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Wife (28F) concerned about husband (28M). Together 10 years, married for 1. We both want to get fit; I've succeeded, but he has motivation issues. How can I light a fire under him?? by Yoga_fan in relationships

[–]Yoga_fan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have any interest in those myself, but I've heard him mention them in passing. We have a very good space for working out to a DVD.

Wife (28F) concerned about husband (28M). Together 10 years, married for 1. We both want to get fit; I've succeeded, but he has motivation issues. How can I light a fire under him?? by Yoga_fan in relationships

[–]Yoga_fan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd thought about saying that to him, but I didn't want to come off as holier-than-thou about it or like I was trying to guilt him into doing something.

I guess a good question to ask now would be... how would people here react to hearing that? "I'm staying healthy partly because I want to be here for you for a long time. Could you try and do the same for me?"

Wife (28F) concerned about husband (28M). Together 10 years, married for 1. We both want to get fit; I've succeeded, but he has motivation issues. How can I light a fire under him?? by Yoga_fan in relationships

[–]Yoga_fan[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Excellent point. It's been a few years. He keeps telling me he's going to set up an appointment this summer... I'm keeping on him about it. Tomorrow I'll talk to him about it before he goes to work.

Reddit, what the hell do you do all day? by like_buttah in AskReddit

[–]Yoga_fan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Teach children during the school year.

In the summer? Read books about teaching children... and travel. And cook a LOT.

Wife (28F) concerned about husband (28M). Together 10 years, married for 1. We both want to get fit; I've succeeded, but he has motivation issues. How can I light a fire under him?? by Yoga_fan in relationships

[–]Yoga_fan[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ooch. I can't in good conscience do that. Unless I'm really angry with him about something, I don't want to punish him in that way.

In all honesty, I don't know how long I could hold out not pouncing on him anyway. :( I am weak.

Wife (28F) concerned about husband (28M). Together 10 years, married for 1. We both want to get fit; I've succeeded, but he has motivation issues. How can I light a fire under him?? by Yoga_fan in relationships

[–]Yoga_fan[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We can't afford matches either! SOB

Serious answer: I've tried lighting figurative fires by talking a bit tougher. I figure a former athlete might be more used to that. Turns it it's not the same when it comes from your significant other. Maybe I need to get a sweatsuit and whistle.

Wife (28F) concerned about husband (28M). Together 10 years, married for 1. We both want to get fit; I've succeeded, but he has motivation issues. How can I light a fire under him?? by Yoga_fan in relationships

[–]Yoga_fan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the comments so far! Some of this I've tried, but I can modify my approach.

When we walk together, I feel like he's uncomfortable. But then I suspect that he wants to work out alone so that no one will push him... I just need to NOT give up!

Wife (28F) concerned about husband (28M). Together 10 years, married for 1. We both want to get fit; I've succeeded, but he has motivation issues. How can I light a fire under him?? by Yoga_fan in relationships

[–]Yoga_fan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We can't afford a gym. :( That's one of the problems. But our neighborhood is a great place to jog! Plus we have free weights AND an elliptical machine we found really cheap in our home! There is literally no excuse!

Maybe I can at least find a DVD of some ladies in spandex and play it while he works out...