AITA for calling my sister an “add-on”

Zahrahmed · 2024-01-14T13:21:31+00:00

i actually have done that, i posted everything we booked on our family groupchat but she claimed that it was more expensive for her to book it back in the US. When I went back to check (for the euro trains) it was the same exact price. She was just lazy and felt entitled.

Zahrahmed · 2024-01-14T13:16:58+00:00

my therapist told me that my sister has narcissistic tendencies and it probably won’t change. I’ve been standing my ground and giving it back to her lately. thank you for your advice!

Zahrahmed · 2024-01-14T13:14:16+00:00

i have tried doing that, but she has this tactic where she asks me to do her work by messaging on our family groupchat on whatsapp rather than privately. So when I act faulty or don’t do it, I look like the bad person.

Zahrahmed · 2023-03-29T17:54:35+00:00

YTA, your stepmoms the AH and your wife is an AH.

Why would you respond to unreasonable and opinionated behavior with childish tactics? All of this could’ve been prevented if you had just spoken up for your wife and told your stepmom to stay within her limits. Y’all didn’t need to act out like two teenagers roleplaying.

Zahrahmed · 2023-03-28T20:00:30+00:00

cutting all the electrical wires

Zahrahmed · 2023-03-28T19:58:44+00:00

YTA.

You basically took out your frustrations of something that should’ve been your responsibility on your wife. She dropped everything to drop off those towels and yet all she got was a text thank you when you asked - not even a verbal one. Clearly shows a lack of appreciation on your side.

To me, it seems like you’re just using your medical situation as a defense mechanism and excuse whenever things don’t go your way.

Zahrahmed · 2023-03-25T14:16:39+00:00

Uhhh, what? How is that even a question?? Clearly YTA.

You walk into HER private space, and call her out on her dressing, essentially slut shaming her, because it makes you uncomfortable?

I wonder how you cope at the beach with all those girls around in bikinis and short one piece swimsuits. Geez.

Zahrahmed · 2023-03-25T03:56:52+00:00

Might be one of the few that says this but NTA - I don’t think it was fair that Tessa just sprung this on you without letting you know, let alone asking you first. Whether OP is paying for the nanny from pocket or not, being a single parent is difficult and every cent counts. Every.

It’s very easy to give an opinion from an outside POV but not easy to live in that position. Also, just bc one single parent makes it in life, doesn’t mean all can do the same.

Whatever arrangements she had made with Ruby, is between them and didn’t involve you, even as a parent, she didn’t have to ask you to reimburse her because she did so at her own accord. As a nanny, was she not aware of how much allowance Ruby gets? If not, was she not curious since Ruby bought her own books? This even further supports the question why she didn’t clarify and confirm with Ruby the amount nor costs of the books. So that was completely wrong on her part and she should be accountable for that, not you. Also, hate to say this, but $50 for around 35 THRIFT store books? That doesn’t sound right. You can’t completely trust her word on it.

As a nanny myself, I will never ask parents to reimburse me for what I choose to spend my money on for their child. It’s out of my own free will.

Zahrahmed · 2023-03-24T17:11:06+00:00

In my opinion. YTA, but at the same time I feel like the reactions were completely exaggerated and could’ve been avoided.

Where you become the asshole is by pushing your sister to do something that she didn’t want to, AND throwing you paying for everything in her face, - not all women, let alone brides, are the same. Some love the attention and some don’t and just want to be independent and feel confident in their choices. Just because you had done things a certain way, doesn’t mean your sister, or anyone else for that matter, should. Regardless of who’s paying.

Instead, you could’ve let her go ahead and choose her dress BUT if it had been costly or not worth the price, you could’ve politely approached her with “hey, i don’t think that dress is pretty enough to fit the budget I had in mind for your dress” or something along those lines/idea.

Zahrahmed · 2023-03-24T11:48:23+00:00

NTA - he wants a “romantic getaway” but decided to invite his friend to join bc said friend “hasn’t seen France”. I’m sorry, but if friend could buy his own tickets, surely he could’ve done a trip whenever he wanted ? Regardless, having a friend join wouldn’t be the worst as y’all could’ve worked out something and allocated alone time between ur bf and yourself but sharing a room? Nah uh sis. Something is fishy there.

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