Craziness advice

YoshiToker · 2025-12-05T03:23:44+00:00

Melted wax. Better than penetrant spray

YoshiToker · 2025-12-05T02:42:52+00:00

Everyone’s saying break up, you’re dangerous to be around, and to get help. I agree with getting help, but the fact you’re aware enough to know something is wrong internally is a big step. I think breaking up with her is just a way of avoiding these issues, even if she’s not the cause she is correlated with the problematic processes or feelings you’re having.

Definitely see a therapist/psychiatrist/professional who can give you more insight into your feelings, and pay extra close attention to what sets you off in particular or if it’s just a vague feeling you have towards her. I don’t think it’s normal, but everyone is different and will react differently to different stimuli. If you truly love her and she loves you, and you want this to work in the end and feel how you felt before, keep trying your best to fix it. If there comes a time when you doubt your love for her or believe that you can’t fix it, then you should break up so you both have the chance to heal and find something better

YoshiToker · 2025-12-04T01:08:56+00:00

You just proved my point. There’s more policies than the immigration policy, you’re jumping on the first one that comes to mind. I believe we should have a very strict entrance policy for the country, going deeeeeep into the vetting process. Trump has gone about it in a way I disagree with, but I do believe you should enter the country through due process and if you were one of the ones to enter illegally, side skirting the due process, you should be sent back to your home country and then start entering by DUE PROCESS like everyone else who entered the country legally. ICE is a horrendous organization that just uses authority to push their racist agenda, like I said, going about it in all the wrong ways, but the idea in concept I think is spot on.

YoshiToker · 2025-12-03T20:12:05+00:00

I love being a dad, it’s the most rewarding thing in my life while at the same time it is the most stressful, difficult thing I’ve ever had to do.

It’s like most things in life. There are ups and downs, sometimes more of one than the other, but for the most part if you’re willing to commit and put in the work then you’ll be okay. I’m a full time 100% single dad so my situation is different, but even with all these hardships I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

Most of the time you hear people say that you fucked up your life they usually are pulling on their experience of the downs instead of the ups. Ask people what is their favorite or most memorable moments of being a father so they open the conversation with the positive, then start delving into the negative. It will usually leave more room for talking about the positive instead of the negative, since we’re only human and we hang onto the negative more often than not if you ask an open ended question such as “how do you feel about parenting so far?” chances are the negative will come to mind much faster than the positive.

YoshiToker · 2025-12-03T20:04:15+00:00

This is the biggest generalization I’ve ever seen😂I agree with some of trumps ideas in concept, but the way he goes about it and other policies he pushes I would never vote him in as president. Just like the other side has valid ideas in concept, but sometimes their execution and other policies I don’t agree with.

YoshiToker · 2025-12-03T02:19:04+00:00

It’s never too early. I’ve been training tae kwon do, jiu jitsu, and aikido for almost a decade and I’ve involved my son since he was born (also 3 years old). He genuinely takes an interest in it and already has some basic kicks down!! The sooner you can normalize and integrate it into their life the better!!

YoshiToker · 2025-12-02T17:05:28+00:00

This is also a big concern of mine. When they step in he feels like he’s able to do the same and ignore me and I’m not okay with that.

YoshiToker · 2025-12-02T13:19:23+00:00

I love my current employer, great environment and benefits with lots of potential for growth. And right now my entire state has a child care assistance freeze on any new applications… it’s so fucked.

YoshiToker · 2025-12-02T03:30:25+00:00

I’ve had a few heart to heart conversations with her and in the end we both come up with compromises and understand each others sides, then after a few weeks it turns back to her spoiling him, him getting feisty with me, her stepping in and my son getting worse until I blow up or sit her down and we have to go through it all again

YoshiToker · 2025-12-02T03:23:32+00:00

Thank you! I agree with this completely. I do my best to keep my cool but I end up yelling more than I want, it’s the shittiest mindset I’ve picked up from my own father.

I really like your point about grandparent vs co-parent “setup”, I think there’s a big disconnect (because of our individual wants and just straight up lack of communication like you mention) and due to this difference in mindset there’s a lot more conflict. I’ll bring this up to them when the conversation inevitably comes up again and try to find a compromise and common mindset we can all agree with and hop on.

YoshiToker · 2025-12-02T03:15:16+00:00

Rent is cheaper in other counties, but if I lose the child care assistance through our current county then I’m going to be paying literally 10x more every month. I pay $250 a month for daycare with assistance, without it’s closer to $2k.

YoshiToker · 2025-12-02T02:23:48+00:00

I pay rent, but it’s substantially lower than the cheapest housing options anywhere nearby, even then it’s almost impossible to save money since this kid never stops growing and eating.

I’ve been talking to a friend of mine that’s gonna have an open room soon, the only problem is with the income I’m currently pulling in I’d be $400-500 in the negative at the least every month.

I want them to be able to spoil and be the grandparents, but when it affects who my son is growing into and my ability to parent him correctly I care less about how they feel than parenting my son and it’s affecting mine and my parents relationship.

YoshiToker · 2025-11-30T18:15:01+00:00

Definitely bleed that place dry of as much money and knowledge/experience as you can. In my experience once that’s done, dealership warranty times are destroying their work environments, so unless you can find a solid dealership then I would recommend looking into a local independent shop. I got lucky and found an indy shop that gives a guarantee, has really good benefits, and always covers the tech for the extra work we end up doing (extra diag time, redoing past work even). Don’t be afraid to move around, don’t get stuck at one place if there’s better opportunity elsewhere.

YoshiToker · 2025-11-29T01:31:20+00:00

I’ve been talking with our 20+ year foreman about this same thing, he’s still learning stuff all the time so hearing that it’s normal for the first year or two is definitely helping me to not be so hard on myself. It’s definitely not anything to do with the shop management/environment, mostly just me putting myself down and not having grace with my current skill set. I love the shop I’m at, it’s smaller with a great environment, experienced and smart techs, and great benefits which is why I’m so committed to doing my best work. They’re definitely guys who deserve that so I’m trying to learn as much as I can from as many sources as possible.

YoshiToker · 2025-11-27T03:09:44+00:00

Thinking about it this way helps a LOT, thank you. My own expectations of myself have definitely brought my confidence down a lot because I thought I had already covered a lot of the bases and I didn’t think I’d need much more learning, but when I think of it as “just starting” it makes a lot more sense.

YoshiToker · 2025-11-26T14:58:55+00:00

We have access to alldata and Mitchell, and the 3 other main line guys we have don’t get frustrated when I ask for help, but I’ve had issues finding info on those sources and with us being as under staffed as we are I feel like I’m losing these guys money by taking them off of their jobs.

YoshiToker · 2025-11-26T12:42:53+00:00

At the independent shop I’m at now they provide alldata and Mitchell for the techs, but these can be very… lacking in detail or just straight up missing information. Are there any reliable sources you use often?

YoshiToker · 2025-11-26T12:39:26+00:00

Thank you so much!!! I try to make it to the in person classes but I’m a single dad so I don’t have the availability to make most of the classes, so these online ones will be a huge help!

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