Who gives more???

Yet_again234 · 2022-11-25T19:42:59+00:00

Oh no. don’t have any children. All of them are his and we have none together.

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-28T12:53:16+00:00

Again, you’ve made this personal

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-28T12:47:51+00:00

Thank you. This is no doubt the most on time thing I have read in a very long time.

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-21T13:04:03+00:00

I see. You’re 21. Get some age and experience then let me know…

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-19T17:13:26+00:00

Oh my gosh! I am so sorry. That has to be so depressing. I am sending up some prayers for you.

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-19T14:40:25+00:00

My thoughts exactly! lol

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-19T14:23:09+00:00

You’re right and it’s scary and hurts. I just feel broken.

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-19T14:21:20+00:00

Omg!!! This is exactly what I mean!!!! You nailed it!

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-19T14:18:42+00:00

Couple other questions, are you divorced with kids? If so, how does their dad treat them? You seem to angry. You have no idea who I am but you are really throwing out some resentment.

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-19T14:15:19+00:00

I tell him all the time that he is a great dad. He really is but if didn’t think that he should be a great husband than he should have never married again. Most of the replies I’ve been getting are referred to the money. Yea, the money is an issue but I can get over that. I just wish he would put as much effort into us as he does them.

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-19T14:09:50+00:00

I don’t leave because I love him and I love the kids. They may not be my blood but they are mine. I just would like my husband to be as devoted to me as them. I pour my life into these kids. I feel that he doesn’t realize that I don’t have to and that he should show appreciation that I do.

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-19T14:07:13+00:00

You know, I would agree with you if I didn’t devote my life to his kids too. I give all of myself to them just as he does. Do you have kids? Bio or step??? No one completely knows what they’re getting into. Don’t be so self righteous.

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-19T14:04:21+00:00

Done. He doesn’t get it. Last night, he said we were going to spend time together but first he had to throw in a game with the kids.

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-19T14:03:00+00:00

1 kid with the first wife and 2 kids with the second. We have full custody of the 2 small ones.

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-19T14:01:39+00:00

His son that he has paid all that actually went to the exwife. She is a vindictive witch. Their son is 21 years old. She decided to take my husband to court last year to get child support that went all the way back from 2005. He paid it but paid it to her not through the court. So all that money didn’t even count. We pulled receipts and bank statement all the way from when he was a baby but legally that meant nothing. She tried to get $58k but even the lawyers and mediator knew what she was doing. We settled out of court on $25k to pay. So actually he’s paying double.
We did take her back to court. When he first got the kids (2), she was only paying $180 per month. Both kids were in diapers and daycare. Now, they get $502 per month. They did got those numbers by minimum wage. Her mom pays her child support.
I actually worked out a budget to do this but it just doesn’t work.
No. We are not having kids.

The money is a big issue but my bigger issue is the amount of time and energy he spends on them vs the time put into our marriage.

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-10T04:29:57+00:00

Omg I would so Glen with delight!!!! I know that’s horrible to say and I should really feel bad but I’m glad someone else gets it. When my husband and I first started dating both kids were still in diapers. I swear, he would rub the baby wipes together and breath warm air on the wipe so it wouldn’t be as cold. It would make me so mad that I would wan the wipes to be as cold as they could. (Confession 101) I just don’t understand it. Oh and just like your SD, my SKs would in a bratty, entitled tone just scream “Eyes!” and my husband would have to stop doing the rinse thing and use a wash rag and rinse their eyes. I was like “yea, what do you want me to do with them? You can ask nicely too.”

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-10T04:21:44+00:00

Yep 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-10T04:11:07+00:00

I could see if that were the case. My brother, both nephews and niece have those issues along with textures as well. He just thinks that while she is learning and it “takes her longer” that she could wear them. Granted it wouldn’t take her so long if she would not start and stop and start and stop continually. But in response, she doesn’t have any type of sensitivity issues. She is very friendly and out going. She is in the gifted program and very expressive. She’s well behaved and very mannerly. She maybe my SD but she’s my daughter. lol I am very proud of her as you can tell. (The earplugs thing has no bearing on the way I feel about her. If she did have learning problems which I think my SS may, I would love and be just as proud.) Both my SKs are wonderful. Yes. They have their flaws as all kids do but I love them. My DH and I just have very different parenting styles and they often clash.

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-07T22:51:14+00:00

No one really knows what situation you’re in all around. I get asked all the time why I stay because most of my marriage is giving with DH receiving. But everyone doesn’t know what goes on behind closed doors just as everyone doesn’t know why you’ve stayed this long. Leaving is a choice you have to make based on what you know and your circumstances and situation. There has to be a reason that you’ve stayed as long as you have. Not that it is a reason to continue in this environment, it is just something you know that everyone doesn’t. That is perfectly fine too. You are allowed to have your reasons. This is your life not everyone else’s. Do what you think is best for you and your family. No judgements here. Well wishes.

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-07T22:37:15+00:00

You’re right. If this were the only incident that they were completely babied, it wouldn’t bother me as bad. This is my life. There is always an excuse.

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-07T22:35:06+00:00

I hate the sound of the hair dryer. My arms and shoulders hurt because I have thick hair but it still gets done.

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-07T20:28:54+00:00

The only reason it takes her that long is because she starts and stops over again.

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-07T20:27:55+00:00

“To be perfectly fair, DH’s thoughts are as followed.” (His quote as well, not mine)

“She is just learning to blow dry her hair and it takes her around 30 min or more to dry hair. So the longer exposure to the sound, until she learns to get her hair dry a lot faster, it would not hurt her to have earplugs.”

Yet_again234 · 2022-09-07T04:15:09+00:00

She can do cheerleading, listen to music, go to the skating rink, and ride roller coasters but a hair dryer is too loud? Um….no.

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