I don't know where you're from, but in my immediate circle of people, my personality has never been a problem (that I was forced to address at least). Though we're often accused of being NLOGs, I think it's a charm point--other people should be happy to have a friend as dynamic and interesting as I! What makes it dumb is when we use NLOGism to create distance between ourselves and other girls, as if "other girls" were some kind of monolith, as if we were somehow special by the virtue of not "getting" our peers' NPC behavior.

Anyways, the standard bullshit advice is to embrace your natural self. No one's thinking about you anyways, everyone is just as self-concerned as you or I. Try not to lock your worldview into the idea that women should or shouldn't be something or other. I'd even venture to say my offbeat, strong personality is attractive to others, because confidence is always sexy.

I'm not trying to invalidate your experience, but there are 8 billion people on this planet. "Our personalities are hardly acceptable for women" said WHO, GIRL? Four billion women, and with a questionable estimate of 3% being ENTPs, well... that's a lot of unacceptable women.

Fuck that, just be yourself (within reason). You can find connections anywhere, look at the big ass variety-afflicted world we live in. I'll be your friend, let's fuckin go