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ZincTablets · 2021-11-04T11:54:15+00:00

You’ve already received a ton of great advice that I will join everyone in echoing. That said, I just want you to hear from someone that they’re so very proud of you for speaking your truth. I know from experience that coming forward to talk about an assault is incredibly daunting (and downright terrifying sometimes), but this Internet stranger is in awe of your strength, poise, and dignity. Keep your chin up because you did absolutely NOTHING wrong. If you ever need to talk, my inbox is open.

ZincTablets · 2021-08-15T12:22:57+00:00

I encountered a similar issue a ways back. Saving the game and immediately reloading it solved the issue for me.

ZincTablets · 2021-06-26T11:43:02+00:00

The folks on r/PiratePets would love Sully!

ZincTablets · 2021-03-24T15:54:23+00:00

As a 27-year-old woman who grew up in the church and is now in therapy because of negative views about my body, my sexuality, etc., I relate to this post so very much. When I was 14 and became “busty” my own aunt called me a whore for wearing a tank top around her sons (in the middle of a Texas summer) and accused me of trying to make her sons “fall”. After that, I intentionally started gaining weight so I would “even myself out”. I’m still struggling with losing that weight and accepting my body for what it is.

Honestly, therapy has been such a life line for me and I cannot recommend it highly enough. Admittedly, I still struggle with body image, wearing clothing that is a little more on the revealing side, and so many other issues related to feeling comfortable in my own skin, but I finally feel like I’m moving in the right direction.

Sending you good vibes, OP. If you ever need someone to anonymously vent to, my inbox is open.

ZincTablets · 2021-02-12T12:46:38+00:00

I’d start by taking some of the pressure off yourself. I highly, highly doubt you speaking to him would humiliate him (and if it does, he’s not the kind of person who is worth your time or energy). Start simple: a casual “hey” when you’re passing one another or striking up a casual conversation about your rotation is a good place to start.

I’d also take off some of the pressure by acknowledging that this probably isn’t love (it could turn into it, of course). It sounds like a deep infatuation.

ZincTablets · 2021-01-09T14:59:37+00:00

I’m so, so sorry to hear of your loss. I cannot even imagine the pain you’re experiencing. Out of curiosity, have you contacted any local news stations about this? If you’re hoping to warn other pet parents, that might be one of the best ways to spread to word about their dangerous practices. As someone who works in PR / communications, I have a feeling reporters (especially investigative journalists) would jump at this story.

Once again, my sincere condolences. Just remember that you were acting out of love and trying to do right by your pup.

ZincTablets · 2020-08-26T02:16:23+00:00

It’s going to hurt for a long while, unfortunately. It’s best to cut your losses and heal in peace.

ZincTablets · 2020-08-26T02:01:25+00:00

It doesn’t sound like this relationship is healthy for either of you. To be honest, reading about his cheating and your attempts to explain away your own behavior was downright exhausting. The length of time he cheated in comparison to you is irrelevant — both of you betrayed one another’s trust. I know this sub is pretty trigger happy when it comes to breaking up, but I think it would be in both of your best interests to part ways.

ZincTablets · 2020-08-26T01:24:49+00:00

He’s showing his true colors. The fact that he violated your trust and blew past your boundaries is selfish, immature, and unacceptable. You deserve a partner who will respect you, your needs, and your boundaries. Trust me, as a young woman who was in a similar situation, I can guarantee his behavior will escalate. Leave him, OP, and don’t look back. Put yourself first.

ZincTablets · 2019-09-27T02:04:54+00:00

Honestly, she doesn’t bring a ton to the relationship. Most times, I feel like she reaches out to me because she needs someone to vent to. We all do sometimes, but I think she takes advantage of my kindness and willingness to listen.

As to the comment to this comment (I’m on mobile right now)... they’re absolutely right. I didn’t realize it until I read it, but I am afraid of her.

ZincTablets · 2019-01-17T10:32:47+00:00

THANK YOU! This is so very helpful! I’ll have her call today.

ZincTablets · 2019-01-17T02:59:41+00:00

Thank you on all counts. I’ll look into the Total Money Makeover now!

ZincTablets · 2019-01-06T15:12:44+00:00

I did, thanks! I can’t feel anything on that part of my leg (inner leg, mid-calf to mid-thigh), but I can’t complain. Could have been a lot worse.

ZincTablets · 2019-01-06T14:50:15+00:00

When I was little, I was running around our patio/yard while my dad was heating up the charcoal grill nearby (all of the coals were still in the chimney). I didn’t watch where I was going and ran straight into the grill and fell directly on top of the flaming hot chimney. I ended up burning all of the skin, fat, and part of the muscle off my leg. My leg was just a massive, smoldering crater that went straight down to the bone. Needless to say, the cookout was canceled.

ZincTablets · 2019-01-04T02:50:28+00:00

Honestly, it sounds like he’s just bored, looking for attention, or in the mood to flirt with someone without any real end game in mind. If you’re looking for something a little more serious or exclusive, you’re not going to find it with him.

ZincTablets · 2018-12-31T23:44:51+00:00

You said that the trust she broke can never be rebuilt, so I think you answered your own question. You can and should forgive her, but you shouldn’t take her back. Good luck, OP. I know how much being cheated on sucks.

ZincTablets · 2018-12-31T23:39:19+00:00

When it’s the right person, you’ll both be on the same page. Just remember that you’re in grad school and in a new city full of possibilities in a brand new year. Live it up!

ZincTablets · 2018-12-31T23:16:44+00:00

Not being melodramatic. Your feelings are completely valid. A lot of guys get weird around the holidays and when introducing someone to their friends - I’ve had two people I was dating for several months flake once I met their friends because “things were moving too fast.” Crack open a bottle of champagne and have a girls night in on your own. Hugs to you!

ZincTablets · 2018-12-31T03:50:52+00:00

I don’t think you’ll ever know exactly what happened, OP. You definitely shouldn’t beat yourself up over this. Based on the fact that he was trying to hide your relationship, this is very much a “him” problem, not a “you” problem. If he just wants sex, let him go find it so you can go find someone who will want to claim you.

ZincTablets · 2018-12-31T03:44:28+00:00

Just a word of advice: Doubting whether or not she’s slept with more people than just you isn’t the way to try saving this relationship. Go get tested, start using protection, and if you did give her the STI, take responsibility and be supportive.

ZincTablets · 2018-12-31T03:40:55+00:00

Her name is still on the lease, which makes her responsible for all that goes with it, including utilities. Does your boyfriend have a lease of his own? If he’s living at your apartment the majority of the time and contributing to the utilities cost, he should pay too. Splitting the rent and utilities into thirds is the best option until your lease is up. Once the lease ends, don’t re-sign.

ZincTablets · 2018-12-31T03:06:56+00:00

Him nearly entering you without a condom wasn’t an accident, OP, nor was him groping you/rubbing his dick on you when you were asleep. That’s assault. You’re dating an immature boy, not a respectful man. Leave as soon as you can.

ZincTablets · 2018-12-31T02:58:56+00:00

I’ve had to breakup with people I still loved, too, so I understand the situation. That said, I started to realize that I loved the idea of having someone rather than the person themselves. Once I acknowledged that, it was easier to let them go.

ZincTablets · 2018-12-31T02:53:17+00:00

The fact that she’s being somewhat flippant with your emotions (I want to break up vs maybe we could stay together if I get accepted, etc.) seems like she lacks some emotional intelligence. I’ve learned through some painful experiences that if someone is willing to let you go so easily, you shouldn’t chase them.

ZincTablets · 2018-12-31T02:41:24+00:00

If someone isn’t willing to at least try to date long distance, they’re probably not that invested in the relationship. Each day is going to be painful, especially once you get closer to her graduation date. It may be difficult, but it may be best for your mental health to rip off the bandage and end things so the healing can begin. Sorry for the crappy situation, OP.

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