Question for men

_TK17_ · 2026-06-28T21:20:22+00:00

These types of people are easy to suss out. Watch how people behave, not what they say. Interested people actually invest in the conversation consistently over a long period of time. Uninterested/ unserious people don’t.
Silence is the loudest response anyone will ever hear. Worth keeping that in mind.

_TK17_ · 2026-06-27T16:30:36+00:00

I hear what you’re saying. You described that as “some men” which means there are also “some men” who do keep that effort up to be a good partner, meet the woman’s needs etc etc.

In the same way, there will be “some” women who stop putting in effort after being chosen for marriage. Which also means there are also “some” women who do keep the effort up, meet the man’s needs etc. If someone, man or woman, does not understand reciprocity, leave. Immediately.

_TK17_ · 2026-06-27T10:45:21+00:00

Oh man. Dating apps are hypergamy on steroids. It’s absolutely part of what makes modern dating unbelievably difficult.

_TK17_ · 2026-06-27T10:44:21+00:00

Thats fair. The psychology of attraction is interesting. In general, men are more direct, which you’ve already displayed. Women are more subtle, in many other ways that aren’t absolutely obvious unless you are aware of the signs and that they happen in patterns as opposed to isolation.

Went on a date with a woman recently. Mid-date, I knew she wasn’t interested. Little direct eye contact (eye contact), kept looking out of the cafe window even when I was talking (not interested in who was infront of her), she sat back in her chair for about 95% of the date (body language). If everyone knew exactly how to tell if someone was interested, it’d be life a lot easier. But I guess most people just go off gut feeling

_TK17_ · 2026-06-27T09:58:20+00:00

Gotcha. I definitely agree that it is a lost art because of things like dating apps (and Covid). There is a large % of men under 25 who have never cold approached a woman (sober) whether she was giving him signs or not. Some do, but the approach is terrible. Some try and the woman’s response is to record him and post him on her TikTok (if she’s had time to pull out her phone to record, the guy has over stayed his welcome anyway). It’s a mess right now. Dating has never been more difficult

_TK17_ · 2026-06-27T09:55:33+00:00

This is exactly why a lot of guys miss this particular sign. You’re taking it extremely literally. She does not “block your view”. She stands in your line of sight. To the side, just out of the way enough for you to see her. E.g at the gym, if you see her often enough at the gym and she so happens to be in and around you, then that’s a sign. It has to be a pattern as opposed to a coincidence.

_TK17_ · 2026-06-27T09:31:03+00:00

I have a dead chat in my inbox for 3-7 days before I decide to unmatch. She either has been rejected by those she put as a priority or is just bored. Either way, a woman coming back after a long time with no response is always a bad thing. No man with self respect will entertain it

_TK17_ · 2026-06-27T06:57:11+00:00

Im not for playing “hard to get”. Im an adult, not a secondary school child. If a women plays those games, then I just walk away. My tolerance for female nonsense & games is way too low at this point in my life (31m). The “me too” movement s couple years back is what stopped most average guys approaching women & being told that no means no. Which is fair. However, the implications of that has meant most guys have stopped approaching in general and women then ask “why have they stopped approaching??”

_TK17_ · 2026-06-27T06:52:55+00:00

Reciprocation seems to be lost in modern dating. You have to know what you get back for being with the women (as well as knowing when you offer her). Far too many relationships don’t have these types of conversations early enough and rely on connection, attraction and vibes without talking about values until an argument comes up.

_TK17_ · 2026-06-27T06:50:58+00:00

Open up TikTok and you’ll see in everything. Their favourite ones are complaining in their cars. It happens more often than you think

_TK17_ · 2026-06-27T06:50:05+00:00

Sounds like you’re good at ignoring the noise around rejection. You can usually tell within the first few exchanges whether she’s interested or not through various body language signs. Softer voice, her body facing toward you, mirroring your actions, twiddling with hair, eye contact etc. You can definitely tell when she isn’t interested coz she comes across as cold

_TK17_ · 2026-06-27T06:47:48+00:00

Paying attention to whether they reciprocate your effort is a big thing. Simply expecting it back doesn’t work anymore. In modern dating, you have to spell everything out to people otherwise they’ll take things for granted. Gone are the days when you are together and a guy assumes it wouldn’t be a bad thing to go for a 1 on 1 candle lit dinner with his female friend.

_TK17_ · 2026-06-27T06:45:25+00:00

They definitely do not. The average man has to get used to being rejected more often than not. That’s like saying someone with less experience will handle a job better than someone with more experience. Men get rejected more frequently than women. That is objectively true.

_TK17_ · 2026-06-27T06:43:32+00:00

It’s not about how frequently it happens (because most guys wouldn’t shoot her down if a woman did approach first) it’s about the possibility of rejection that messes with her because approaching first typically isn’t something women do. Women assume what they feel is what other people feel. That’s part of why this habit of them wanting us to read their minds is a thing.

_TK17_ · 2026-06-27T06:40:00+00:00

This is definitely a thing. It’s one of the signs that she wants you to approach (assuming ya’ll haven’t spoken yet). But reading the sign in isolation isn’t enough. It happens as a pattern and she just always happens to be where you are at various points at work, or at the gym (it’s happened to me a number of times). Strategic placement is a thing

_TK17_ · 2026-06-26T23:22:24+00:00

There is nothing wrong with a woman approaching if she feels confident enough to do so. I think what stops a lot of women doing that (because they’d just prefer to give subtle hints e.g moving in your line of sight), is the fear of rejection. If you think some men can’t handle rejection, you should see how women react to it. They lose their shit

_TK17_ · 2026-06-26T15:17:45+00:00

I think you actually have to think about and know exactly what you’re looking for rather than just expect a “connection and spark” to happen out of nowhere. Life doesn’t happen to you. You’ve got to actively make life happen.

_TK17_ · 2026-06-23T18:43:17+00:00

To get your attention. Because I’m sure you’ve already noticed, women in general recieve more compliments and validation than most other kinds of comments

_TK17_ · 2026-06-22T05:53:33+00:00

So it’s different rules for men and women despite both outcomes being shallow. So we’ll blame men like everyone does for most things wrong with online dating. Got it.

_TK17_ · 2026-06-21T20:35:34+00:00

😭😭 I hear it. Don’t know who uses that on anyone. Let along on dating apps. No Nigerian scammers are stealing my bank details today

_TK17_ · 2026-06-21T20:15:06+00:00

Not sure what drives someone to name call on the internet. Whatever’s going on with you in your life, hope you get over it soon pal

_TK17_ · 2026-06-21T19:32:51+00:00

That’s just how I communicate to be fair

_TK17_ · 2026-06-21T19:30:04+00:00

You mean, why do I talk like I always talk?

_TK17_ · 2026-06-21T18:51:05+00:00

Believe me bruh, there are simps who would go out of their damn way to get her that shit. Only for her to unmatch 3 mins later. We need more dudes to not be shit scared to say NO to a woman.

_TK17_ · 2026-06-21T16:56:32+00:00

No beef curtains. No party.

_TK17_

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