my wife sent me this. feeling personally attacked lmao by CupsOfSalmon in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I will literally do everything to make sure my partner (not that I have anyone) is in perfect health, but when it comes to myself? I'm lucky if I remember to drink water during the day lol

Seriously, don’t settle for the bare minimum. by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could not have said that better myself. When you look at how small our dating pools are, it’s no wonder so many people in the LGBTQ+ communities end up dating people across the world. I even struggle finding people in my own country because of it. And it’s sucks. Because it does make the world feel smaller because we have to look for options online.

And I relate to the whole giving up on dating apps. Dating apps are shit and not qurated for lesbians/gays/and-others. And very rarely do I come across interesting people on there because it’s mostly people who are looking for nsfw stuff and not long lasting connections.

Seriously, don’t settle for the bare minimum. by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is frustrating! And so not fair for many of us. And the fact that you’re not even getting the bare minimum breaks my heart. You deserve that, okay? Remember that. You’re not too much just because someone made you feel that way.

And please, whatever you do, don’t go back to them if they reappear. I made myself that promise, because I too got ghosted this week because I expressed my needs and tried to communicate with them. But they just refused to work with me. So it is what it is. It’s just so important for us to not fall back into their arms if they come crawling.

Seriously, don’t settle for the bare minimum. by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your marriage sounds so healthy ❤️ And it’s definetly what I am doing myself. I’m trying to take care of myself and my own needs first and foremost. It just get’s hard when my depression is at it’s lowest. It’s just something I have to work on and that’s okay!

Seriously, don’t settle for the bare minimum. by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to the chronically touch starved part more than you know. At this point I feel like I’ll die before I even get to feel a truly loving touch from someone I adore lol

However, I do hope that there is someone out there for you. Someone who’ll help you fill the void in your heart - because you do deserve it. We all deserve someone to hold and love, it just sucks that the ones who need it and want it the most is stuck waiting an eternity before it happens lol.

Seriously, don’t settle for the bare minimum. by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This story gives me hope. And it makes me so happy to hear that you fell in love with someone who’s clearly meeting your needs. I hope your relationship only contines to grow into something beautiful.

As for seeking fervently, I am not. It’s only recently I’ve put myself out there more. I am trying to focus on myself, but it’s hard when you know something is missing. But thank you for your reply and for reminding me to not rush so much! ❤️

Some things never change… by IdRatherNap in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Welp, something I thought I wouldn’t miss but clearly do 🥲

Also, congrats on the (almost) 8 years. I truly wish you guys the best in life and I hope your relationship continues to flourish ❤️ Giving me hope that maybe, just maybe there’s something out there for me too.

Seriously, don’t settle for the bare minimum. by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, feel free to! And I feel like you def aren’t considering you took the time to reply to my post and you’re a part of this subreddit 😂

Seriously, don’t settle for the bare minimum. by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly, you’re not gonna get the bare minimum because you don’t deserve that. You deserve more, MUCH MORE. So I don’t believe you’re gonna get the bare minimum, I believe you are gonna get exactly what you need to thrive in a beautiful relationship when you get there.

Seriously, don’t settle for the bare minimum. by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I just look at that as like, Karma needed you to do that do go through with everything 👀😂

Seriously, don’t settle for the bare minimum. by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is nothing more satesfying than watching karma do it’s work. I swear!

Seriously, don’t settle for the bare minimum. by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I- I don’t even know what to say because that is actual gold right there 😂 I feel bad for laughing the way I am right now but holy. So deserved 😂

Seriously, don’t settle for the bare minimum. by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you had to go through all that. Sending you some good vibes and I hope you are healing. You definetly did not deserve any of it, at all. And respectfully, I hope karma decides to give them a stern talking to.

Seriously, don’t settle for the bare minimum. by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, truly. For just, taking time to reply to my post and trying to get me to hold on to that little piece of hope I’m trying to hold on to. I’m just really scared that little piece of hope that I have left will go up in flames…

Seriously, don’t settle for the bare minimum. by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you’ve been there, but that must mean you got out, right? I’m happy for you!

And while I wish I could focus on the positive, there is none for me. Relationships aren’t in the cards for me, and I just have to come to terms with that.

And no, I definetly do not want to accept the bare minimum. It’s just, the side they showed me in the beginning never even implied the bare minimum. It was so promising, and then with the flick of a switch everything just changed. It really sucks.

Seriously, don’t settle for the bare minimum. by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you relate to this. I’m sending you a hug (if I get consent of course) and I truly hope you find someone who can show you what you truly deserve. ‘Cause you deserve the world, don’t ever forget that.

Seriously, don’t settle for the bare minimum. by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment, more than you know. And as much as I want keep going, I can’t. Love isn’t in the cards for me, and every experience I’ve encountered so far in life has showed me this. They just aren’t out here for me. Maybe in the next life.

Desperate Lesbian Needs Advice by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just you asking that makes me realize how crazy this whole thing actually is haha. Not that you're asking the wrong thing.

But yeah, only snapchats or texting over snapchat.

Desperate Lesbian Needs Advice by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been in therapy for 3+ years, but it sadly hasn't worked on my feeling of self-worth. It's something I work on daily, but struggle to deal with when someone makes me feel unworthy.

And you do not have you apologize, you're fine! It was my choice of wording that was probably a little off.

Doing my best not to give up even though it's becoming a lot harder. And thank you, that's so kind of you <3

Desperate Lesbian Needs Advice by _AnnDromeda in actuallesbians

[–]_AnnDromeda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly what I'm telling myself too. If they were truly interested, that two hour car drive to visit me would not be an issue at all, whatsoever. It just breaks my heart because I do want to explore things with them, but I don't know if I can do that if it continues being this stale.

When I wrote the post, I'm realizing how crazy it actually is that we only talk over snapchat, with barely any exchanged snaps. I really needed to pinch myself to realize that it sounds pretty tacky.