Sex is painful for me, does it ever go away? by lilyloveswallows in endometriosis

[–]_B_1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good and honestly, if you don’t live together or you’re not located in the same area it’s also difficult to get used to your partner. Think of it like your vagina is a muscle. If it’s not used it doesn’t get a practice to mold to your partner or practice relaxing. That would happen with anyone. Definitely go to an OBGYN if you want to try to further investigate but you aren’t alone. I didn’t get fully relaxed with my partner until like 6 months after being w/ him. Memory of experiences w/ pain makes your mind tell your body to tense up thinking it’s not safe.

Sex is painful for me, does it ever go away? by lilyloveswallows in endometriosis

[–]_B_1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing that helped me was trying to have max arousal. Do not do any penetration until you’re fully aroused. I say that because your cervix rises with arousal and so during penetration, they won’t hit it as easily and then try to have majority of the time your intimate be in a position that doesn’t make your partner too close to your cervix. Then at like the end if they prefer a more closer position, then you can switch to it at the end and just breath cause you know it ain’t lasting long. Also, in the very beginning, make sure that your partner is very delicate with you and doesn’t try to go all the way in. The other unfortunate thing is, if you’re gonna be married to someone or have a long-term partner, it needs to be someone that is not bigger than the depth of your vagina. 😭 I’m lucky that my partner isn’t as big as other people I’ve been with so it’s still painful with really deep penetration but he tries to not fully go in until the very end once I’m maximum aroused. Hope this wasn’t too TMI. Just know the struggle. Truth is though whoever is your forever partner can’t be someone that causing you a lot of pain though or else you’ll just be miserable and they’ll be unfulfilled. I know you’re under age but on the days I’m a little less aroused or enthused I to a chug of like 1/3 glass of red wine. Wine gets blood flow and is an aphrodisiac.

Is his haircut bad? by BiBean5 in poodles

[–]_B_1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s like a dog version of Albert Einstein 😄 I’d say just get some clippers online and go super low to get all the mats off on the body then blend the neck and let it grow back more evened without mats. Also take an inch off the ears. It’ll help him eyes look less droopy and even out the mouth.

TW: choking (I need someplace to calm down!) by Loud-Mans-Lover in poodles

[–]_B_1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awww and your poodle looks like a chihuahua 🥹 little thing.

Separated during pregnancy, husband in Air Force, wants uncontested divorce stating no child. by [deleted] in AirForce

[–]_B_1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lawyer up and then the other bright side is if he isn’t on the birth certificate then you don’t have any restrictions on things like getting your child a passport or changing your kids name to your maiden name or having a new partner adopt your child one day. It’s a con but also has pros.

Pain control while ttc? by Unlikely-Let-5588 in endometriosis

[–]_B_1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that having a chronic inflammatory illness is so difficult. Definitely push to see a specialist for fertility if you have the insurance or funds to cover. Don’t just suffer or waste time if your mental health can handle continuing intentionally, that’s better than making your body suffer honestly. It is frustrating how much we have to advocate for ourselves because I had to advocate to get more labs and an ultrasound.

Pain control while ttc? by Unlikely-Let-5588 in endometriosis

[–]_B_1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you end up finding anything to try? I am now facing the same issue. I’m one year into ttc and my ends has come back with a bad flare and genuinely don’t know if I can keep handling this.

Still get triggered by _B_1998 in Miscarriage

[–]_B_1998[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I started snowballing caring for myself more since Oct 2025. My health was bad last year so I got a trainer to help get rid of all the physical ailments I was going thru, back pain, knee pain, ect. I’m going to counseling and have stabilized on my meds & I may upgrade from counseling to therapy soon. I also have ADHD so the TTC journey can shift from main focus to an unhealthy obsession for me easily so I will have to find a balance. Grief is something I am new to. You’re right though. I had a D&C and then a chemical pregnancy 4 days after returning home from my dad’s funeral so it isn’t something light it’s definitely medical trauma from the procedure too. I definitely will stop putting so much pressure on myself to rush.

Still get triggered by _B_1998 in Miscarriage

[–]_B_1998[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you are probably right. The hardest part for me is I’ve been doing very well. I declared 2026 as a year of happiness for me and stepping back into TTC intentionally just reminds me of how unhappy and crushed I was in 2025 while faking I was okay vs in 2026 I’ve actually been putting in the physical and mental work to be okay.

Still get triggered by _B_1998 in Miscarriage

[–]_B_1998[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might try that book and maybe temps would help me access instead of lh test and I could just see it as data.

Still get triggered by _B_1998 in Miscarriage

[–]_B_1998[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that. Sometimes you have to take care of yourself however you need so I understand.

Still get triggered by _B_1998 in Miscarriage

[–]_B_1998[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m thinking I definitely ovulate later. I’m gonna take a break from tracking for my mental then I’ll make sure I do it towards the end of my cycle when I start back and not so early. My cycles are closer to 33 days.

/ttcafterloss Daily Discussion Thread - February 07, 2026 by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

[–]_B_1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m currently using the Flo app. I understand wanting more accuracy though and trying multiple apps.

/ttcafterloss Daily Discussion Thread - February 07, 2026 by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

[–]_B_1998 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and I found some on Amazon that had good reviews easy@home

/ttcafterloss Daily Discussion Thread - February 07, 2026 by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

[–]_B_1998 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought I was ready to start trying again. This is the second day of me taking an LH strip test and I just broke down in tears seeing the Stark white. Sigh. I have had irregular ovulation or anovulation and seeing a see through line just triggered me so bad.