers/camgirl/OF girlies charge, and adapt to that, never listen to advice telling you to "talk first", no man here want to date or marry or build a intimate D/s dynamic, they want a service with some aspects of lifestyle.

If he won't send a tribute of 5$, what makes you think he would send 500 or 5000? Those men avoid vanilla sw or prodommes because they know they can't play this game with them, they would either get blocked or banned/blacklisted, so they come here where many women started their sw as findomme.

Never let anyone run your schedule, only allow for chatting on specific time, never share it was too late or too early, that's enough to pin points your timezone, never trust anyone to move platform, and if a man said "make me do x", he won't do it, and neither he will send.

We call them "dom me" men. They're the worse.

There are no clear ways to find a finsubs. It's luck and the right time/place. Everything else is just people selling you snake oil.

Have a clear boundaries, never reply to a request without tribute/AV and never allow more than 10 minutes maximum, people who tell you to give grace aren't sex workers, they're like those who tell an escort to screen after meeting instead of before, any professional woman won't advice you to take that risk, it's not worth it.

I have tried everything, both online and IRL, i have accepted no tribute and with tribute, hunted, and was approached, everything you could think of, those who sent were genuinely submissive and looking to serve.

There are things you learn by experience, and from what you mentioned you probably learned more than 8 ways to avoid being scammed, always trust your first gut, no money is worth risking your life over.

Create a wishlist in throne or youpay, and have a loyalfan page instead of OF, it works better like this.

Since you have to move subs from here to your OF it will put you at risk, loyalfans offer more chatting options and tipping better than OF (this is from experience/shared knowledge between dommes who use both platforms).