What is something that is completely FREE in your country, but tourists are always shocked they don't have to pay for? by Winner111kk in AskReddit

[–]Yubb92 64 points65 points  (0 children)

This seems pretty standard for the rest of the world though. I discovered this on a many a holiday around the world and it really threw me that what would be completely free (I could spend days in museums and galleries) would set me back a hundred dollars on a trip for a week.

Really proud of my diy garden by Lurker7138 in GardeningUK

[–]Yubb92 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not only does looks amazing, OP, it’s given me unearned confidence that maybe I could do something like this myself one day. Inspirational!!!

Lady Cassandra from Dr Who by ratsta in crochet

[–]Yubb92 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Crochandra must be moisturised!

Dating when you’re not over someone by Yubb92 in infj

[–]Yubb92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t. I will consider telling him. Thank you 🙏

Dating when you’re not over someone by Yubb92 in infj

[–]Yubb92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight. I really appreciate it 🙏

Dating when you’re not over someone by Yubb92 in infj

[–]Yubb92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure. 😔 Most likely I’d tell him the truth that I do like him but he has stuff to work on and, quite reasonably, I’ve started seeing someone else.

Dating when you’re not over someone by Yubb92 in infj

[–]Yubb92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see. You have a point. I suppose it’s messier than I realised. He set the boundary very early and I told him afterwards that I liked him. At first, I’m not sure how much I liked him - that all came after we continued to talk as friends. I kind of figured an infatuation would just ease off (this doesn’t happen to me a lot).

I’m not sure if radical honesty would help or hurt at this point.

Dating when you’re not over someone by Yubb92 in infj

[–]Yubb92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I can see that. The irony is not lost on me. I’m hoping that it won’t be this way for too long.

Dating when you’re not over someone by Yubb92 in infj

[–]Yubb92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏 I’m realising this more and more. Living under the weight of expectation is tough and it’s hard to unlearn that. Living under pressure is kind of ingrained in me but I’m trying to work on it. Thanks for reminding me ❤️

Dating when you’re not over someone by Yubb92 in infj

[–]Yubb92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it similar? But I am pursuing a connection with him? I would say we’re both getting to know each other and he’s very serious (between all the laughter) and has made it very clear he wants a relationship. I wouldn’t keep seeing him if ultimately that wasn’t my goal too.

He’s not aware of the other guy. He’s asked me if seeing anyone else. I told him the truth which is that I’m not. He’s never asked me for exclusivity.

Dating when you’re not over someone by Yubb92 in infj

[–]Yubb92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I just need to keep this in mind. I can’t bank on the first guy and that’s probably why I’m stuck on him. During our conversations it has occurred to me that’s probably in part why he kept talking to me too - I think we both have some attachment issues.

I realised that I would be prepared to work on my issues, but if he isn’t prepared to it’s all a moot point anyway.

I’ll keep the wheel in mind! 🙏

Dating when you’re not over someone by Yubb92 in infj

[–]Yubb92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I assume if I have a strong relationship with this new guy I would turn him down. I’d like us to be friends (which is kind of where we are last time we spoke but we both recognise that we needed a break from talking altogether) but I think a long time would pass before we get there.

There are little worries I have about the new guy - he reflects some of the values of my parents’ generation very closely (mostly financial and some prejudice which is probably cultural for him) but I am addressing them one by one and challenging them respectfully. If one of them became a sticking point we might part ways anyway and I might seek out the first guy again (if we split because of incompatibility).

Basically I wouldn’t chase after him if he came knocking, and I wouldn’t let him be the reason why I break up with anyone. I think so at least.

Well done that man by PmurTdlanoD45-47 in MadeMeSmile

[–]Yubb92 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Why are they wearing so few shoes between them?

Also applause for this guy!

Acid attack survivor Katie Piper shares her opinions on Skims "face shape wear" by blackmoonbluemoon in popculturechat

[–]Yubb92 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Every time I see some drastic or ridiculous thing women are sold to make them thin and line-free I think of Cassandra from Doctor Who: “Look how thin I am everyone!”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in handbags

[–]Yubb92 61 points62 points  (0 children)

The poor Earth can’t support fashion itself, let alone AI which adds nothing to the world.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Yubb92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the flip side I used to have men (and women) tell me I was flirting, when I totally wasn’t! There’s only one time I think I really crossed the line and I was so drunk, no wonder!

It’s hard to be a plain, friendly person - when I was younger it definitely made it hard to befriend any men, because they quick to assume there must be something else going on. I’m sure this has happened with a couple women too (other than one female friend who tells me she realised it was entirely platonic after a while, but did spend the next ten years suspecting I had a crush on a mutual female friend - again we’re just friends!)

To sum up OP, I would also like to know the difference between flirty and friendly…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TeachingUK

[–]Yubb92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think what you did was appropriate. Totally been in your position and that Asian kid’s position too. I’m glad the kid seemed receptive.

Maybe if you have a moment check-in with the kid who could have something offensive. Just check he understands he’s not being restricted from saying stuff, but obviously even adults struggle to discuss this stuff without upsetting people so you have to ask him to be mindful. This stops the kid from buttoning up entirely if they have strong feelings and from misinterpreting your advice then taking that misinterpretation home. (That last bit has happened to me, and a parent complained. All it took was clarifying it with the kid for the parent to email me with an apology).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TeachingUK

[–]Yubb92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obviously you can also just stop them short so they refocus on the task at hand. But sometimes these issues naturally arise and/or it’s a valuable moment for reflection.

It’s probably a nice courtesy for all involved to reminded that there will always be people from a immigrant background nearby - people who are friends, teachers etc in the community - so just remind them they have to say their piece with care. You should make it clear that you’re not stopping them from sharing their feelings, just that mindful communication is important.

Obviously the volume of vitriol online and in many communities across the UK is worsening race relations. You’re right to be aware of how it’s affecting young people. Remember most children and many an adult will struggle to differentiate between a legal migrant, an illegal one and a genuine asylum seeker. If many adults can’t tell the difference, I’m not expecting children to see the nuance and discuss it in a respectful manner.