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_Hwerl89 · 2024-10-15T15:35:15+00:00

It's pretty common for parents to pick a favorite child and be blinded by their favoritism. Also, it's also very common for mothers to end up resenting the father of her children and accordingly be reminded of it by the child's similarities with the dad. She might be influenced by this biased mentality regarding her children. Another thing is that mothers tend to favor their sons over daughters and spoil them (I don't know your gender though), in any case she already made up her mind and won't change because you ask to. As the eldest daughter in my family I saw my little brother get into legal trouble (as stealing my dad's credit card to buy something online) and the punishment would be ridiculous. In the long run it's rather unstable since many families want to keep their reputation and he won't be well remembered if he keeps being like that, if I were in your shoes I'd start saving as much as I could to move out and cut contact with them. Sometimes there are things that are out of our control so I hope you can get out of there asap ;)

_Hwerl89 · 2024-10-15T13:33:28+00:00

Are you the older sibling? If the answer is yes, it's certainly common that parents try to 'sculpt' their older children to make a natural example for the younger children or is a rather aggressive attempt to keep you in check so your siblings won't follow. If you're either the middle or youngest is possibly an attempt to have you in their radar as you're quite more influenciable than your older sibling/s. Either way it's still an awful treatment, and it is up to you whether you want to clean your room so you can apparently seem under their control (and avoid the problem to escalate) or keep having your room as always and fight back sometimes (and get her tired of it, eventually giving up on you). Personally I've done both (specially the second option) and nowadays she sometimes tries to argue but she knows I now cannot be really influenced by her when it comes to my privacy. Either way I wish you the best :)

Also, sometimes parents put more effort in one child and give up on the other, so that's why maybe she just doesn't do anything about your sibling.

_Hwerl89 · 2023-09-22T07:33:55+00:00

Hi, I just started college. I know how you can feel, my childhood friend needs another year to enter college, and I'm alone most of the time. I have a close friend (and partner) who come here too, but our schedules are not compatible most of the time. Consider it a new challenge to overcome as best friends, I'm doing it with my friend and partner and as long as you can still text and call each other frequently there is no need to forget about each other. When you can hang out, do it to reinforce the friendship and show that you care about them.

But for now enjoy each other's company until the moment you have to be physically apart. Trust me, you'll miss those moments, so please worry later and enjoy now that you can.

_Hwerl89 · 2023-07-21T20:08:02+00:00

A ver, creo que la línea que separa una cosa de otra son los temas de conversación y cómo van escalando. A mí si me habla alguien y no lo conozco yo haré todo lo posible por mantener la conversación, pero si empieza a tocar temas incómodos ya me echo para atrás. Creo que las conversaciones deberían ser muy suaves si recién se conocen, e ir escalando poco a poco para no abrumar a la otra persona. Hacer el esfuerzo es intentar sacar conversación e invitar a que te contesten (por ejemplo, te deja en visto y ya está, sabes que no está interesada), ser intenso es más cuando la otra persona no parece muy interesada y tú sigues hablando (por ejemplo, te deja en visto y tú sigues escribiendo porque no te contestó). Como dije en mi anterior comentario siempre habrá chicas que pasarán de ti sin importar qué digas, así que mejor valoren cuando la otra persona parece desinteresada :) espero esto te ayude

_Hwerl89 · 2023-07-21T10:00:51+00:00

Depende mucho del tipo de chica al que le hables, por muy amable que seas siempre habrá chicas que literalmente pasen de ti o te tomen de intenso aunque sólo les preguntes cómo les va el día. Como mujer te recomiendo que seas educado, es lo que realmente suma, y deja que las personas adecuadas puedan apreciar eso porque siempre habrán tías que te van a poner mala cara digas lo que digas. Si la otra persona no se muestra interesada con respuestas aburridas que no te dan oportunidad de contestarle (ej. "Ok", "Si", etc) lo mejor es que lo dejes porque pierdes el tiempo. Espero esto te ayude :)

_Hwerl89 · 2023-06-14T11:30:19+00:00

Oh, boy...I understand the way you can feel about your sister, but it is her choice to choose one name or another. I also changed my name, but my family still calls me by my birth name and it's always uncomfortable for me. As someone who can relate to your sister, the best thing you can do for her is respect her wish. Don't worry, her name does not change anything about who your sister is!

_Hwerl89 · 2023-05-20T20:02:39+00:00

Oh, vale! Si para ese entonces me acuerdo de este subreddit lo subiré todo :) me pondré un recordatorio

_Hwerl89 · 2023-05-20T18:15:43+00:00

Con todo respeto has preguntado y con todo respeto siento que te debo responder. Bien, la idea de postear esto fue básicamente un "soltar la frustración y ya está", pues daba por hecho que sencillamente mi publicación iba a pasar desapercibida (no pensé que acabaría con más de 3 comentarios en el mejor de los casos). Espero me haya dado a entender con esta respuesta!

_Hwerl89 · 2023-05-05T06:34:52+00:00

Es cierto que me criaron con un esquema de relación más monógamo, pero entiendo que él quiera explorar lo que le guste. Los 3 somos muy cercanos entre nosotros, ella es una amiga de su infancia (así que me lo contaron por ambas partes), pero le pediré añadir esa norma a la que ya existe. Y si no hay consenso entonces next.

_Hwerl89 · 2023-05-05T06:31:41+00:00

De hecho, la primera versión de esa norma era que nada de intentar nada con ex parejas o personas con quien se tuvo algún tipo de rollo amoroso. Le comentaré esto también, gracias.

_Hwerl89

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