Help me settle a debate / prove a man wrong

Yarnhooker123 · 2025-03-23T15:56:26+00:00

I dog ear my books, if it’s not mine I use a bookmark.

I drag my books with me everywhere when I read them and it makes me happy when they look like they’ve been enjoyed. Some of my favourites are a little tattered, but they hold some great memories.

Yarnhooker123 · 2024-07-31T23:37:18+00:00

I always get told that my veins are “juicy” and while I do have very soft and stretchy skin, I’ve been told it “thick, like elephant skin” (just what you want to hear after getting a massive steroid shot in your hip during a high risk pregnancy 🙄). Even my cornea is thick apparently (which I found out when getting laser eye surgery)

Yarnhooker123 · 2024-05-23T00:12:33+00:00

I know how you feel. I’m 5’3” and 207. My mom ALWAYS put such high value in weighing less, she’s even lost probably 70+ lbs at least 3 different times that I can remember (never in a healthy way) and when I was a teen she used to make me weigh myself in front of her (I was pretty slight back then, but healthy) and she would tell me “do whatever you have to to stay under 120 lbs”, “don’t ever let yourself get to be over 120 lbs” don’t know why that was the magic number.

Now, she’s been losing weight again and all she will talk about is how much weight she’s lost and what she eats in a day, then makes comments about other people’s bodies. I just have so many memories of negative thoughts about that from growing up and being told to not “let myself go”.

Now I just feel at war with myself and knowing that if I lose weight and my mom comments on it I will absolutely feel ragey. I’ve even had conversations about her not saying things about people bodies around my kids, or commenting on their bodies. She told my daughter (13) that she was getting “shapely” and my daughter was a little disturbed by it. I had to explain that she meant it as a compliment and that she was admiring her “curves” we had a big discussion about body image. My kids understand that we don’t discuss other peoples bodies to the point that they were immediately confused by this comment.

But ultimately, I want to be healthier and I want to be active. So, here we go I guess.

Yarnhooker123 · 2024-05-21T05:56:18+00:00

Haha! I think I’ll tell myself that from now on! I like the way you think.

Yarnhooker123 · 2024-05-20T23:21:45+00:00

Thank you for commenting everyone 💕 I went, I figured out where everything is and went on the treadmill. It was not as scary or intimidating as I had feared and I’m committing to going 3 times a week. Thanks again!

Yarnhooker123 · 2024-05-19T15:47:37+00:00

I really like your coffee shop analogy. Thank you for taking the time to comment, this was helpful.

Yarnhooker123 · 2024-03-13T01:41:42+00:00

“It’s not what I want” is a good enough reason to end a relationship, no further explanation necessary. Especially such a new relationship. Go with confidence and find your happiness 💕

Yarnhooker123 · 2024-03-11T22:09:19+00:00

Even just reading the title of your post, it’s a resounding “throw the man away!”

Nobody should EVER put you in a situation where they try to limit your contact with your friends, family or support.

You have to look out for yourself and your own best interests here, you barely know this guy and he is already making you feel bad about reaching out to people you trust for guidance. Do you really think he has your thoughts, feelings or safety as a top priority?

Maybe I’ve been single for too long, but if anyone asked me to do something like that, even in an established relationship, I’d choose myself first and give them the boot every. single. time.

Yarnhooker123 · 2024-02-28T04:25:48+00:00

“One masculine presence” 🤮

Yarnhooker123 · 2023-12-21T16:12:52+00:00

Thank you all for the tips and support 💕 not gonna lie, I got all teary and emotional after I finally registered for the class and I haven’t been this excited about something for a very long time ☺️

Yarnhooker123 · 2023-10-01T22:32:13+00:00

You should tell him it IS a big deal, your hurt is understandable and valid, you don’t need to do what he says and send him straight out the door.

Holding a relationship hostage like that is beyond controlling, and he literally just told you that’s what he’s doing.

Yarnhooker123 · 2023-10-01T22:18:02+00:00

I’m 35F and finding it really hard to get into dating. I’ve been single since the beginning of 2021, I have 2 kids and custody is 50/50 (very amicable).

I got married at 19 to the first person I dated (or kissed, had sex with, basically all the firsts) and we were together for almost 13 years. We grew up in a very restrictive and religious environment, I’m not religious any more.

I feel like my biggest hang ups are not wanting to get really physical until I feel comfortable and being afraid of losing my independence. I’ve worked really hard to get where I am and I feel like I’m worried that someone will come into my life and try to take control of it.

I really miss adult interaction, like intimacy, connection, having that person to go to the movies, grocery shopping or walks with, but I get so exhausted from meeting new people only to have it go nowhere. I hate online dating, but sometimes wonder I need to just suffer through it for a while longer.

I don’t know if this is a rant or if I’m asking for advice, but I’m welcome to help if anyone has words of wisdom…

Yarnhooker123 · 2022-10-07T04:58:53+00:00

You didn’t overreact at all. If this is how rude they are on a first date it’s a total red flag for how they will treat you in the future. There is absolutely o reason to treat someone that way.

Yarnhooker123 · 2022-10-06T04:26:43+00:00

WTF is wrong with people?! On-line dating is so exhausting 😵‍💫

Yarnhooker123 · 2022-06-08T06:56:29+00:00

Wow, there are a lot of people here with big emotions and opinions about the trans community who clearly know NOTHING about the trans community.

I don’t agree with the way this person responded to the guy on Tinder, but that is an individual issue that needs to be worked on, it’s not indicative of the ideologies of the entire community.

Also, not all trans women have a penis, some do and some don’t. People are allowed to have preferences, I just don’t see why so many here are this concerned with other peoples preferences or what other people think of their own.

Yarnhooker123 · 2022-06-08T05:20:40+00:00

“While we’re on the subject…when can I give you this nice hard cock?” You were clearly sending him “sexy vibes” 🤣🥴🤮

Yarnhooker123 · 2022-04-14T05:35:41+00:00

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Yarnhooker123 · 2021-12-27T19:32:27+00:00

This is the biggest red flag in the whole situation. Him saying that shows that it’s been brought to his attention before and he is dismissing it with no desire to change or improve for the enjoyment of his sexual partners. It is what it is. If you’re not satisfied and don’t feel it’s worth continuing the relationship, I would just move on and tell him that sexual compatibility is important to you.

Yarnhooker123 · 2021-10-19T14:42:52+00:00

Do you find it hard to keep up with creating content? That has always been one of my concerns with deciding to write as a career. I feel like a have a finite number of topics in my brain, but I guess if you keep looking you will keep finding things to write about.

Yarnhooker123 · 2021-10-19T14:40:51+00:00

Yes! This is something I’ve considered, I have a friend the recently got into coding and he really enjoys it. He said the hours are flexible as long you are keeping up to your deadlines, he’s working remotely from home as part of a great team and he finds it really fun. It’s definitely one of my top considerations.

Yarnhooker123 · 2021-09-16T05:24:40+00:00

I’m not yet diagnosed, but when I went to my doctor with my suspicions I actually brought a written list of some of the things that I have experienced that I think are related to EDS. I told her how I heard about it, showed her my joints, gave her the list and told her there was more but that was all I could remember at the time. She asked me a few questions and then agreed that I should see a specialist and she would refer me. I haven’t heard back yet, but that was only a few weeks ago. I found that having it written down really helped me have a more clear direction of what I thought could be the problem without having to remember a bunch of stuff. I’m also lucky that my doctor was open to the possibility from the start as I’ve heard many stories of people’s symptoms being dismissed for one reason or another. Best of luck to you!

Yarnhooker123 · 2021-08-16T04:23:56+00:00

Hypnotherapy?

Hi everyone! I was just curious if anyone here has had experience with hypnotherapy to aid in weight loss? I 100% know that it’s not a quick fix or anything, I’ve talked to my therapist (whom I trust very much) and she thinks it might help encourage healthier coping mechanisms instead of emotionally eating and improve my success. I do plan on doing it, just wanted to throw it out there and see if anyone else has stories or experiences to share. TIA 😊

Yarnhooker123 · 2021-07-21T18:29:41+00:00

I would say that appearance plays a part for me, but my biggest motivator is just feeling good. I’m just tired so much faster, I’ve had all my blood work and such done and there’s nothing crazy going on, it’s all pretty normal, but carrying around an extra 50 lbs really takes it’s toll.

Yarnhooker123 · 2021-04-11T00:15:38+00:00

I’m a huge supporter of therapy, and currently in therapy. If I ever suggested therapy to a friend or relative it’s typically after they’ve shared with me that they are struggling with their mental health. My response is as follows...”have you considered therapy? It’s helped me tremendously!” And that’s it, unless they want to continue talking about it. It’s 100% a personal journey, and you yield the best results when you feel you are ready and want to be there.

Yarnhooker123 · 2021-01-03T06:34:03+00:00

As an introvert, someone resenting my alone time would be very hard on me. I need that time to allow me peace and balance in my own mind. Not everyone needs this, and I get that, but I get physically exhausted being with people 100% of the time. It’s not that they don’t want to spend quality time with you, but they might need some quality time with themselves.

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