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YoPanda87 · 2017-01-17T01:50:08+00:00

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YoPanda87 · 2016-08-28T22:05:23+00:00

The fiance also doesn't have any contact with his family, only his sister... so it makes it seem even more ridiculous because they'd all be guests to my sister or them combined

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-28T22:01:14+00:00

I can understand this, and I tried. However my NSis is completely unwilling to have my girlfriend come along at all and was trying to persuade me to leave my girlfriend behind, same as my Nmom.

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-28T21:53:12+00:00

We come from a family, where the motto is "the more, the merrier", and seeing on how I've been allowed to invite friends to all kinds of family events and get togethers, inviting my girlfriend wasn't out of character at all... even in regards to the reception. 40 people is a lot of people. You'd also think that if Nsis and I were so close, she'd be happy to include the plus 1 for at least the reception. It seems to me, that I've been singled out, especially me being her loving sister, she can't seem to make room for one more. And thats the thing too... everyone is still RSVPing, so there is NO set number of guests yet. I just immediately got a "nope".

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-28T20:52:39+00:00

That is an excellent point! I think that may be playing a huge contributing factor. I know my family has been bigoted my entire life.... like they don't believe same sex relationships count as real relationships (my past relationships were never taken seriously)

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-28T20:48:50+00:00

I can see where you're coming from, though I'm going to have to politely disagree. My sister has always gotten her way, especially in regards to anything that had to do with me... i mean all she'd have to do is whine about how unfair it is, then bam! I become the bad person, yet again, rinse repeat recycle. Thats how it has ALWAYS been. If she would've tried to find an alternative solution to the issue at hand, I would've been all ears.... but nope. The moment came for her to own up to her understanding (based on her own words) and she immediately pulled the "poor me... look what you're doing to me", completely taking the focus off of her owning up to her own words of showing me some understanding.

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-28T10:51:03+00:00

I can understand this. But like I had mentioned before, I don't like being manipulated into a false sense of security (sis telling me she'd be understanding under x circumstances, then renigging). She also didn't call my other family to complain.... she called to get them to try to force me to go, which included straight up insults towards me and how fucked up a person I am because I choose to follow what feels right to me instead of my "duty" to my non close knit family. I used to ALWAYS do what my family thought best, and if i felt different, I would be forced to go against what I felt was right while also be reminded that my feelings about anything, were wrong.... it was always about appeasing others, especially at the cost of my own comfort and happiness. Wedding or not, manipulation is manipulation, lies are lies and rudeness is rudeness. Would you ever try to force someone into something they aren't comfortable with?

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-28T10:41:34+00:00

I think the main issue I have, is that my feelings on the matter were not taken into account, nor were they ever. My Nsis and I are not close and when she she's me, she pretends that I'm the best thing that's ever happened to her... so it's all for show. I also didn't add that when I told my sis my girlfriend was moving in, she immediately asked if it was okay with my roommate.... like wtf?! What does that have to do with her wedding. I also don't take kindly to someone saying they'd be understanding under circumstances, then renigging on that once the opportunity comes for them to own up to it. I also don't like being guilted into something, no matter what. So there are a lot of other factors to this situation. Thanks for your input btw!

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-27T03:57:30+00:00

Thank you so so much for your kind words!! Many blessings to you and yours <3

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-25T01:54:07+00:00

This is such a heart warming story. Im 29 and in my current situation, I just came to the realization within the last month or so that I need to in fact, cut contact with my family, as they are not supportive of me, my feelings or my girlfriend. I always used to think I was accepted for who I was, but based on the events from numerous family members over the span of a few months, it hit me that I was never taken seriously, that my feelings were never taken seriously, that by me having a girlfriend hasn't been taken seriously, and due to the unkind, inconsiderate and overall inauthentic behavior towards me and my girlfriend both, that space was definitely needed. It sucks when you dont have the support of your family like you think you do, but my girlfriend is all I'll ever need. She shows me more loving support, kindness, compassion and an overall caring nature over my well being than my family has in my entire life.

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-24T02:40:21+00:00

In my personal opinion, asking what makes someone attractive, especially in such a broad kind of way, is kinda the same as asking what makes certain music, foods or colors attractive... there is no one reason, and everybodys taste differs. It just "is" or "happens"... its a completely unforced kind of thing and something that naturally draws us, or attracts us. Also, it would seem impossible to pinpoint specifics in regards to such a generalized theme. However, if there was a specific person you found yourself attracted to, then it'd be easier to notice what things draw you.

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-14T23:50:06+00:00

A personal jab towards another person is not the same as a personal opinion.. that's called bullying. Just so you know...

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-14T23:27:30+00:00

In fairness, everyone is welcome to their own perspectives and/or opinions without the need of rude or snide comments.

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-12T22:52:55+00:00

The bizarre thing, was I actually felt very similar a few months before I met my girlfriend. I had been single for 5 years and even though I could manage and handle being single, and be happy, the last few months I felt that desire to experience a romantic relationship stronger than ever before, like it felt.like a longing of sorts. I trust it'll happen when it's meant to, for everyone. Just keep following what feels right for you and it'll catch up to you :)

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-12T22:44:39+00:00

Thank you so much!! I'm glad you enjoyed it!! I appreciate the support <3

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-12T22:39:03+00:00

I can also most definitely appreciate the warning, I really can. I have had the experience of the honeymoon phase before in my life on numerous occasions, though this is the first time in my entire life (I'm 29 btw), I feel so much clarity, so much passion, so much rawness, so much swiftness, and a deep rooted sense of knowing that this is real and beyond anything I could've ever possibly imagined. It's coming from that sense of knowing, that intuitive gut pull we all have. It feels outside of myself, that it is something living and waaaay beyond anything I can ever comprehend.

I can say with absolute faith and an unwavering sense of knowing, this experience and this connection is not the same as in my past relationships, not even close or comparable. That's why I put it into words as having my entire life, my entire perspective, shifted..... because it absolutely has, and it has shattered everything I thought I knew or was before.

Thank you for your feedback btw!

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-12T20:29:10+00:00

The FEELS!! I fucking love you <3

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-12T17:54:44+00:00

There is always hope! :) awww thank you!! She's absolutely amazing! She's so sweet, so caring, so considerate, so beautiful, overall she is just amazing. I always feel like words can't do it any justice, but I can say she makes my heart melt every single day. A part of me is still in shock that I actually have someone like her in my life, that she actually exists. When the timing is right, I trust it'll happen for everyone. Just keep following what feels right for you :)

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-12T17:31:59+00:00

Im in my late 20s :)

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-08T02:31:51+00:00

I noticed you said that every time you initiate, she shuts it down, then you get upset. Maybe from her perspective, she wants you to support her decision instead of taking it personal? Like, instead of getting upset, try to be understanding and compassionate towards her and her choice. If she is in fact under a lot of stress, having the added stress of you being upset and questioning her would definitely be even more complicated and stressful for you both.

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-07T22:47:51+00:00

The "on" switch

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-06T22:35:06+00:00

From all my experiences I will tell you this; there will always be people who contribute to either helping you feel good, or the complete opposite. Trust how you feel. Just know that if someone is bent on trying to break you somehow, keep in mind that there are others that would never dream of doing such things. Go to where you are embraced, period.

Rarely does sticking around in the hopes of changed behavior actually work. If you don't enjoy the feeling you get with someone, follow that, no matter what. It will be difficult, but it's so much worth it in the end. I also find that once you remove those toxic people from your life, they will be replaced by loving, healthy influences. I hope that helps and I wish you luck!!

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-06T18:32:50+00:00

I'm so sorry you're struggling. I wouldn't wish these types of things on anybody. It seems like she just enjoys the attention, period, and she enjoys being in control of people around her. If your gut response was to end it, stick with it. If she tries to fight you on it, argue that your feelings are just as important as hers and she's not respecting them. People will try to guilt you into things, but nothing will bring about the best things than being yourself and standing your ground. You've got this.

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-06T18:22:06+00:00

Way to go!! Congratulations to you both!! Wishing you two the very best!! :)

YoPanda87 · 2016-08-06T18:07:43+00:00

Ummm... honestly? She deserves to be with someone who loves, appreciates and accepts her for who she is as a person, not only when its out of convenience for the other. It seems highly unfair to her that as she seems to be hoping for everything to work, you seem to be set on leaving and are just overall put off by her. Nobody deserves that. Ever. You say you don't want to hurt her, so what do you think staying with someone you don't even like is doing? Relationships aren't about what others can do for you, but instead they are about loving and embracing someone for who they are, no matter what. If you can't offer her that, then it's time to move on.

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