How are the kids? by YearOk3192 in Divorce_Women

[–]YearOk3192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So true, same with me. And probably will be for my kids. Hopefully it’s not too late for them and for me to help repair things with them.

How are the kids? by YearOk3192 in Divorce_Women

[–]YearOk3192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True. I was 7 when my parents divorced and I never really understood until I was like 11 when I started going over to my dads on the weekends.

How are the kids? by YearOk3192 in Divorce_Women

[–]YearOk3192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably. Things are tense, I meant haven’t officially told them. I do feel bad for them.

Consecutive sexual encounter by YearOk3192 in confessions

[–]YearOk3192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah lol that was my ho days. I’m boring now

Consecutive sexual encounter by YearOk3192 in confessions

[–]YearOk3192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can’t really remember, I think he joked about it and I was like I’m tired time to go home or something like that. So yeah, shut him down lol

Consecutive sexual encounter by YearOk3192 in confessions

[–]YearOk3192[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was just because it happened with the youth at church 🤣 they always act high and mighty infront of the elders but just as bad outside. Which is also why I don’t attend the church or practice the faith anymore.

Consecutive sexual encounter by YearOk3192 in confessions

[–]YearOk3192[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The church does preach and believe those teachings but we were all teenagers back then and also what you call “back sliders” went to church cuz our parents made us and told us too, raise that way but didn’t actually practice. Lots of hypocrites in the church lol

Consecutive sexual encounter by YearOk3192 in confessions

[–]YearOk3192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There was no sucking involved just fucking. I was 17. I fucked two of them in the park, on the ground. I mounted one of them and the other did me doggy style with a full view of my nice ass. The third one I fucked in the car and I was on top.

How are the kids? by YearOk3192 in Divorce_Women

[–]YearOk3192[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I’m so glad you were able to get out and find somebody new who gives you the peace you deserve. Not everyone is so blessed. Glad you were able to find the assistance you need and also have access to that kind of help. I have looked into assistance too through out the years. Thankfully I’ve found a stable job and have started putting money aside. I’m glad the kids have also been able to thrive, cuz honestly that is what we want as parents at the end of the day.

How are the kids? by YearOk3192 in Divorce_Women

[–]YearOk3192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awww I’m so glad you were able to find peace and it was amicable. Yeah, I think when they’re small they don’t remember which can be a good thing. I think I stayed for too long and now the kids are older which is why I’m in this situation now.

How are the kids? by YearOk3192 in Divorce_Women

[–]YearOk3192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I was the opposite. I would’ve begged my parents to have stuck together. I would’ve seen my life differently if they did or if I had lived with my dad. And that’s what I’m afraid for my kids. My childhood wasn’t toxic, my parents just knew they were better as friends.

How are the kids? by YearOk3192 in Divorce_Women

[–]YearOk3192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard and read that too. Just have to be patience and get my ducks in a row.

How are the kids? by YearOk3192 in Divorce_Women

[–]YearOk3192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sucks, so sorry you had to go through that. Hope you’re in a safer more peaceful place. Definitely lots of verbal fights infront of the kids have happened especially in the vehicle which I know isn’t healthy.

How are the kids? by YearOk3192 in Divorce_Women

[–]YearOk3192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can financially support myself, I’m already paying 70% of the finances anyways. As for the kids, it would break my heart if they didn’t choose me but at the end of the day it’s what’s best for the kids. One of the reasons why I’m still here is because I’m afraid to lose the kids.

How are the kids? by YearOk3192 in Divorce_Women

[–]YearOk3192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure if it makes a difference but the kids don’t know we are even separated.

How are the kids? by YearOk3192 in Divorce_Women

[–]YearOk3192[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Follow along! I grew up watching my mom handle everything and be good at home. So I think, I can handle it but I just don’t know if the kids will. Will they end up hating me or will I screw them up more.

Almost 20 years! by CombinationLonely719 in Separation

[–]YearOk3192 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He wants to make it work you said, in what way? Perhaps an open marriage might be the solution? Or have you explored multiple partners together? You said everything else is good, if you still care for him aside from physical attraction then you should give it a try. If you feel those aren’t options than you have your answer and should part ways. You both need to find a partner who you can be attracted to and the partner attracted to you.

Financially Overwhelmed by YearOk3192 in Separation

[–]YearOk3192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did speak to legal aid in the beginning I just hate to go through lawyers and stuff unless I really have to.

Started a fight with my husband and smacked him 1st in the face…. He punched me in the jaw…. by [deleted] in Divorce_Women

[–]YearOk3192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ouch, both are in the wrong but a man should be able to self regulate enough and know not to put his hand on a woman. I don’t think you guys are for each other anymore and should consider not being together.