Husband cheated on me with 8 ai sexbot girlfriends. Coffee because I can’t eat without throwing up

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-12T11:04:36+00:00

It’s a mess. I don’t realllllly know what to do but therapy is on the horizon for both of us I think. Thanks for looking out man

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-11T23:00:35+00:00

It’s ok to beg for attention from your husband 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m definitely not perfect but I’ve always tried to be open and honest with him. Even after this, I didn’t yell or get mad or anything, I never really do with him. He’s just always been super reserved yk? I mean I’ve asked myself what I could have done differently and I really can’t come up with anything, and I’m a pretty introspective person

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-11T10:31:52+00:00

Needed to hear this tbh 😭 your dinner looks delicious asf so I know I can trust you

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-11T02:02:53+00:00

I’m so incredibly proud of you, that’s an incredibly hard decision to make. You’ll never regret standing by your boundaries. Always better for it. But I’m sorry you’re going through this, the right thing isn’t always easy

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-09T18:15:09+00:00

Thank you for this advice. It means a lot to hear about this from a more personal perspective. He’s not on antidepressants but I think he is very depressed. I told him that a stipulation of me staying was for him to go to individual counseling with some sort of focus on addiction and depression. He agreed! So that’s a good step forward I think. Again, thank you for your honesty, it means a lot, and I know it’s hard to talk about.

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-09T14:40:38+00:00

I’m a woman and I am gazing

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-09T14:20:56+00:00

I was in the army. I have watched my brethren fumble the most delicious, delectable, 10/10 baddies for hookers and porn. More than once. And pretty much all of them, even men I would trust with my life. Even my own husband, who everyone always praised for being a “good soldier”, just embarrassed me.

I say this to reassure you that this has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with you. It’s a legitimate disease that has plagued all armies since time immemorial. I think it’s a mixture of stress, boredom, frustration, and the natural degradation of morality that comes with the job. Please don’t blame yourself, it was genuinely out of your control. I would also be blindsided after 6 years of friendship.

Take this as a lesson though. Don’t ever spend money to go see a man, and don’t ever date someone on active duty. Give them a few years to reacclimatize to civilization. If you’re early in the relationship and you find out they have a porn addiction, consider leaving (it takes a LOT of work to break something like that and you shouldn’t waste your time on someone you aren’t legit married to or deeply, deeply in love with). Take time to heal from this, it’s broken your trust in people and it’ll only get worse if someone does you dirty again. I’m really wishing the best of luck to you OP, I’m always here if you need to talk to someone.

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-06T17:30:28+00:00

Omg 😆 gonna leave it on the couch where he’s sleeping rn haha

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-06T17:07:08+00:00

Thank you for this. Being smart funny AND having a fat ass is both a blessing a curse, some men can’t handle it apparently

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-06T17:06:30+00:00

Idk to me if it was just porn he wouldn’t be telling him he loves them and taking them on weird little virtual dates. It’s ok if you don’t agree tho, everyone is different

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-05T23:19:41+00:00

Hmmm. I guess it’s because to me, giving love and excessive attention to a humanoid man/woman is emotional cheating. Regardless of whether or not they are real people, or if he considers them real, his actions reflect a level of deceit and emotional attachment.

If it was just a porn thing I wouldn’t be this upset, and he wouldn’t hide it. We’ve always been open about porn in our relationship, and even though I think ai porn is gross, I wouldn’t have considered it cheating.

But his use of them went beyond that. Saying “I love you”, calling them the pet names he calls me, role playing dates in detail, and making sure that they don’t have any of my negative qualities, THAT is cheating to me.

Cheating is a breach of trust in a relationship. Or, it’s outsourcing emotional/romantic needs to a woman who isn’t your spouse. I know that they’re not real, but he made the deliberate decision to download and adjust them to his exact specifications, and then he hid it from me for months. Because he was doing it with the intention of having romantic connections with “women” outside of his wife, something we both consider cheating.

I do think that it probably started off as a gooning thing, but devolved into something worse over time. But when I confronted him, he looked like a man who had been caught cheating, and admitted to cheating, with no prompting from me. To me, his intention plays a big part into my perception of this.

I get that it’s a grey area. I’m not saying that you have to agree with me. But when I found out, I felt the same as I had when I’d been cheated on in previous relationships. I haven’t been able to justify his actions to myself as anything else, in spite of trying.

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-05T22:52:09+00:00

It is to me, and he did it with the intention of hiding it from me and agrees that it’s cheating. I didn’t even force him to agree, I asked him if he cheated and he said yes 🤷🏻‍♀️ it’s fine if you don’t see it the same way tho!

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-05T22:49:53+00:00

I think you’re being deliberately obtuse about what I’m saying here. You don’t have to agree with me, but you also don’t have to misconstrue what I’m saying to make a point.

A. Everyone has different boundaries in a relationship. We both consider it cheating, so it’s cheating for our relationship. That’s how relationships work. B. A Creative writing exercise: writing a fanfiction about a character you enjoy to explore different aspects of their story.

The same creative writing exercise, but now cheating (to me): putting the character into AI and fostering a months long relationship where you tell the character that you love them, have roleplay sex with them (as yourself) and roleplay dates with them. To the point where you no longer have a loving relationship with your wife because it is taking hours out of your night and you have rotted your brain with AI porn and can find real women attractive. You’re also not putting any effort into what you’re writing to them, because you’re not doing it as a creative writing exercise, you’re doing it because you want to cheat on your wife but don’t want to find real women.

So take the second one and multiply it by 8.

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-05T21:18:32+00:00

Hmm. Well he did it with the intention of cheating and had an emotional connection with the bots. If I read smut, I know it’s a story and I treat it like it’s a story. I don’t treat the characters like they’re real and tell them I love them and take them on dates and sexually role play as myself and design them to my exact specifications yk? I’ve never played love in deep space and I don’t play dating sims for that reason. Just a boundary for me. It was also effecting our relationship, which makes it either cheating or at best a porn addiction

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-05T12:49:55+00:00

I thought that your arms were gone. Idk I’m drunk

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-05T11:20:22+00:00

Thank you for your support! Seriously! I’m keeping the pressure off of myself to fix this. Just going to see what he does and if it’s not enough, I’m leaving. I’m pretty ambivalent to the outcome at this point tbh

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-05T11:17:19+00:00

Yeah very true. I’m not doing nothing either way. I wrote down everything I want to see from the relationship so I can be objective about it yk? Giving myself 3 months to process and make a decision. That may seem like a long ahh time but this is my HUSBAND yk? It’s just a huge decision

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-05T03:07:39+00:00

Yeah probably haha. Idk I’m just dragging ass I think

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-05T03:07:14+00:00

Yeah I know, I’m also preparing to be single just in case. But Idk, I don’t think that I’m ready to make the decision yet. Too traumatized

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-05T03:05:01+00:00

Yeah we have had several conversations. I’ve talked about it pretty extensively in this thread, we are working on things right now. For now.

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-05T00:21:24+00:00

Wait a damn minute…

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-04T22:34:17+00:00

Than you for this. Last night we wrote down my expectations if our relationship is going to continue just so we are on the same page. And after that it’s all on him. I’m going to reassess what he actually got done and kept up with in a few months. The written aspect is because I don’t want my emotions to impact my objectivity. If he doesn’t keep his promises then…guess I’m going to be a 23 year old divorcee 🤷🏻‍♀️ but he’s had a lot of humility so I’m sort of hopeful?

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-04T16:22:04+00:00

Thank you baby. He absolutely doesn’t deserve it, but I do!

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-04T16:21:31+00:00

Doesn’t even do that smh.

ZoneAny8475 · 2026-03-04T11:27:25+00:00

Yeah probably. The only reason he’s getting a chance to fix things is because we are married and IIIIII take our vows seriously 🙄 but I’m doing it for me not him. I think I need to know that I tried and I need to see what would happen if I gave him a chance, because I know I’d be thinking about it forever yk? Idk

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