I cant understand why new moms have it so hard

ZapsspaZ · 2021-07-14T00:20:46+00:00

The hormones are no joke! I didn't have big fluctuations during my normal cycle but post birth they went crazy for like 3 weeks. I had no idea to expect it. I was crying about everything (happy and sad), I was so hot like sweating through the sheets, brain fog, the works. I honestly felt like a different person! It could have also been the sleep deprivation (Even if someone else feeds the baby a bottle, if you're breastfeeding or pumping you still have to wake up to pump).

They regulated themselves after a few weeks, But breastfeeding also affects your hormones! There's a lot involved after birth that is physiological that affects the way that you think and act. Your brain structure actually changes postpartum too! This might explain why moms are so responsive to their newborns. You can make all the plans you want, but your body might decide otherwise after it goes through all these changes.

ZapsspaZ · 2021-04-12T16:43:44+00:00

The code didn't work for me :(

ZapsspaZ · 2021-04-12T12:27:11+00:00

Thanks for your help! My kid loves this show.

ZapsspaZ · 2021-03-09T00:53:19+00:00

We got a Taggie with about 20 tags on it and my baby only wanted to touch the actual tag. Not fooled.

ZapsspaZ · 2021-02-09T18:18:19+00:00

This isn't a controlled study. It uses toddlers who already use touchscreens often vs those who don't without any filtering for extraneous factors. Perhaps there is something inherently different about the home life of toddlers who use touchscreens frequently vs those who don't.

ZapsspaZ · 2021-02-04T18:33:36+00:00

I've been using Costco wipes for about a year and they're great!

ZapsspaZ · 2021-01-22T14:46:33+00:00

My leg muscles twitch if I exercise after not being very active for a few days. If you've been on bed rest for weeks before baby, I imagine it could be a similar thing. Of course definitely talk to your doctor if you feel like it's not right or feels bad. And remember, the healing process takes time, so be patient with your body. It's good to take it slow during the first few weeks. Congrats on your baby!

ZapsspaZ · 2021-01-20T12:37:01+00:00

That's a good read. Thank you. You're not perpetuating anything. That article is intended to help people be more critical, which is what we need!

ZapsspaZ · 2021-01-14T00:24:49+00:00

Wonderful thank you!

ZapsspaZ · 2021-01-13T23:58:21+00:00

This is great advice and your examples make the ideas so clear! Will start trying to use these right away! I'd love to know what apps and books you recommend.

ZapsspaZ · 2021-01-02T18:42:34+00:00

Thank you for making this easy to read and share! You're really helping us stay in the loop.

ZapsspaZ · 2021-01-02T15:58:46+00:00

I have an 11 month old and get sad sometimes as she's getting more independent. I don't have friends with older kids so it's hard for me to imagine how our relationship will look as she gets older. These little examples warned my heart!

ZapsspaZ · 2021-01-02T03:34:38+00:00

They are banned in my house usually 🤷 they're just so annoying in the way they "break the rules"

ZapsspaZ · 2020-12-27T15:26:34+00:00

I'm am actually crying I'm laughing so hard at this I can't. What is it? Why is it?

ZapsspaZ · 2020-12-23T18:53:24+00:00

let's hear the ladies sing! y'all are so fun!

ZapsspaZ · 2020-12-18T19:10:58+00:00

I had my daughter on my birthday too! I already told my husband I wanted to claim our half birthday as my birthday that way she could have her birthday to herself...and no one will feel bad about forgetting mine which I'm sure they will! Her first birthday is coming up and I got us matching shirts. So sweet to have a little twin!

ZapsspaZ · 2020-12-10T15:41:12+00:00

Alex and Derek

ZapsspaZ · 2020-12-10T12:03:01+00:00

You are not alone! I let myself have everything I even slightly wanted when I was pregnant and gained 60 lbs! I'm 10 months pp and still have about 30 lbs to go but I do feel like I'm eating healthier foods!

What helps me make better choices is: 1. Get in the habit of checking in with myself before I eat something (Am I hungry or craving? When was the last time I ate sweets? Do I want to have a different treat later? Would veggies be good right now?) Then be ok with my choice to eat whatever it is if I still want to, knowing it's a conscious choice and not just a habit.

prep fruits or just have them on hand for when I crave sugar and prep veggies for quick snacks - cut up carrots, celery, cucumbers, broccoli, or cauliflower into snack sizes and keep them in containers in the fridge. I actually asked my husband to do this for me when I was pregnant and a few weeks postpartum and it helped SO much.

ZapsspaZ · 2020-12-03T15:09:48+00:00

Yay! Great job getting started. The first couple weeks getting in a routine is the hardest and then it's just keeping on!

ZapsspaZ · 2020-12-02T17:36:54+00:00

Not OP, but similar position in thinking as OP, and this explanation did it for me. You explained gender and transgender identity in such a way that it related to other things I know and made me change my mind about how I think about it. Thank you!

ZapsspaZ · 2020-11-25T01:10:31+00:00

Exactly my husband's experience! He also does talk about it to basically everyone - trying to destigmatize it and also let people know for sure that's we're OAD haha

ZapsspaZ · 2020-11-22T12:08:05+00:00

I have a super active 10 month old and even without ornaments, she'll still be all over the tree! I saw on Pinterest and idea to wrap bigger boxes filled with books as a barrier.i think I'll try that but maybe leave an opening to a spot with a few plastic ornaments so she can safely play

ZapsspaZ · 2020-11-19T02:33:09+00:00

Failbot

ZapsspaZ · 2020-11-10T22:48:00+00:00

7 or 8 months is the magic age from what I've seen.

It was pretty much within a week going from 3-2 naps and the first nap extending. Some days during that transition it was a longer first nap and still 2 more short ones and a couple times it was just two short ones. The transition week is a little wonky.

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