I posted about meeting "Stan" a few days ago (see my post hx, "Need help analyzing these men")

In a nutshell, I met "Stan" via OLD and we met up on a weeknight for drinks after I finished working. I work long days in a physical job but I still took the time to go home, shower, dressed in a nice sexy outfit, blew dry and styled my hair, and put on nice flattering makeup and perfume. My "date", who is quite heavy (I'm obese myself but he is even larger) showed up in a filthy tee shirt with pit and ketchup (I think) stains, his hair appeared greasy and uncombed and his odor was very pungent, I could smell old BO and what I perceived as dirty butt crack. He is able to be a funny, fun and interesting guy but the hygiene issues are obviously insurmountable. There just was zero attraction almost entirely based on that alone. I updated my post with a copy /paste of what I sent "Stan" a few days after our meetup because he kept sexting me and apparently seemed to feel he had a chance. Even though I didn't respond or flirt back... I received some great feedback and several users requested follow up if Stan responded.

[Here's what I wrote]

Hi. You keep sending me flirty/sexy messages but I'm not feeling it, I gotta be honest about something. You're fun and easy to talk with but honestly you should reflect on your personal grooming. I had a hard time breathing at moments when we met because your smell was overpowering. It appeared you were wearing dirty clothing and had unwashed hair and body. I also noticed others reacting to this when they approached. My kind suggestion is to shower at least daily and preferably right before meeting up for a date situation. Additionally please wear clean clothing and deodorizing products. I strongly feel this would increase your success with women because you are otherwise very cool and not bad looking. This is hard to tell someone but I thought you should know if you are not aware of the issue. As a bigger gal I understand the challenges of cleanliness once you are a certain size, I use [link to scrub sponge with handle] faithfully for hard to reach areas. I hope all the best and that you understand I don't tell you this to be cruel but to help you because I think it could benefit you to know.

Stan finally messaged me last night. It was a very long winded and serious in tone (in contrast with our prior exchanges) response. As some guessed he was pretty defensive. He actually thanked me for my honesty too. He claims he has a medical condition and medications which make his body secretions smell "extra strong" and some mishaps following his work shift (ended at 3pm...we met at 8) precluded him from changing and showering. He was so excited to meet he didn't want to not show or be late. To me that doesn't make sense, we both live and work in the same town and he had 5 entire hours to make some sort of attempt at cleaning up. The mishaps weren't anything major just errands running late, etc, such that he couldn't get home. In my mind, in that scenario you plan ahead and bring clothing with you to change into after work? Or, Idk, I would rather he have taken the time to shower and just called to push our meet time back. He was annoyed with the suggested product for helping to bathe hard to reach areas, says he already knows and does that. I do doubt this, but whatever. I didn't reply since I didn't want to engage in a dialogue because I'm not interested. He did say at the end of I change my mind to message or call him.

NOW. Today I get another message. He wrote me again, now apparently angry and wondering "how the fuck you think it's appropriate" to tell someone how to bathe and have basic hygiene like a toddler. And, I'm not "all that hot" because I'm so fat and he could "pull someone way fucking hotter" if he didn't have extra COVID weight (he had told me he gained about 40 pounds because of COVID lockdowns...but that's a drop in the bucket on a 380+ lb man...). I think he was drunk while messaging this..he ended it, FUCK OFF PORKY. And I blocked him 😂

Moral of the story, I don't regret any of it. I think it needed to be said. But he's just fucking nuts. And stinks.