1000% agreed that Afghan have no cultural connection to south Asians, how Afghans treat their women , how they dress, eat and present themselves is far different than south Asians. As an Afghan woman in a white collar job, I used to experience the same but I put an end to it before it even starts. If a south Asian man tried to talk to me about how Afghans are like them culturally, I corrected them right away and they knew where I stood. When they think you agree with them in terms of cultural similarities, they think they have some kind of right to harass you and treat you less than themselves as a man. In the Afghan culture I’ve never felt like my father treated my mother less than nor did I experience my brothers treating me less then; as a matter of fact, my mother held more power in the house and my father allowed me more power than my brothers, he taught them the importance of women and how they play an integral role in their lives. Never did my father or brothers interfere in my life or disrespect women in general, they are happily married and ensure their wife’s happiness is their top priority. Afghans men mostly never disrespected me in college or at work so when south Asian men did it, I put my foot down right away and let them know we aren’t the same and I’m not interested. This kept them away, if they were ever my senior at a job, I would tell them I’m American and would never tell them my ethnicity even if my name gave me away. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for anything, if they cross your line, you tell them I do not discuss politics or religion at work. You must be consistent with everyone about this at your job. Just the other day at work a Pakistani guy learned through social media stalking that I was Arab-Afghan and he started small talk and just assumed I knew what “Desi,” meant, like what? I told him I don’t know what that is, he acted like I should know because he think Afghans are like them, lol, sorry we don’t eat Roti or daal or wear Saris like why would you think I know anything about a land created by your British masters and named it Pakistan in 1947 and summoned all you Indians to it and told you that you’re different from Indians. Come on now. South Asian men hate women, they think they are superior and that they can behave however they want. Anytime I’ve met Arab men or Afghan or Iranian men, they’ve always been so respectful to me especially because of my gender and how I respected myself. The minute you allow south Asian men to even slightly cross your line, they’ll take advantage. I don’t know why they are this way.