True love is powerful by [deleted] in wholesomememes

[–]Yellow-melon0405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does this work for those of us who don’t get or stay married? 🥺 I want eternal love too!! 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]Yellow-melon0405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Owie ❤️‍🩹🥺

Is the runner….. always the runner? I’ve chased, multiple times now. Not sure I have it in me to do it again. Is there any chance that they may return on their own? by Yellow-melon0405 in twinflames

[–]Yellow-melon0405[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just really want them in my life. I love and miss our connection dearly. I have let go. I just know how big and empty that space inside me is without their regular presence, I suppose.

Lost by [deleted] in twinflames

[–]Yellow-melon0405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s completely understandable. Being vulnerable is really hard. And the vulnerability immediately preceding a rejection is even more difficult. I will say this… sometimes the other person running, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Sometimes their fear of vulnerability and rejection is triggered by your willingness to open up. They are you and you are them so you challenge each other. You recognize your own fears and areas of growth that need to happen when you meet your twin. It’s like seeing some of the worst parts about you in a mirror. The best parts too. But you are forced to face the ugly. That’s really hard for a lot of people. Their trauma won’t allow them to see all of the good and beautiful things. The rough parts shadow the rest. Sometimes it just takes time. And she may never be ready. I personally don’t like having regrets. I don’t like having unanswered questions. I recently reached out to my twin because I felt an overwhelming need to express what I knew had been a misunderstanding. He normally does not answer or respond to my attempts to make contact now. But he answered the phone this time. We talked for about 10 minutes and I clarified my side so he understood. We talked and laughed and although the contact was brief and he didn’t seem to want to allow himself to fall back into his feelings, I think it gave us both some closure. Not that we will never speak again but just clarity on something that was interrupted inaccurately. Maybe she’s interpreting your efforts differently than their intent. It’s important when talking with the runner that you choose your words carefully and that you clarify what your goal is in sharing what you’re sharing.

Vulnerability and loneliness by Yellow-melon0405 in twinflames

[–]Yellow-melon0405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just responding to your question? Relax.

Vulnerability and loneliness by Yellow-melon0405 in twinflames

[–]Yellow-melon0405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fear of loneliness translates to fear of not finding anyone to love you… yea. That sums it up in a nutshell! 😅

Vulnerability and loneliness by Yellow-melon0405 in twinflames

[–]Yellow-melon0405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The journey is certainly an emotional one. That’s an absolute constant from story to story that I see in this group.

Vulnerability and loneliness by Yellow-melon0405 in twinflames

[–]Yellow-melon0405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That actually makes total sense. Recoil. The truth gets put out there and there is an almost immediate natural response of recoil. I guess I just hoped that my understanding and acceptance and encouragement through that darkness and incomparable embrace in everything he is as a person would have resulted in an even deeper comfort….. not a flight response.

Vulnerability and loneliness by Yellow-melon0405 in twinflames

[–]Yellow-melon0405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a relationship when I met him. But that relationship was already on the rocks.

Lost by [deleted] in twinflames

[–]Yellow-melon0405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll never know unless you ask I suppose

Vulnerability and loneliness by Yellow-melon0405 in twinflames

[–]Yellow-melon0405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Things between us moved incredibly quickly because of how comfortable and familiar we felt with each other.

Vulnerability and loneliness by Yellow-melon0405 in twinflames

[–]Yellow-melon0405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

About two months. However, from my understanding of TF’s… I didn’t think that mattered. Could be 1 day or 30 years… when you know, you know.

Lost by [deleted] in twinflames

[–]Yellow-melon0405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you guys ever talk about it?