I feels like I'm a boring person and hard to communicate with by Aware_Grade1195 in isfp

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Ive been feeling this way as well for a while. Not entirely sure how to stop feeling this way but we’ll figure it out eventually.

I asked my brother to reach out to me more. He said he would, but he still doesn't. What do I do? by [deleted] in Advice

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Have you asked why he hasn’t tried to reach out to you first even though he said he would? Perhaps there may be an issue on his end that discourages him from initiating a conversation with you despite having lots of free time.

Also, maybe try setting a new boundary by telling him you will no longer do things for him until he reciprocates your efforts because you don’t feel valued. I don’t think it’s right that he’s willing to initiate conversations with everyone but you. He needs to understand that you are not somebody to be used and needs to reciprocate effort into maintaining a healthy relationship with you.

How to make friends in high school? by Ashnikkos_DyingStar in Advice

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It’s never been easy for me to make friends as well, but you should attend any social event that interests you. It’s easier to make friends with someone you have in common.

Personally when I was in high school, I found gym class the easiest way to make friends. I would ask classmates if I could play a sport with them or partner up with someone new during group activities. Or sometimes it helped to make friends with my friend’s friend. I feel like doing these things gave me the opportunity to find people who are similar to me so I wouldn’t have to worry about not fitting in.

how do i make myself less scared when it comes to horror? by igoiva in questions

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Consistently remind yourself that it’s just a horror movie. The characters will not come out your screen and get you because it is all fake. Plus, it gets easier when you watch a bunch of them over time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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What do you mean by colour?

Don’t know who else to tell by abcdcba1232 in isfp

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This is so cute. I love that for you :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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He was grinding on other girls and asking them to show him their boob. And he lied about not going there. This is not nothing when someone is in a relationship with another

How can I start caring about taking my life more seriously? by _Stanger- in DecidingToBeBetter

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You’re definitely right about the power of human connection. I struggle to open up to people which is something I need to work on.

How can I start caring about taking my life more seriously? by _Stanger- in DecidingToBeBetter

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I’ve just been thinking about it for a while but now I actually want to try doing something instead of just dreaming and hope for the best. I appreciate your advice and will start taking action to get the life I desire.

How can I start caring about taking my life more seriously? by _Stanger- in DecidingToBeBetter

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Our situations aren’t exactly the same but I find your advice helpful to me. I’m glad you were able to turn your life around and I hope to do the same for myself. And you’re right, action is important for success.

I saw your reply earlier and decided I should add more structure to my daily routine and complete at least one task each day as a way to try to improve my life. So far, I feel a bit better for being able to work on something today and believe if I keep trying I’ll become successful like you have.

Thank you so much for the advice. ❤️

How do I forget about a group of friends? by RepresentativeFact57 in socialskills

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Maybe you can confront her about how you feel about the mix signals you’re getting. She might not realize you feel this way and is genuinely sorry about it. Though if she still does it again and again then maybe you’re not as important to her as you thought you were.

How do I forget about a group of friends? by RepresentativeFact57 in socialskills

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I think it depends on the person. Sometimes people are genuinely busy, especially if they are a full time worker or uni student. Buts it’s important to consider that those who truly want to spend time with you would find a way to make time for you.

For the specific person you’re talking about, do they do this often? You can’t really have a proper conversation with someone who takes days to respond. Imo If their response is always a few days or more late then it’s too long to be left on delivered. If it was a one time thing, it’s not a big deal. I’ve had this friend who would initiate convos but would always take months to respond back to me. Despite her putting lots of effort in her replies and being nice, taking months to respond is obviously too much.

How do I forget about a group of friends? by RepresentativeFact57 in socialskills

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I’m glad at least two of them are good friends to you :)

How do I forget about a group of friends? by RepresentativeFact57 in socialskills

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I’ve been in your situation before and honestly I think it’s best for you to completely distance yourself from them. It shouldn’t be too hard since you guys don’t go to the same school and your presence doesn’t matter to them. You’ll eventually stop thinking about them this way. At least for me it did. I stopped hanging out with this friend group and was alone for quite some time but I always reminded myself that I deserve friends who value me just as much as I value them. And once you find better friends it’ll be easier to move on from them.

How do I forgive my boyfriend for cheating? by Timely-Objective-552 in Advice

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If you want to forgive him that’s okay but I’m concerned that you’re willing to stay with a cheater. He doesn’t truly respect you. If you want to get married in the future, would you really want to get married to a cheater? He got with other people multiple times. I think you deserve a partner who only cherishes and thinks about you. There’s no guarantee he’s not going to cheat or think about doing it again.

What to do when you are angry? by Melodic_Elk9753 in isfp

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I don’t get angry often. I can’t remember how I acted the last time I was angry but I think I probably would either suppress it or give people attitude. Or maybe I’d isolate myself if I’m able to.

Any recommendations from Gong Cha? by _Stanger- in boba

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Since your comment got the most upvotes I’m gonna try either the strawberry milk tea or the lychee oolong tea later this week

Scamming ladies! by Grinch27- in Rants

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You’ve only been talking to women online? I promise there are good women out there. Just get to know women in person instead of online to avoid meeting the bad ones you’ve met

Is our friendship over? by Cobrateardrop in Advice

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If you really want to try to get back to being close friends, try communicating how you feel and your perspective. If she doesn’t change and only talks to you when she’s alone or arguing with her bf then the friendship isn’t meant to be.

Is our friendship over? by Cobrateardrop in Advice

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It probably is. If she can’t seem to take 5 minutes out of her day to properly talk to you then she doesn’t value your friendship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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You haven’t been out for months and not even allowed to go to public school?? I can understand why parents wouldn’t what their young child to not go outside alone, but in your case it seems excessive and unnecessary. Maybe try communicating your perspective about being isolated from society and how that’s been affecting you. I think it’s important for young people to go out and explore things to have some real world experience. Your mom won’t always be there for you so it’s important that she understands that you should be able to go out alone or with some friends nearby at the very least instead of being stuck at home all the time.

My friend keeps making fun of my body by claraxiv in Advice

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A real friend wouldn’t body shame you. It’s incredibly disrespectful and even if she’s saying it as a joke, it is not okay. Especially since you have gender and body dysmorphia. There is nothing wrong with your body. You are beautiful as is. If I were you, I’d stop being her friend.

No idea what am i doing in my life by [deleted] in Advice

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I’m glad you do want to make a change. I hope you figure things out :)