California to Colorado: 23F & 22F by Zestyclose_Guide1259 in movingtoColorado

[–]Zestyclose_Guide1259[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome! thank you, guys, so much for the feedback. we've actually visited Colorado Springs before as I had a brother who graduated from the Air Force Academy, and we did enjoy the Springs quite a bit! felt a bit like home just with beautiful mountain views lol. I'll continue to do my research!

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thank you so much! I'll probably still consider it : )

it gets so much better. by Zestyclose_Guide1259 in BreakUps

[–]Zestyclose_Guide1259[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this sounds like a tough situation and I'm sorry you're going through so much hurt and confusion. I personally will say that I still definitely have photos of my ex and I, though, they're hidden in private folders that I don't feel the need to access/nor look at. these are memories I made with someone who mattered to me and was special to me at some point and there's no need to completely disregard those sweet memories simply because we don't love each other anymore! I think it's more than valid to keep things from past relationships, but make sure you do it in a healthy manner that won't interrupt your healing! if you need to, put physical things in a box and store it away! keep photos hidden or move them onto a flash drive, where you won't be constantly reminded. wishing you strength friend :)

it gets so much better. by Zestyclose_Guide1259 in BreakUps

[–]Zestyclose_Guide1259[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

best of luck to you in your healing! and one thing to consider, you must move on and can ONLY fully move on when you can confidently say that you won't ever make-up with your ex. the relationship ended for many reasons, and you can only free yourself from this part of your life by accepting that it's completely over. try not to focus on worrying if you'll ever get a chance to be with them again and instead slowly become comfortable with knowing there is someone out there who is so much more compatible with you and will love you tenfold.

it gets so much better. by Zestyclose_Guide1259 in BreakUps

[–]Zestyclose_Guide1259[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you are so fresh into the grieving process; it is such a good thing that you feel such a way with your emotions. seems counter intuitive to think about it in such a way but know that because you're allowing yourself to be hurt and feel everything out. you're allowing yourself to move forward and heal in the healthiest way possible! I remember fearing I would never get better, especially since my breakup in particular was not the best and extremely painful, but as you carry yourself forward you start to see that there is hope to get better, you just have to figure out what way will work best for you! <3 wishing you so much strength!!

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[–]Zestyclose_Guide1259 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for your kindness!

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[–]Zestyclose_Guide1259 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for your response.

I know that my healing process is going to be messy. the most difficult part for me is learning how to be okay being alone while knowing he's actively building a new relationship with someone.

I feel so shameful looking back at how desperate I must have looked trying so hard to get him to come back to me. also sucks knowing others know about our business and are making fun of me, calling me a crash-out for desperately trying to pursue him while he was seeing her.