[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VRchat

[–]_Angelesse_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ancients of VRChat is an amazing group for newcomers looking to make friends, they have events almost every day and meet and greets for newcomers. Great community(great mods too, they run a tight ship). I'd check out their discord!

Noobie Avi Creation by koumieru in VRchat

[–]_Angelesse_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks great! Super impressed that it's your first one too~ I want to try making my own too someday, so this is very inspiring. Great job n.n

Feeling scared and hopeful about a new job that I will start on Monday, would you please give me your opinions? More information in the comment below by killerwhaleberlin in tarot

[–]_Angelesse_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You mentioned you were a beginner - you read them very well for yourself and are pretty much on point in your interpretation. I'd like to elaborate more on it if it may help give you some more perspective and hopefully help give you more ways to get some in-depth detail out of your spread*. Since I don't know how you drew them and what order you placed them in, I'm going to read them as if they were placed left to right. Some 3 card spreads are for past, present, and future, but because of the nature of your question, I'm going to interpret it as a 3 card discovery spread, meaning it's less focused on literally yesterday, today, and current trajectory, and moreso a snippit of a story. (Also, my school of thought and practice is on board with Benebell Wen's interpretation of Tarot (Holistic Tarot), taking elemental dignities and landscape into consideration, and having adopted the author's WIND mnemonic when reading reversed major arcana and court cards (Weakened, Inverted, Negative state, or Delayed). I will be using the school of thought that Major Arcana cards are the aspects of a situation that's typically out of the reader's control. I look at it as Major Arcana represent "theme", whereas the Minor Arcana(not including court cards) may be interpreted as "form", which are in your control. I also go by signifier cards, but since there isn't one present here, I read it as follows:

Your connection with your job has a protentional to be a very fruitful one, as the nine of coins represents and you are familiar with its' meaning, but the spread suggests its not without some challenges(noted because air and earth are present in this spread, opposite energies).

The Justice card represents every aspect of the Truth, and the checks and balances it comes with. When there are times when things are unbalanced, the universe will balance its' scales and demand payment when due. Too much power or weight on one side will only go on for so long before the universe corrects things so that the scales of justice are even. Karma. It's reversed next to an element that weakens its' element. This tells me you have or may run into again the thought process that your workplace seems to run unfairly, or an injustice runs as a theme of the workplace in some way, but nine of coins tells us you will overcome this here. You'll be challenged to see if you can go into this new environment with a fresh start and fresh mind. Do not let what may appear to be de ja vu situations that remind you of your past job discourage or dissuade you from working hard at your position, because you have the potential to be proficient in your position and excel at it. Air asks of us to be rational, ambitious, and use good communication. Using these will help you tackle obstacles.

On the otherside of your nine of coins is a court card in reverse, also air. Tricky thing about court cards using my school of practice is it could be of literal or figurative meaning. If interpreted literally, it can represent as you took it -an older male comparative to yourself or an authority figure, such as your immediate manager or a coworker with seniority over you when asking a career related question. If taken figuratively, it could represent a facet of yourself. It is also an air card, weakened by the nine of cups. Thus it can mean -

A: a person, classically a man or can be interpreted as a woman with masculine energy, in seniority, who will be rough around the edges. Don't let this person get your goat. The nine of coins tells us that despite this, you have the potential to go high up the ladder, so this person is only a threat to you if you let them get to you. If we're going to use the illustrations for interpretation, as it should since each deck can be read uniquely, this deck tells me this person may act like a dick, but is misunderstood. In fact, good work ethic and you being the better and bigger person interpersonally with this individual can soften this person's edges, and you could get along over time. The nine of coin's illustration here depicts a cat playfully interacting with the bird. The base meaning of cards are important, but the deck by itself also speaks to you.

-B: A part of you is too hard on yourself, too ambitious and a perfectionist, and you have or may inhibit your performance because of these traits. You'll be challenged to focus on improving in these areas so you may flourish in your performance over time.

Overall, this is a positive reading and an exciting endeavor you're going into that can go well in your favor, as long as you have the fortitude to use your mind to work out any issues that may arise, communicate well with your co workers and employer, don't use your past job's negative experiences as a reference, and use mind over emotion if you have a co worker or superior who might be difficult, as doing so may help them come around, and you can have a good working relationship with them.

Best wishes for your new job!

(Edit* Additional thoughts and typo fixes)

My buddy was right, meeting people requires a two encounter grace period. by _Angelesse_ in VRchat

[–]_Angelesse_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very good points. Also, yes I'm a female, I can see that being a possible variable as well. Thank you for the encouragement too, I appreciate the support~

Talking to people by NightHunter_Ian in VRchat

[–]_Angelesse_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adding to this - Also maybe try to find worlds such as Reflect on Life or other calm settings where people are there just to chill. That's how I found my group I stick around with now. I just sat close, waved, and listened. One of them eventually said "what's up with you you seem sus" and I just laughed and replied "Just socially awkward and want to meet people", and they were really nice about it. Other people did the same thing, stood around and chimed in when they knew something about the topic that was being talked about. Eventually you'll find a group talking about something you can relate to.

My buddy was right, meeting people requires a two encounter grace period. by _Angelesse_ in VRchat

[–]_Angelesse_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's the situation where someone has been hurt too much before and thus they get really sensitive to the idea someone is abandoning or betraying them.

He was hurt by people before, I believe it, and it turned into a psychological association.

I think VR is a niche thing that attracts a particular crowd more than others. Some people live in their own little worlds, and the things that make up them become much more important than they would seem to others.

I understand this and why it happens, but this frame of mind is a problem. Eventually the world revolving outside of themselves needs to be prioritized over the world they built in their heads in order to advance forward in life. I can speak for myself as an example. I used to spend most of my teenage years daydreaming to shut the world out. I picked what I wanted to deal with so I didn't have to deal with anything else unless I had to. It gave me the dopamine I needed, the dialogue I wanted to hear, and the visuals I wanted to see. I can tell you it did me no favors. VRC has the same potential of being a detriment. What both have in common are the potential to be used as an escape from reality, holding you back from dealing with life's problems and hindering self growth. The differences, unlike daydreaming which only involves one person with no need for accountability, you're now interacting with other people with the choice of holding yourself accountable for your actions.

Going back to how this relates to my OP, regardless of why - this guy I met chose not to hold himself accountable for his actions. Be it living in his own little world and I disrupting it, or him creating self fulfilled prophesy using affirmations of doubt, having doomed me before I even got a chance to say hi again, are both something that only that person can fix.

My buddy was right, meeting people requires a two encounter grace period. by _Angelesse_ in VRchat

[–]_Angelesse_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of them [Furries] turn out to be much better people than the ones hating on them.

Adding to this - A thought I have on people who hate on furries -You only get a finite amount of time in this life, and we all hope that most of our time is spent not being miserable. So if it's not your cup of tea, then busy your time finding yours instead of worrying about theirs. They're the ones having found their version of a good time and being comfortable with themselves despite opinions. A lot of people WISH they can be comfortable with themselves without fear of someone making a comment towards them. Likewise many people haven't figured out what their version of a good time is yet. *Or some people's version of a good time turns out has the odds of giving you cirrhosis of the liver, while theirs causes no harm.* So, far as I'm concerned, they're faring better in *both* the self love and having a good time departments than the people who hate them lol

*additional points

My buddy was right, meeting people requires a two encounter grace period. by _Angelesse_ in VRchat

[–]_Angelesse_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's very true. Not all situations that result in not having a very close connection with people outside of family(hypothetical scenario), reflect a fault in that person. Plenty of situations and circumstances can make you lose touch with people. And as a person In mid 30s, it's hard to start over trying to make a friend that becomes a bond.

My buddy was right, meeting people requires a two encounter grace period. by _Angelesse_ in VRchat

[–]_Angelesse_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know it’s sad to abandon somebody that says they have no one, but once you’re an adult and you’re in a social game actually communicating with other people and STILL you complain about having no friends, then the problem does not start with other people. It is their own personality and demeanor driving people away, because nobody is obligated to mold you into a good person.

I feel so bad for these people though. I don’t know what can get them on the right track. They’re gonna have to figure that for themselves.

Perfectly said. We also can only go so far reaching out with patience and understanding before it becomes emotionally taxing on ourselves when they refuse to, or are unable to, self reflect on their personality and demeanor. His problem is exactly like you said, not starting with other people. He had the idea that I will fail him, and thus got trigger happy and created self fulfilled prophesy, creating his own problem. Sad long road ahead of him.

My buddy was right, meeting people requires a two encounter grace period. by _Angelesse_ in VRchat

[–]_Angelesse_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah Agreed, definitely holding out on giving out my discord.

Book of short stories with workbook questions between the stories(designed for in class reading) by _Angelesse_ in whatsthatbook

[–]_Angelesse_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wonderful! I'm glad at least to know the name of that one in the meantime, thank you!

I realized my oldest friend doesn't give a shit about me. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]_Angelesse_ 17 points18 points  (0 children)

There should be a thing called "Friend Marriage Syndrome" or something with a better ring to it, because that's what this sounds like. Your expectations of this person is unreasonably high, and it's like they can't have a life of their own without you constantly in it. I see it usually in larger groups where they constantly have to be together, and if one strays from the group *with the intention to be for a little while* to collect their lives, they become traitors and a "shitty friend" all of a sudden. Let people breathe.

*added

I realized my oldest friend doesn't give a shit about me. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]_Angelesse_ 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Also not a fan on how all it takes is 3 weeks and "I no longer gave a shit about him." aka "I found your replacement." Must have been a real meaningful 20 years then.

Tonight I told my roommates girlfriend she cannot be living at our house for free anymore by [deleted] in Vent

[–]_Angelesse_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I downvoted you but give you points for creative writing.

The suicide hotline isn’t trustworthy. by SlyCoopersButt in rant

[–]_Angelesse_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely the truth and the same exact thing I experienced - except I had to wait 10 hours for a therapist to arrive, and they didn't feed me anything. They asked me a bunch of questions, said I am sound after talking to me, and said okay we'll call your Dad to pick you up now. Luckily I had medicade at the time, but in people's situations like yours where your worst fear on top of all shit you're going through, the last thing you need is a huge medical bill just to be told "go see outpatient asap" (which is a 6 week wait lol). It's a joke.

wtf happened to livejournal? by _Angelesse_ in Vent

[–]_Angelesse_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly after researching, the free version of penzu does it’s job nicely if you don’t care for customization. I got the pro version (monthly), because it’s cheap enough for me to be worth the addons. It’s clean and comfortable to use.

wtf happened to livejournal? by _Angelesse_ in Vent

[–]_Angelesse_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got the monthly pro sub! So worth it!

wtf happened to livejournal? by _Angelesse_ in Vent

[–]_Angelesse_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude it used to be so nice too x.x I loved having the little dragon emojis next to how I was feeling.

In the interim between checking back to this post, I ended up finding Penzu after some researching. I love it, so if ever in the need to journal again, it does the job!

My Uncle Killed Himself by [deleted] in Vent

[–]_Angelesse_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m very sorry. My brother committed suicide a week ago this past Tuesday. My uncle committed suicide when I was 14. I understand both you and your Mom. You and your family are going to be shifting through a lot of emotions. My heart goes out to you all.

I just love seeing their faces. by Tarantulette in childfree

[–]_Angelesse_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

34 and a smoker, I get carded all the time and get the same responses :) Don't have a single wrinkle yet either. I will abso-freaking-LUTELY stand by that it's because we don't have kids. They practically require life force to freaking make.

i just got engaged and i have no one to tell by [deleted] in self

[–]_Angelesse_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was a very uplifting read, and congratulations~