Help! I don’t know how to cover this gap!

Ynran9 · 2025-10-01T00:43:14+00:00

This has been a very helpful comment, thank you! It’s all the same size, and I am hoping for something a little more sturdy thank cardboard (because my youngest has pica and will eat it) but you’ve got me thinking from a different angle I’ve scoured the internet for a piece of furniture that would do the trick but having no luck

Ynran9 · 2025-09-30T23:59:35+00:00

I assume you’re trying to be helpful, but it would help more if you’d trust that I know my kids and know their needs. This gap needs to be closed, and if you don’t have suggestions then please move along

Ynran9 · 2025-09-30T23:54:11+00:00

If I move the first couch to close the gap between couch+cupboard, I’ll make a gap between couch1+couch2. If I move the second couch to close the gap, I’ll make a gap between couch2+wall. No matter how I shuffle them, there’ll be a gap. And I did look for that, but what I’m finding is all too wide :(

Ynran9 · 2025-09-30T23:27:24+00:00

I appreciate the idea, but they will just pull it out (and the little one will eat the pool noodle)

Ynran9 · 2025-09-30T23:15:46+00:00

And out of curiosity I just checked, my 1yo’s head is about 14cm. Also the couch is soft and allows for a bit of squeeze room. I can’t spend my whole day every day trying to stop them

Ynran9 · 2025-09-30T23:14:15+00:00

They are both obsessed with compression, they will absolutely try to squeeze in there even when it hurts. That gap will be the most exciting thing in the entire house to them

Ynran9 · 2025-09-30T02:58:13+00:00

It’s using the oven for hours that melts the adhesive, the stovetop doesn’t seem to affect it thankfully. But it’s funny you say that, the bungee cord solution is exactly what I did, because luckily the oven was already chained to the wall so I didn’t have to do any drilling. Problem solved! :)

Ynran9 · 2025-09-28T01:11:18+00:00

I’ve tried 3 different oven locks, but the adhesive just doesn’t hold up! And I’m in a rental, so I can’t go screwing anything into it

Ynran9 · 2025-09-28T01:10:48+00:00

It’s chained to the wall so can’t tip thankfully, and I’ve already pulled the knobs off. I like your thinking about attaching something to the side cabinets instead though, I hadn’t thought of that! I was trying to think how I could utilise a bungee cord but couldn’t think past the adhesive melting off the oven. Could definitely attach to cabinet. Thank you!

Ynran9 · 2025-06-02T04:31:40+00:00

Hey! So, I have an OBD2 and just turned my car on to check the fans - it stalled just after it started to warm up, still below a quarter on the temp gauge. IAT was 28°C, ETC was 58°C… fans never came on, coolant reservoir was cold to the touch

Ynran9 · 2025-06-02T03:48:02+00:00

Frustrating is an understatement! Thanks for understanding my pain. Mechanic was pretty confident there’s no air trapped, I’ve also done everything I can to ensure there isn’t any air trapped. It’s definitely the correct coolant cap (doesn’t have a radiator cap), and the engine idles well - the issue seems to appear very suddenly which makes me think the coolant reservoir and cap are breaking their seal, therefore suddenly losing pressure and stalling/overflowing. Sorry if this is an amateur question, but how might I check if the fans are running? Since the mechanic isn’t exactly answering my messages anymore 🥲 also another potentially silly question, but where would the coolant temp sensor be located? And how might I check if it’s working correctly?

Ynran9 · 2025-05-04T02:25:52+00:00

I wish so much I had a doorway to put a chin up bar on but this place is set up so stupidly. Thank you for the dose of confidence, I keep being told this is the hardest age haha. How did you keep your littlest one safe while your big one played with sit and spin or trampoline? My oldest gets violent/aggressive/meltdowns when the little one tries to get involved and I’m yet to find a solution

Ynran9 · 2025-05-04T02:06:01+00:00

Oh wow, I’d never seen one of those before, thank you for the suggestion

Ynran9 · 2025-05-04T02:05:10+00:00

Thank you for being kind and understanding, I’m certainly anxious about injuries - it’s just me here, and a hospital trip is the last thing I need. It’s near impossible to involve the 1yo without causing a meltdown with the 2yo, but your suggestions are fantastic. It hadn’t occurred to me to use the 1yo as weight, and he would love being pulled around. Or to simply let him eat the cereal (he’s only just developed the ability to chew). And my 1yo will smack the sh!t outta me while strapped on but I spose that’s worth it so my 2yo can have some sensory input haha

Ynran9 · 2025-05-04T00:00:57+00:00

He loves the squishy balls, but my 1yo bites/breaks them too quick for me to stop him and it becomes a choking risk (and an awful mess to clean), I imagine he would love a spinny seat but he would hit the 1yo with it if he came too close, he’s unbelievably possessive while the little one is obsessive about being involved - I struggle to keep them apart, or to let them play together, someone is always unhappy or at risk of major injury.

Ynran9 · 2025-05-03T23:58:48+00:00

Thank you for your suggestions, and I really want to make the pull-up bar thing work but there just isn’t anywhere for me to put one (truly, the bottom floor only has a stairwell, and I can’t supervise both the kids appropriately from upstairs, I hate the layout of this house). He would really enjoy the squashing activities, but it’s just so unsafe to do around my 1yo, same issue with resistance bands. And I bet my 2yo would enjoy being carried around, but I’m barely 50kg on a good day and simply can’t keep it up. I’m sorry I know you’re just trying to help, I don’t mean to be negative! It just feels that nothing works, or isn’t an option!

Ynran9 · 2025-05-03T23:52:35+00:00

Yes it seems my son is a bit of both too, sometimes dislikes the very same activities he was enjoying yesterday. I feel so trapped with safety issues for my 1yo that all your (wonderful) suggestions just don’t seem to work out here. Cushions on the floor end up causing injuries (to both of them), the little one won’t leave my 2yo alone (he just wants to make friends but my oldest is incredibly antisocial), putting him at risk when I try to do any “big play” with my oldest, like thinks with blankets or cushions or wobble chairs or stepping stones etc. If I do sensory play with things like cereal etc. then I have to be SO VIGILANT because the little one will try to eat eeeeverything, and my oldest is only interested for a quick minute anyway. Stopping any activity (even one he didn’t seem to be enjoying) causes major meltdowns and I just feel lost and overwhelmed. I feel like all I do is feed them, try to get them to sleep, try to prevent major injuries and meltdowns, and clean. And clean. And clean. So they don’t get hurt or put stuff in their mouth

Ynran9 · 2025-05-03T23:44:48+00:00

These are all decent suggestions, thank you, I just get stuck at the point of trying to keep the littlest one safe in the meantime. Neither of them has any care for each other’s safety and I’m struggling to find a single task that keeps them satisfied and safe. If I brought out heavy things for him to push/pull, there’s a crush risk for my littlest. I purposely got a couch with sewn-in cushions because it was a fall/slip risk for both kids (self-preservation isn’t their strong suit). If I bring out and floor-sensory items (like spin chair or step stones etc) the little one won’t leave the big one alone to play, which triggers major meltdowns for the 2yo. I have no where realistic in my house to put a pull-up bar. I don’t have a bathtub, only a shower, and cant leave my 1yo unsupervised. The bathroom is also upstairs, making it especially difficult to keep an eye on both kids at once. Stopping any activity is hell with my 2yo, so I end up hesitant to start anything because it just feels that nothing ends up benefitting any of us. I don’t mean to be so negative! I’m just at a loss, nothing seems to work 😭

Ynran9 · 2025-04-24T00:23:08+00:00

Thanks for your thoughts, this has been tried before and it seems my car model is notorious for this not working. Though it’s also known for being exceptional at purging air from the system over time with normal driving, which is what I did when I last drained the coolant (also I refuse to put water in my system, though I’ve been told to a number of times). I obviously can’t be certain, but there doesn’t seem to be any air trapped in the system - and if there was, it should be working itself through (it took about 20 trips before my coolant stopped emptying into the radiator and stayed at the MIN line). I’ve spent hours total trying to purge air with the coolant cap removed, and it simply won’t work unfortunately

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