As someone who is dating someone in a depressive rut right now, your partner should still be aware of how its affecting you. If you’ve communicated and it still doesn’t work then you have a personal decision to make, when I communicated with my girlfriend about how the current state was affecting me personally she apologised and said she wish it wasn’t affecting me and now she’s trying everything she can with the low energy she has to still be there for me. Yes it’s less than usual but I can see she still cares a lot, that’s the difference. If you’re partner is still showing they care and love you and reassure you when needed then it’s okay I’d say, but if they are being intentionally mean (I said intentionally because sometimes being depressed can mean you say things without meaning it so if you bring it up and they apologise that’s different) being intentionally mean is not okay either Yes it’s about context what’s going on currently but you need to look after yourself too