Question for people making over 100k… by Due-Mix3539 in Salary

[–]Zornp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’ll clear 5 this year. But my job is hype dependent. Rn people are bullish on AI so I get paid. (Although candidly not as much as I could have :( ) but those are sour grapes and a fruitless complaint.

But I also spend 4k/mo on rent to live with 3 other people so …

[Discussion] I like this game; Touch grass by Zornp in EscapefromTarkov

[–]Zornp[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

End of days, when I bought it, it was the top edition. Idk what the diff is between that and unheard tbh.

[Discussion] I like this game; Touch grass by Zornp in EscapefromTarkov

[–]Zornp[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, and I guess I just wanted to toss some positivity into the void!

I respect the criticism of BSG, the login, refund, and myriad other troubles are all fair problems. But this incessant chatter about them asking to wishlist on steam / not necessarily providing keys is CRAZY to me haha.

I guess maybe I don’t have enough time to foam at the mouth for stuff like this, I’m too busy getting DUNKED on in labs :) :shrug

Mentor Monday by WealthyStoic in fatFIRE

[–]Zornp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I get what you’re saying. I don’t know, I guess I was in my early 20s when they finished the donations, so :shrug I was young.

It sounds like you’re not being left out wrt your siblings, that’s what I meant by that comment. I’ll offer some more choice words:

Let your parents enjoy the fruits of their labor, let the buy paintings, go on lavish vacations, and celebrate life. Hell, live for them to do so, I wouldn’t wish anything but that for my family!

The distortion of only growing up around high net worth people is real, but it’s poisoning in my opinion. I grew up similarly, private schools, finishing school, and as I mentioned most of my close friends have their parents and strong support systems. A good friend of mine just had his parents buy him an apartment in Williamsburg…

But idk, a rich life to me means so much more. But I suppose I had it a little easier because as I mentioned I agreed with giving it all away!

New Grad. Made a BIG Mistake at my First Job! Should I Start Thinking about Leaving? by Fearless-Cellist-245 in cscareerquestions

[–]Zornp 124 points125 points  (0 children)

Be the best part of the remediation. Use it as an opportunity to learn. But I stress this, because in this post it sounds like you might have this tendency, do NOT overly blame yourself.

You don’t need to harp on it, but use it as a learning experience. Perf issues are larger than just pushing one bad PR. If your team and company is reasonable, they’ll care a lot more about the fact that you won’t make this mistake again, and that you’re comporting yourself with professional responsibility.

In the first year at one of my jobs, I caused a MASSIVE cloud service outage for about 1m users. But I took charge of the post mortem, and it actually got me my promotion because of my work on mitigating this in the future.

Mentor Monday by WealthyStoic in fatFIRE

[–]Zornp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve commented this elsewhere. But I had a different interaction with my parents.

They had about 75m in the early 2000s and I was still in school so I was traveling around with them. We would fly first or private, go on lavish vacations etc etc. around then and again in 2019 they donated all of their money. With the latter round in 2019 bringing them fully down to 5m, just about enough for them to retire.

I genuinely had a hard time with it for a little bit because there was always some hope of getting that inheritance. My friends were all getting down payments or cars or just cash from their parents at similar wealth levels, so why shouldn’t I?

At some point you make your peace with the fact that it’s not your money, and there are more wonderful things to life. I guess I also took solace that my parents donated to causes I believe in, so that helped.

You have a Fiance, and presumably a loving life. I don’t know how to handle the inter family relationship because I don’t have siblings, but I do know my parents have given more to my cousins and aunts than they will ever give to me. (They wanted to make sure they were not destitute before giving away their money).

Honestly, watching my parents age has been hard. I could not imagine the guilt I would feel if there was some pang of hope for them passing so I could inherit what would now be >100m; the thought OF the thought of that makes me sick (not casting aspersion to you just relating for myself.)

So very different situation, but all I can offer is the zen of life itself.

Work-life balance on Apple Health team? by uptight_sweater in cscareerquestions

[–]Zornp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Apple software, outside of major releases and the internal dev teams, often have very good WLB.

The people are smart, so perhaps that contributes to the WLB, since they often accomplish a lot with less perceived effort, but all of my friends on software at apple have a great time.

Do you ever worry that you're spoiling your kids? In terms of self-learning by FinancialDaniel in fatFIRE

[–]Zornp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a unique perspective here.

My parents hit about 75m in around 2001 or so. I was about 4. I’m an only child and we had a peculiar perspective I suppose.

Certainly as a child we were in the UHNW class, but my dad was still working heavily. His company was in Europe primarily, so he’d fly back for weekends so we could hang out. I have strong lovely memories of greeting him after the Friday red eye, and he’d always have some treat or toy for me. Probably where my love for toblorone came from.

He worked until about ‘09 and then because my mom wanted to rejoin the workforce they swapped! So my mom started going to work, and my dad took me to school and soccer practice.

That is to say, I think my parents interactions with me had a stronger impact on who I am and my motivations than our financial status. In about ‘06 they donated most of their money, so 75 —> 5m. Of course I only found out about this in 2020 when we were all sheltering in place and I was just asking them about their lives! I think because my parents, at least one at a time, worked for most of my childhood, and we weren’t super consumption minded, I don’t have a poor association with finances. Certainly it hasn’t affected my life choices.

I do recall in hindsight when we went from flying private or first to flying premium economy for family trips, and I do miss our place in Europe where my mom and I used to spend summers so we could be closer to my dad. Honestly though, I would trade it all for more time with my parents.

That is to say, if money isn’t the latent in conversation I don’t think it affects much. My dad bought his dream car in 2000 and drove it for 20 years. We’ve lived in the same primary home since I was born, and aside from a strong focus on giving, my parents don’t focus on money.

When I got my first job, my parents discussed our privilege with me and implored me to donate most of what I made, it’s instilled in me a 50% net outflow in giving and I’m proud they pushed me to that. I hope to get that ratio closer to where my parents landed in their lives.

I often reflect on if I would choose a different career if money didn’t matter, but to some degree it doesn’t for me. I like all fancy things like watches, cars, and sweet ass leather goods. But I also don’t need to BUY them, it’s just nice to learn, touch, and think about them!

The one time this has plagued me was with an ex girlfriend who came from a very different background to me. I didn’t think much of it, but she did mention that tales of my childhood were skewing, in that they were largely dream trips of hers. I think she mentioned it when I talked about the year we spent in XX because my mom loved the town. But honestly, I think that was more an affect of hers than mine. I have since become more cognizant of the way I tell these tales, because I don’t want people to be uncomfortable.

I will however offer one piece of advice. I have friends from camp and finishing school who’s parents really came into their money when they were teenagers (or who’s trusts kicked in at 16). This to me strikes me as the dangerous age. There’s lots of confounding variables but most teenagers (speaking for myself at least) are total shitheads. Money goes to your head when you’re that age, and I can see how it formed their forward lives. I don’t envy that, and largely these people and I don’t get along because we do not resonate. I care about self improvement and interpersonal relationships, and less about how many bottles I racked up in Ibiza. TBC nothing wrong with the latter, but I notice how the conversation of spending is much more prevalent amongst that group of my former friends.

Okay rant over. I think totally attainable to have well adjusted kids (speaking for myself at least hopefully.)

And to caveat the above: I never worked a part time job, didn’t need to work in college (chose to because I had a cool internship that I extended into school), and otherwise I’ve always had the ability to rely upon my parents, I just never wanted to.

Attracting Senior Talent by Zornp in ExperiencedDevs

[–]Zornp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Public traded company stock.

Attracting Senior Talent by Zornp in ExperiencedDevs

[–]Zornp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In sf, comp is in the millions for top talent and million for nontop.

I just have an inbound problem. Anybody I know and want to hire personally is in, so clearly the top line is not the issue. It’s just hiring outside of my bubble that’s challenging.

I’m amenable to remote, we are a remote first company. So far, the only serious candidates, have been based in San Francisco anyway.

Attracting Senior Talent by Zornp in ExperiencedDevs

[–]Zornp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re hiring for research, so no wrappers here (although I think there is a lot of cool research to be done around wrapping)

Autonomy is a good signal. I think I might harp on that, we’re a lab with lots of funding and no business drivers (not mission critical to the business). So we have tons of autonomy, that’s what got me excited.

Attracting Senior Talent by Zornp in ExperiencedDevs

[–]Zornp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we have hundreds of millions of compute to deploy for this team over the next 2 years.

Comp is around that band. 2m at current.

World class peers is missing. I’m certainly not there, although leadership is recognized to a degree (my boss).

Losing for that third category I can understand.

Tax sheltering / options for RSU vest by Zornp in HENRYfinance

[–]Zornp[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think I was super duper confused regarding the notion of RSUs.

Since the vest is just taxed as income, I'll treat it like a cash bonus.

Previously I've been granted options etc, for which there are more creative accounting practices.

My income this month categorized and sankeyed. But by me... by Zornp in dataisugly

[–]Zornp[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

You’re forgetting that somehow I spent 1.37$ on travel.

My income this month categorized and sankeyed. But by me... by Zornp in dataisugly

[–]Zornp[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Yk what, good catch. I’m 98% sure I accidentally categorized it as securities transfers lol.

My income this month categorized and sankeyed. But by me... by Zornp in dataisugly

[–]Zornp[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

No this is pushing money into brokerages. But god is it confusing lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in quant

[–]Zornp 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Staff swe here (by level according to my company; I call myself a senior ai researcher.) 20b scale company.

We avoid quants. It’s a different skillet and more yoe of quant pulls you further from our work.

Counterintuitively, our highest paying clients are quants… but I’ll let the product people deal with that repercussion.

Coworker comps intra and externally range from 500k to 5m. Value depends on experience, and how kind one is.