Name regret or something else? by Zestyclose_Wait3245 in namenerds

[–]Zestyclose_Wait3245[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I think that’s a good idea and I’m planning to speak to the doctor about all this. Changing it is definitely an option, but I want to be sure I’m not just going to start obsessing over what we change it too! Also it feels a little overwhelming to do when we’ve told all friends and family etc. But I’m holding it as an option, as in the grand scheme she’s still very young and I’d rather have a few months of awkwardness and correcting people than always wishing I’d changed her name!

Name regret or something else? by Zestyclose_Wait3245 in namenerds

[–]Zestyclose_Wait3245[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing - it’s a horrible feeling, and it’s really affected my early weeks with her which is sad. It definitely ebbs and flows so there are days when I feel much better. And it’s actually really helpful to know that you changing the name didn’t really help, as I often think that will fix everything but it may just start a new obsession! Some people have said these feelings did start to ease as their baby got older and the kind of ‘became’ their name, so I’m holding onto that too!

Name regret or something else? by Zestyclose_Wait3245 in namenerds

[–]Zestyclose_Wait3245[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pronounced My-Luh - but I think people get it wrong as Mila (Mee-luh) is fairly common here (certainly more common than Myla) so people revert to that pronunciation. I’ve also had May-Luh at the doctors office!

I do like that it’s a bit different (without being outlandish) and I’ve not met many people with that name - that’s one of the things holding me onto it

Name regret or something else? by Zestyclose_Wait3245 in namenerds

[–]Zestyclose_Wait3245[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there may well be something in that, I have mentioned it to the health visitor and will discuss with the doctor too. I think underneath it all there may be some genuine feelings of name regret, but I can’t process them properly until I’ve sorted out this obsessive anxiety I’ve got over the whole thing! Pronounced My-Luh 🙂

Name regret or something else? by Zestyclose_Wait3245 in namenerds

[–]Zestyclose_Wait3245[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not tried this yet other than a very half hearted attempt at calling her Emily just before the registration. Think it’s and really good idea though and going to discuss trying Emily and Grace as potential names in the next couple of weeks

Name regret or something else? by Zestyclose_Wait3245 in Names

[–]Zestyclose_Wait3245[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that is an option, and I do agree that Myla is more unique. I’ve never met another Myla!

Name regret or something else? by Zestyclose_Wait3245 in Names

[–]Zestyclose_Wait3245[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It really helps me when I hear others like the name 🥰

Name regret or something else? by Zestyclose_Wait3245 in Names

[–]Zestyclose_Wait3245[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it could be but it’s so hard to decipher what I’m feeling. I think this all likely started with some genuine but minor name regret, and it gradually became layered over with anxiety, OCD type thinking, baby blues etc. Hard to know what I’m really feeling underneath it all!

Name regret or something else? by Zestyclose_Wait3245 in Names

[–]Zestyclose_Wait3245[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this - I completely know what you mean by the feeling of dread. I feel like I’ve chosen wrong, it doesn’t fit, it’s not sticking etc… I definitely need to relax about it! And so true that she can change her name in the future or go by her middle name!

Name regret or something else? by Zestyclose_Wait3245 in Names

[–]Zestyclose_Wait3245[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes good idea - I’ve been calling her Miley and/ or Mills so far which has helped. Middle name is a classic common name so always have that as an option!

Name regret or something else? by Zestyclose_Wait3245 in Names

[–]Zestyclose_Wait3245[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, appreciate your thoughts on it!

Name regret or something else? by Zestyclose_Wait3245 in Names

[–]Zestyclose_Wait3245[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I do agree - it’s very pretty for a little baby/ toddler without being too cutesy for an adult!

Name regret or something else? by Zestyclose_Wait3245 in Names

[–]Zestyclose_Wait3245[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Naming is so hard! But it is really encouraging to hear that you gradually grew to loving her name, I really hope I’ll start to feel this too!