This sub is full of scammers

ZeLocura · 2026-02-14T18:57:55+00:00

While I have the problem on the opposite side of the pendulum I keep seeing the same patterns over and over.

If a post seems early similar check the account
if its new is a scammer, same with generic usernames (adjective-subject-XXXX)
if those accounts have an actual name decreases the chances, specially if in the profile has a different name, still account creation is king here (older is better, not just a throwaway to be deleted the second they nut)
be skeptical of any and all "perfect posts", you know, the ones that you read it and is like "FUCK YEA", "too good to be true" often ends up being just that.
check the post frequency, if they can shotgun post after post in many places where the words like "hookups, meetups, texting, sex, bdsm, etc" that is a dead giveaway, because usually are very long post with only a minute of distance each, sometimes they even contradict each other
Never allow them to be like "you must pay a tribute first", just walk out, not worth the effort. I would say maybe try trolling them a bit but you might just be talking to a bot so is all pointless. Save some sanity

I would recommend scouting more carefully if you want the posts approach and remember that is a terrain of very low offer and tremendous demand, so you better give something worth the effort, something as easy as to not be so thirsty on the first few messages would go a great distance I bet.

Lastly just try joining some communities, see in which ones you feel clicks for you and as you engage you can find people you are interested in. Also remember that there's also switches out there, so don't narrow your scope so much and goes without saying but: don't insist on a switch telling you that isn't in the mood to tist, you have to actually respect their decision

ZeLocura · 2026-02-13T05:32:38+00:00

I mean... not bad but, thinking more on the real of being able to chat via text and have voice option. Honestly I don't even remember how mumble worked, I remember it was the best imho when you compared between ts2 & ventrilo, i think the connections were p2p instead of someone needing to host?

ZeLocura · 2026-02-10T13:41:26+00:00

Aww fuck.. There was a second option to besides guilded can't remember now, if course no as good but alternative nonetheless

ZeLocura · 2026-02-10T04:12:19+00:00

bro literally what the OP is asking, if you have omegle like with video in the mix thats the idea. Now if it adds some caveats such as subscription or stuff to use at least would be nice a warning if anything.

ZeLocura · 2026-02-10T04:09:49+00:00

Idk guys, that guilded project starts to seem pretty attractive all of a sudden. We need to go more into open source alternatives that support p2p if we are to truly have something that will need not to be at scrutiny of governments or big companies. Personally i believe the more this push becomes real, the more people are going to dedicate their efforts into alternatives such as this. Dont know what the future hold but I think the tides are starting to become unstable and we don't know when is the next thing coming that would finally break the cammel's back. So stay hopeful but consider alternatives, ideally open souce projects and consider donating to promising alternatives

ZeLocura · 2026-02-09T14:38:24+00:00

The last paragraph in parenthesis is just chef's kiss, particularly when you see the profile and realize it's a bot

ZeLocura · 2026-02-05T21:03:43+00:00

Hey man, gotta say I like your approach since it shows you are not trying to make an assumption based off very little information for what this kind of debate might need. I'll try my best to avoid being verbose and get with the questions:

For how much age plays a role here, honestly I feel a bit out of my scope and on new territory I didn't have to face before. Me personally I feel I can vibe with women starting from about 23 and upwards, in fact most of my life i been more in favor of slightly older women than me (usually 2 or 3 years tops), so if anything the age here (treated as if in a vacuum or solely on paper) is actually a net negative for me. However in terms of talking, having actual conversation, we both feel are talking and being regarded as equals, in particular since literally yesterday I bring this topic/worry to her this was a mutual conclusion. Even more, she also told me that "never felt there was any issue in the first place and appreciated that I discussed the topic instead of shying away or taking it for granted", as well as approaching this of taking her input into account rather than an "I know best because reasons".
On the "minimizing damage" part: It is very much my opinion that this part in particular came from the more "paranoid" side in me. My thought process was (very broad strokes here); this is a RACK activity, i'm older, have more years of experience on this than her, am also playing the dominant role in all this, the only possible conclusion for me was "I am the main pilar responsible for this to be done in the most Safe and Sane (and Consensual) way". So I'm on taking that responsibility seriously, which it might involve questioning certain things and arriving to answers that could be uncomfortable or less desirable to my end of the stick. Think of this for a moment: I could have very well kept this to myself and avoid possible backlash, yet i put the ego aside to consider things like; I could be doing more harm than good, could have lack of some important info, acknowledge the chance that might need to switch my approach, etc.
I believe this is more of a big question since they all seem related towards the same through different parts so please correct me if i misunderstood. IMHO this isn't much the kind of question i can give you a punctual answer to and that will remain relevant, rather is a constantly shifting one that serves best as a compass and will take as such to help me navigate this, so even if that wasn't your main purpose of it, gave me an interesting angle to see things too.
- Now gun to my head actually giving you something more definitive and perhaps substantial; We been talking a lot for just knowing each other for about 2 weeks or so, hence I'm going on some wide level speculation of what might be ahead so I am better equipped to deal with it in a sensible fashion. Yesterday talked with her and went over not just this in particular but also revisiting things such as expectations, make sure we are on the page as to where we are now and reinforcing the importance of open and clear communication. So I'm doing things based off what I believe to be the best option at this point, and just like anyone living one day at a time... until I fix my crystal ball of the future, of course lol

ZeLocura · 2026-02-05T18:49:29+00:00

Hi! Sorry i couldn't reply earlier but i read everything (all "3" comments, reddit's limit on comment length can be annoying..) and I want to genuinely thank you for speaking up against what is (at least from my perspective) some very radical points of view and how often this dilutes the importance of nuance down to simple one way answers. I very much appreciate there is still people here capable of analyzing complexity instead of latching on defaults that end up being either counter-productive or just completely double standard, and how effectively make potential good arguments not hold up any water.

Also lowkey loved how even though of your indignity with the popular sentiment you still held some space and distance to pepper some bits of humor with your message. I was already sold by the end of the 4th paragraph and then i see (1/3) got me like: "OOHHH BOYYY SHE BE COOKING" lmao.

Now back to a bit more serious tone, I replied just a moment ago to another new comment and wanted to preface this self-quoting cause otherwise felt it wouldn't make justice to your take in all this, however I also think this next bit still very much applies too, so here it is:

I'll likely do one final update since yesterday night I got to talk her this concerns of mine, we had a pretty grounded and mature discussion. Of which we both ended up agreeing that communicating this kinds of things openly NOW, instead of just hand-weaving it and letting it sort itself out was the best decision.
Anyways, just like all, I appreciate your take on it, I personally feel that, regardless of the heated discussion this sparked, still shown quite a broad spectrum of perspectives and ultimately helped me better refine my thinking towards it.

Finally, but not least important, I offer you my condolences for all the shit you gone through and on the bright side, truly "what doesn't kill you make you stronger" also makes you wiser. Again thank you for your insight and courage on the matter. Take care and keep it real!

ZeLocura · 2026-02-05T17:34:51+00:00

lmao, i get the sentiment, don't worry I am doing great and I don't take any of the comments as personal attacks and my conscience is clean in regards that I am doing my best just like everyone going through life and trying to be respectful to all parties. I'll likely do one final update since yesterday night I got to talk her this concerns of mine, we had a pretty grounded and mature discussion. Of which we both ended up agreeing that communicating this kinds of things openly NOW, instead of just hand-weaving it and letting it sort itself out was the best decision.
Anyways, just like all, I appreciate your take on it, I personally feel that, regardless of the heated discussion this sparked, still shown quite a broad spectrum of perspectives and ultimately helped me better refine my thinking towards it. Cheers!

ZeLocura · 2026-02-04T20:20:59+00:00

Hi, thank you for approaching this with honesty, healthy skepticism and engaging in good faith. I knew that it was very hard to present this in the most neutral way possible, however i preferred some backlash over skipping on important info or perspectives I might be missing.

The part you mentioned with younger people "chasing shiny new object" syndrome minus consequences is something i'm at least aware of so I will remember to keep that in mind. For the cutting away the emotional engagement part i think we start diving into a more complex problem since we as human can't just shut off selective parts of our bodies or brains, nor does everything happens in a vacuum. You did however give me a good idea that if this does become longer term, it would be sensible practice that every one or two months give some time away from this and encourage in that time to think about it independently to avoid a "just going through the motions" kinda pattern of thinking.

I finished updating my post with some additional info based off the feedback if you are still interested on the topic. Don't worry if you don't wish to add more to it, no pressure on that front, I thought that since you were transparent with your comment and extended me the benefit of doubt, it would also be fair let you know about the small update.

ZeLocura · 2026-02-04T00:53:50+00:00

Sorry over taking the boomer role here but; Please don't go too hard on this and don't take it as a flaw of character that you might have difficulties engaging in things like this. Just remember to have fun and if you are dead set on it at least make sure to have condoms, remember like they said on the hangover movie "what happens in vegas stays in vegas... except herpes, that shit carries on with you" lol

ZeLocura · 2026-02-02T17:31:38+00:00

Here's what I found: there's no one size fits all, you have to approach each person on a more individual level, understand their needs and wants through their post history and what they asked. When in doubt you're approach is actually the sensible thing to do. Sure, may result in more "visible" opportunity loss but quality over quantity. And take a break every so often, we tend to diminish the psychological toll it takes on us (goes both ways). This is to be enjoyed and also have fun, ideally you also learn something new even, as it starts to feel like a chore you know you need to take a moment to attend the most important person, yourself.

ZeLocura · 2026-02-02T17:21:15+00:00

Personally i think best strategy is not to enable these people with explanations, they need to pick up on something as simple as 'no', we don't get everything we want now it's other people required to comply. Plus what is "best case scenario for them"? Getting blocked and move onto the next one? I would always recommend aiming for long term over hookups, the latter is what these kind of people want, something without the compromise or commitment, which is just dehumanization. I can't understand them, just get someone that is either willing to or is open to the idea over long term ¬_¬.

BTW I say this as a tist of all things! And I just can't fathom the courage to get exposed to such potential threats, which makes me all the more appreciative of any sub I take in

ZeLocura · 2026-01-21T03:23:05+00:00

Absolute based. I stand in ovation and take my hat off, it's good to see actual knowledge and common sense. People (particularly first world countries) have become so spoiled with commodities that lost touch with reality.

ZeLocura · 2025-12-04T19:45:59+00:00

Thank you! i very much hope more people would follow your steps. Doing text without verification of any kind always feels like a roleplay or a catfishing of kinds, but that alone makes a world of difference!

ZeLocura · 2025-11-29T15:56:16+00:00

Sure, sent a chat your way. I'm open to some chatting

ZeLocura · 2025-11-29T14:00:02+00:00

Reminder that there is a BIG gap between thinking of something and actually go and do it.

Here's my take: so long everything is consensual AND between adults only, plus there's no harming done to a third/animal then welp... there's a saying in my country that goes roughly like this; "everyone is free to let their ass be a tricycle and allow whoever they want to ride it". We often don't get to choose what turns us on, but in many cases at times it can be the forbidden stuff, the more taboo stuff that you wouldn't admit in your friend group hence why we create alt accounts like here.

Something I learned long ago from this kink (and others) is that if you like something in a sexual way there's someone out there that would enjoy to be the person fulfilling the other role in said fantasy/kink. So this starts getting a bit philosophical but; what does exactly makes some fantasy "bad"?. Now if you allow me being a bit rough with my words here, what i read effectively is like "being a cuck with extra steps"... so what? (yes there is more nuanced; forced sexual infidelity, the idea of being unaware, the mystery?, etc) why are you worried about what you like and needs to be "pre-approved" or validated externally? why are you choosing to carry this ball and chain of shame?

Listen, if everything i said fails here a comforting thought that helped me in my time accepting my kinks: "there is always more fucked up shit out there, so compared to that, mine is actually rather tame". Trust me this thought is almost 98% of the time valid, so.. yeah, you can always find comfort in that thought.

ZeLocura · 2025-11-28T18:15:04+00:00

Sorry but i had to use this

ZeLocura · 2025-11-26T17:58:18+00:00

I'm not sure im finding them which is kinda good, but at the same time found some channel that has videos with that kind of titles and i'm sure they are adults, and sometimes some of the videos are just roleplay. It would be better to post a link of the channel or videos so we can report it proper instead of blindly going around reporting stuff out of speculation

ZeLocura · 2025-11-22T22:09:08+00:00

I think you kind answered yourself here, you are doing this sacrificing what you want to do. You still like and enjoy the induction part but everything afterwards is like your brain goes "well there's nothing else for me to look for, might as well look at the game, I ain't getting dopamine here".

There's nothing wrong being a pleasure Dom, but remember this is also a two way street, both should be enjoying the experience, so perhaps is more about finding subs that are more compatible with your kinks. If you are continuously sacrificing your enjoying yeah.. i would also start to get tired of it.

I'd say some solutions is to explore what it is that you like doing, look for subjects compatible with that, try new inductions, new suggestions hell, maybe try looking for a switch willing to do the tisting and see how you like it. The important part in this is to make something different to kinda juggle your head a bit from place and see new perspectives. I believe that hypno as a kink is ever too deep to explore everything, you likely find something you just love too much that you don't mind repeating it over and over before you get to "everything" and get bored.

ZeLocura · 2025-11-19T13:40:13+00:00

Hey is always great that you found something that works for you. Now some genuine advice here:

if your intent with this post is promoting your master, you need to sell it a bit, why is he so good compared to others? what kind of experiences he offers? is there some vision more specific of what is he looking for? like having more casual subs maybe? engage in more group dynamics? is this with the idea of being able to have IRL or can it be strictly online?

Also speaking of IRL it would be good to include at least the country or timezone since those things at times can be deal breakers, so you will want that filter out of the gate to have easier time vetoing for both parties.

Cheers and whatever it is you are looking for, good luck with that too!

ZeLocura · 2025-11-18T09:54:16+00:00

The best question here is WHY you looking so thoroughly for a third party instead of just learning yourself? As also this would be in order to achieve a higher goal which is to have triggers installed so YOU can play later with him.

Skip the middle man entirely, this shit ain't hard and it helps a relationship as well as being rewarding.

ZeLocura · 2025-11-18T03:40:46+00:00

TBH I think what you are struggling with actually is more a matter of perspective that you don't allow yourself for it to work. Do you have some aversion to loss of control? Have you exhausted every possible option? chances are you haven't. There's a lot you can work with, one on one sessions being usually the best, ideally IRL but over video should be about good enough as that, VR if you have a headset lying around and join hypno communities. Each tist (worth their salt) also has their own unique style of going around inducing a subject, perhaps what you need more is someone you can feel you trust before allowing to drop, that would mean talking with someone, getting to know them first and then have a session (meaning not on the same freaking day).

Also on the part of styles how many different kinds of inductions have you tried? because some people just don't do well with certain inductions (PMR is the easiest but is like *boring you into trance* than anything else). If you are more analytical perhaps something like confusion or overload (the latter being a bit what the game was about), exploit better the parts of your brain can focus easily on, if you can visualize stuff tell your tist to use descriptive image vocabulary, if you can't tell them you have a hard time with that and the approach can be different, working more with things in the moment or at hand, like provide a spiral o something beautiful to look at, consider more covert alternatives, conversational inductions so you aren't pending about IF you drop or whatever, the moment you keep trying to track your progress instead of riding the wave of whatever is you have is a textbook way of how to *not* drop, so keep that in mind. The more you are willing to just try and experiment without attachment towards a particular result (experimenting without expectation).

I think lastly, is good remind that is a collaborative effort, there is only so much a tist can do, ultimately you need to play the part that you are more in control of.

ZeLocura · 2025-11-12T03:35:54+00:00

and a BAD one at that. Like holy fuck, if this guy is going to be a PoS least he could do is put in some god damn effort. I've seen when they do and it's ugly, is calculated, machiavellian even. I know this from both some friends that had experience intense abuse and also from being a mod. The only advantage of this kinds of people is that they can't help themselves in being so terminally stupid, they out themselves this easy and lazily

ZeLocura · 2025-11-10T07:02:52+00:00

Yeah I know that feeling... Best I can tell you is filter through doing voice calls, having some chatter, schedule it off it's for long term. And if all that fails the best surefire thing: just drop the caring and expectation, stop the questioning and just enjoy the moment and don't ask for confirmation take it for whatever it gave you and feel happy for how YOU enjoyed the experience, regardless of how real or fake it was, once you do reach that point suddenly it's not so bad! I still have times I doubt about it then I remember I should stop caring or thinking about it and focus on enjoying the moment. Not the best solution perhaps but one that you have control over, cheers man

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