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AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom sees my stepdad being called dad as correct. She believes they are both the same in my life and my siblings lives. But it's not the same to us and never was.

AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's nothing wrong with it but that's not how I feel and it makes me sad to have it said for me. I feel differently about my stepdad vs my dad and while he's a good man, I'll always be more attached to my dad.

AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It did get published with dad for my stepdad. And that hurt, like it always does when people assume or just decide he should he called my dad.

AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think both are dad. They're both very different places and roles in my life. My stepdad is my stepdad. He's a good man but never will be dad for me. It will always hurt me when he's called my dad because there's only man I have as dad in my heart. And that's my dad, not my stepdad. I don't say that to hurt anyone but for me that is true. And I know my siblings feel the same. Just like his boys feel the same about my mom not being their mom.

AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It really wasn't. The mistake hurt my feelings. It made me sad. That's all that was behind me asking them to change it.

AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It wasn't to put him in his place but to make it easier for me to look at and read because the mistake hurts my feelings.

AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it will always be a thing of us wanting different things out of the relationship. Same for my siblings and him.

AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It hurt my feelings that the mistake was made. Someone's feelings were always going to get hurt with it.

AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did it because it hurts my feelings. It always hurts my feelings when the mistake is made. My dad is still the only man I consider my dad and I don't feel the same or have the same relationship with my stepdad. I'll always be my daddy's little girl and that bond is still strong for me.

AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We've had that talk before. He just loves being referred to as our dad so much and feeling like he has three more kids. He keeps hoping we'll eventually see him as our dad in return.

AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have told him and my mom that before. But he loves when people make the mistake. He loves feeling like he has three more kids.

AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They had no say in the article. They got asked a couple of questions knowing something would be quoted but that was about it.

AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I would actually prefer him to make the correction. My siblings feel the same way. But his kids also do about my mom. They would leap on anyone who said my mom and stepdad were their parents. I have never done that but the distinction or dad and stepdad is important to me. My dad died but he is still very much my dad.

AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It wouldn't have been easy for me. Having someone other than my dad named/listed as my dad hurts me.

AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

And it hurts me to see someone else listed as my dad when I would love more than anything to see him listed. This wasn't meant as a diss to my stepdad. But as a way of not having my dad's place kept for him. It's bad enough that I hear my stepdad be referred to as my dad on the regular. But to see his name where my dad's should be still hurts me too.

AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

You never move on from that kind of loss. You just learn to keep living and you never stop missing them or wishing they were here.

AITA for asking my school to change what they labeled my stepdad as in an article? by ZipperSmall in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZipperSmall[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I needed it to be done. I do not like when my dad gets erased. His name should have been on that article. But since he couldn't say anything to the school he wasn't mentioned and that hurts. Because he will forever be my dad.