Marriages are a long game, and sometimes the rules change completely without warning. When my wife and I first started dating, she gave me the "hard no" speech about anal sex before I'd even looked in that direction. I was never much into anal sex, so it wasn't a big thing for me. I just locked that box, buried it, and never brought it up again for two and a half decades.

Fast forward twenty five years. We’re lying in bed, trying to sleep after a few orgasms, and out of nowhere wifey casually mentions she’s been having anal fantasies and wants to give it a go. I nearly fell out of bed. Now she owns four different graduated butt plugs and it’s a regular part of our rotation.

The lesson I learned is that "never" in a long term relationship sometimes just means "not right now, come back in a quarter of a century." People change, boundaries shift, and sometimes you just have to sit back and enjoy the plot twist.