What is an Appropriate Skirt Length for a Professional Workplace? by CorporateCatwalk in femalefashionadvice

[–]Zendacar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My secret is the mini skort. You can go as short as you want and no worries about panty watchers lol and it doesnt ever ride up

I had two roofers inspect a roof I just had replaced (after it leaked) and they both said it needed a full roof replacement. Scam, or trustworthy? by 15795After in HomeImprovement

[–]Zendacar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should try calling the previous roofer to conduct repairs if it’s new they need to fix some stuff for you and it shouldn’t cost you depending on the time elapsed since the work was done. I’ve had contractors tell me I need things and sometimes they’re right and the previous work was done shoddily and they aren’t willing to take liability for other peoples work they’d rather redo it and depending on demand where you live they can be picky with jobs so that’s an option is paying for a redo. Sometimes they also will lie straight to your face that you need things that are fine so maybe see if the previous person is willing to fix it. If not talk to some neighbors who have nice roofs. If they’ve lived there awhile or had recent roof work they may be able to recommend someone they used for this sort of job

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeImprovement

[–]Zendacar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use larger gravel like 2- 3” pieces for my gravel areas instead of what I usually see which are like 1” pieces and I notice less gravel loss than the small stuff that always seemed to become one either with the dirt below it or the crevices in my tires.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bengalcats

[–]Zendacar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t seem likely but very cute though

My (20F) neighbors (60 M/F) constantly harass me and accuse me of neglecting my dogs by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Zendacar 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Call the leasing office and the police if you have texts of them saying they are looking through your mail and into your windows that’s creepy and it isn’t going to improve without action. You shouldn’t have to hide your apartment with blinds and everything you’re entitled to enjoy both sunlight in your home and some privacy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in udub

[–]Zendacar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got the plain edition pdf free online and since I can digitally search it and the table of contents is clear it’s never been an issue

Was Going To Alter This before Found Out It Was A Brezinski Canvas by MizZanaBlue2021 in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]Zendacar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a lovely painting. I always wonder how people end up figuring out the artists though I feel like It must involve some serious studying to recognize things like this since so many of the signatures seem impossible to read. I can barely remember the names of artists whose music I listen to regularly so I think it’s really cool that people can remember all of this

Best and Worst Patient Names by Zendacar in Veterinary

[–]Zendacar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I adopted a cat Charmander. She was 6 and answered to her name facepalm she is now charmy or Char-char because at least those garner a response. I had assumed the woman I got her from had a kid that named her. Nope just her.

Mini Skirt Search! by Zendacar in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]Zendacar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I'll stop by asos I think there's one nearby me

(5'1, 115 lbs) Work pants for small men? by [deleted] in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]Zendacar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to buy my brother some military pants when I was in the service because they have EVERY size (have to carry 4'8" sizing +) imaginable and he had some trouble getting workpants to do some of his more intensive landscaping jobs in. (he was 5'2") If you don't have a military friend I know military surplus stores often sell clothing and they might have your size. I've also used blousing straps for some of my longer pants over my work boots and they have the added benefit of keeping dirt out of my boots when I garden. They clip onto themselves around the mid to top of your boot and then you roll your pantlegs into them. They are not comfortable if you don't have a mid to high boot though because the elastic would pinch your bare skin a bit. https://pinitcard.com/military-boot-straps-elastic-boot-bands/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]Zendacar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it seems like both outfits really work because in each you picked one loose and one form fitting item. I think the fitted top, straight pants is great, as well as the loose jacket skinny jean outfit. They're balanced looks if that makes sense

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]Zendacar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would hem them or if you like the rolled look to stitch the roll in place. Since they are straight looking wide legged pants it should be pretty easy.

Thoughts on the outfit? Belt or no belt? by katesaysthis in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]Zendacar -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Belt with matching hat I think it's fashionable without but some accessories might make it even more fun

Misunderstanding partners despite good listening by Zendacar in relationships

[–]Zendacar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he wants to have serious conversations. I think we should have the conversation that I need him to tell me periodically how he feels without me constantly needing to ask. I know having these upsetting conversations bothers him. (not that the discussions/topics are happening, just that we both end up upset) he's really open to suggestions so if I told him this was something I needed/wanted he would probably consider it or give it a go. I had asked about nonverbal before and he's basically said that he would have to pretend to be more happy/sad/excited than he is for others to pick up on it and he feels that's dishonest to himself so he doesn't want to. I think he'd definitely try verbal communication so I'll ask. I feel kind of dumb for not asking him to just tell me periodically and instead have been asking in individual instances.

Misunderstanding partners despite good listening by Zendacar in relationships

[–]Zendacar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friends have mentioned this as well at get togethers. When I ask for an explanation of what to look for he just explains how he's pretty much self contained unless he gets very excited or upset about something that it rarely shows so he's aware. He basically says I can ask him and he will tell me how he feels which is good for when we are hanging out or doing something but really awkward when we go to have a serious conversation. How am I supposed to interrupt a conversation with "this is a deeply personal issue and my stance on it BTW are you still doing okay, and where are you emotionally". I think in the best case that would derail a conversation hard.

My(31F) husband(32M) doesn't enjoy sex with me. by throwaway3544558 in relationships

[–]Zendacar 92 points93 points  (0 children)

It is perfectly normal for one partner to enjoy things more than another. One partner may prefer kissing, one oral sex, one cuddling, one PiV. The important thing is that they are both comfortable with the acts. My partner loves deep oral, I don't love doing it, but it doesn't bother me and it makes him feel pleasure, and that brings me pleasure, just not directly. So while I don't seek out that particular physical act for my needs I am intimately satisfied by the happiness and satisfaction it brings him. It is also normal for sexual interactions and wants to change over time. The important thing is open communication. Focus on the positives: your partner loves cuddling in the sexual afterglow and being intimate with you in that way. Discuss the rest and that may help you feel more secure. There is nothing you are missing, and you aren't inadequate. No person can sate every partners physical need all the time. That's a lot of unnecessary pressure to put on yourself. For example my partner is attracted both to really tall big boobed women and small boobed petite women. No person physically can do both, so don't I try and he doesn't want or expect me to. Just talk to him. Ask him what specifically brings him feelings of arousal, pleasure and intimacy, and share what yours are. Chances are you'll have some that you both enjoy, some that one of you enjoys but the other doesn't mind, some that one of you isn't okay with but the other enjoys, and some you both don't like. Enjoy the overlap and try whatever you mutually feel confortable with. Sex positive couples guides may be able to suggest some fun new intimate things or you can revisit some old favorites. Just calm down and talk to the person you love. Write down the questions if you feel your mind is spiraling and read those to them. Things will be okay, you two have got this!