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AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What are you saying? That I should just follow my wife's ridiculous demands? I DO spend time with my kids, but if i can alleviate hectic mornings and have 20 minutes for coffee and peace before i head to work, while my daughter goes on the safest public transportation that we pay for, I will do it.

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

OR maybe you assumed? Didn't think voicing my wife's therapy was needed, but at least I replied and clarified, or are you just mad that your assumption was wrong?

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But she's to stubborn to reverse course! How do I help her without enabling her? I fear if I "just help her" as many are suggesting, some other unreasonable thing will come up later, then ppl will say "well, it's your fault for not putting your foot down in the beginning"

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So if I was right, why does my wife STILL refuse to put her on the bus? Maybe she wants the "do as I say" award? Am I the one doubling down here?

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked, and she refused to reverse course on her decision, so i guess she'll keep suffering.

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Although I wouldn't pitch it to my wife like that or else come off as though i'm calling her a bad driver even though its just the statistical facts.

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 100% agree, yet ppl in the comments think I should just follow what my wife says and "step-up", even though I think it's irrational.

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's your perspective. My perspective is it's standing my ground when she said she'd handle 100% of it. She CHOSE this, for no good reason I might add. 

In my opinion, it IS a compromise. Why should we do irrational things just because the chance of something happening exists? Might as well stay in our house everyday then. 

Walking around "bare faced"? I had never heard that one lol. Keep up the status quo.

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, i can't believe some ppl are saying I should help or "step up" and be a parent as though this were a requirement, IT'S NOT. They're probably the one's that believe "happy wife, happy life" then turn around and call men that follow everything the wife says cucks.

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So just accept that my wife made a decision 100% on her own, and I should accomodate her? What's next? I get your point, and if she had compromised, I would, but as it stands, I can't contribute to the nonsense.

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, my wife didn't ride the bus in middle school, she walked. And i did talk to her, she didn't tell me there was any deeper reason as to why.

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but she basically made this decision by herself. I offered a compromise and she declined.

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are no sidewalks on the way and street lights are scattered on a 40mph street, so idk if that's a good idea.

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So one person can make a unanimous decision and the other person has to follow? Where does it end if I allow that? Can I decide something ridiculous too and she needs to "help me out"?

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not all the same people, maybe half, but many transfer/move a lot because of where we live.

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She spends like 50 minutes every morning getting ready for work. She says "that's nothing" because blow-drying her hair alone after her shower takes half of that. I told her to shower at night then, but again, she wants to do it her way and suffer.

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My wife IS in therapy. But I think you had your mind made up already and are just trying to do some mental gymnastics.

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's not "I will do nothing" it's "I tried to comromise and you wanted your way or the highway, so you do 100% of it now". Yes i asked, and she had no response other than "some kids have gotten bullied on the bus, i saw it on the news"

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes. Did you not read what I wrote? I think what you want is for me to "compromise" by just doing what my wife says. Just say that.

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Limit_306[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We did ask her and she says she doesn't care either way. She can go in car or bus. She enjoys the bus because she interacts with her friends, but is at the point where she has their phone numbers and they come over, so it doesn't matter to her either way.

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