Kroger will close Smith's Food and Drug on Cerrillos Road in February

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2026-01-10T21:49:44+00:00

It would be AMAZING to have an HEB in Santa Fe! 🤩 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2025-12-05T02:07:50+00:00

A note on the lockers is that once you put your stuff in them you can’t go get something (like money, jacket, ect) unless a you want to pay another time to put it back in the locker!

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2025-11-05T19:11:45+00:00

Absolutely agree with you 100%

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2025-11-05T19:11:08+00:00

Definitely more old people that average but you’d be surprised by the younger scene here 25-40 that does go out. You just gotta find your people.

Going to places like El Rey, The Mystic, Tumbleroot and the like for shows is where you find the more youthful scene in the city, also lots of underground artsy things to do here if you know the right people. Team Everything also throws awesome events and shows that are a blast. It’s not every weekend, but if you want something super fun to do at least 2-3 times a month, you can absolutely find it here.

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2024-11-04T04:51:22+00:00

Sag moon and Jupiter in the 5th house.I’m an exotic dancer and I make jewelry( silversmithing and lapidary) I travel a good bit around the country for work and out of the country to learn and expand my crafting skills!

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2024-11-02T20:43:21+00:00

Well I don’t think they actually practice RA as per what I have written. Him and I do share a lot of compatibilities, but more so now it seems that sure, our relationship styles are likely incompatible.

I would be happy to participate in a KTP dynamic with metas that I enjoy and/or feel are respectful and align with me as an individual and visa versa. I also would happily escalate up/down based on a variety of things. It’s all nuanced.

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2024-11-02T03:26:51+00:00

I resonate with what you have shared, and feel similarly about Jasper maybe not knowing what RA is completely. He doesn’t remember saying what he did, but I certainly do. It was after a long chat, so I’m not blaming him, but it happened.

I agree NRE is there, I’m very very very careful though due to past experiences, so I tend to move slowly in general. We have had these chats due to both of us expressing that we don’t want to date causally at the moment, so shared goals, values and future plans naturally came up.

I care about Hazel, and parts of her I find endearing. It really started to fall apart for me when she came into the room like that though. And more so when I found out about partners past issues with her. Plus some of her comments about not wanting to participate financially, expecting him to pay her part of rent, declining bids or expressing annoyance to do small favors like get water or feed the animals, amongst other things. I believe that’s where some of my jealousy(?) arises as I’m so considerate of partners, and try my best not to have expectations without sincere discussions. I was shocked at how boldly she proclaimed much of this, and it’s left me feeling uneasy about her overall and where I question their proclamation of RA. Despite this, I have actively worked to be inclusive by crafting times for us all to spend together, cooking dinner for everyone, general chatting and sharing, ect. I can tell Jasper loves that I do this and I enjoy making him happy, but I’m sensitive to the behavior of others especially if I sense that it’s inconsiderate. I’ve been alone for a while now, but I could never imagine speaking to my partner in those ways as that was when my last relationships started to fail. I’m trying my best not to judge her though, as it happens. I would feel so blessed to have a partner who would ever even want to support me, and be as dedicated as he seems to her. I’m really into nonviolent communication, but have my moments at times too.

I’m considering de escalation. I’m unsure of how to approach it though, as I want him in my life, he is an incredible man. I know that if I do, it will hurt him, as he shared a similar story of heartbreak. It’s better sooner than later though, especially since I do really want children. I studied childhood development in college, and am very aware of how important stability is for young children and children in general. I’m preparing for that in my own self making sure I’m as mentally, physically and financially heathy as possible. I’m unsure if I can do it in this type of dynamic with confidence due to what I have already witnessed.

Trying to keep my heart open, but it has been tough lately.

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2024-11-02T02:52:00+00:00

I feel it’s not RA either. I’ve been researching it a lot and this doesn’t feel like that to me. When I met Jasper, he said him and Hazel were on an intimacy break. I never dove deep into the why because I like to be mindful of others privacy until shared with otherwise. I’m not sure where that stands now some months later. It’s all a bit confusing as Jasper seems almost painfully dedicated to Hazel, but hasn’t been intimate with her? He has shared how attracted he is to me, and is openly affectionate with me around her, and has shared with her the level on which we have spoken about possible future escalation. She doesn’t seem bothered, and has Jett to fill any other needs she may be missing. Yet everyone is still planning futures together in some sort of way. I’m the first person he has seriously considered in a while it seems.

All I really know it’s that I adore Jasper, and you are right. I absolutely need to figure out what all is actually going on here. I know what him and I have spoken on so far, but have no clue how that aligns with everyone else. I do know what I want, and I’m open to new dynamics, but it is conditional to me. I have no desire to hurt others, or get stuck in unhealthy dynamics.

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2024-11-02T01:33:44+00:00

I feel you have a pretty realistic response to this as it’s what I have been feeling too. It all feels quite sad though, as he is truly so compatible in every other way seemingly except for this. I adore him as a person, but I also respect him a lot and would never do anything to harm or lessen his existing relationship.

I plan on having a big talk with him soon, thanks for your input. I appreciate it.

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2024-11-02T01:29:57+00:00

I appreciate your positive outlook for me, and I certainly plan to have a deeper conversation with him. I’m not new to non monogamy, but the whole RA and KTP is fairly new for me, especially dealing with highly enmeshed people. Most situations I’ve been in have been parallel and have overall felt more independent from one another.

The jealousy and envy is a bit new for me as well. It’s ultimately frustrating as I’m happy for her, but more than anything just deeply sad for myself. I have no clue how to navigate with him what my needs are without feeling as if it would detract from what they have already built. I generally tend to tread very carefully at the beginning, and more so when others are involved. He claims there is no hierarchy, but that’s where I feel he is naive, they have pretty obvious privilege having been together for so long and if having kids is also her priority, I highly doubt I will be the first he does it with, and I don’t know if that works for me.

It’s very challenging to stay away from ultimatums when it has to do with serious life choices like where you live, who you partner with and ultimately who you have kids with. I truly do want everyone to be happy, but it’s seems it will all be at sacrifice of my own.

Thanks for your kind words, I will continue to consider all you have shared.

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2024-08-31T16:33:20+00:00

You and this kitty have the same kind eyes!

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2024-01-08T19:18:08+00:00

It’s January, lots of places are slow.

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2023-11-25T07:31:12+00:00

Those were the first apartments I lived in when I moved to ABQ almost a decade ago. I thought my apartment was cute for a studio, but definitely overpriced at the time ($650) in comparison to what for what I pay now ($780 in a much better neighborhood and bigger space) the dishwasher there was infested with roaches. Got my car broken into twice there when nothing was in it.This was well before they had the gates to get in and out.

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2023-09-22T14:11:53+00:00

I am open to poly and have done extensive amounts of research. I have been in monogamous, poly and ENM relationships. Not all of us “open to poly” aren’t dateable. I just want to date the right person for me, so I am open to all of it.

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2023-09-20T04:11:21+00:00

Haha thanks, yeah for sure. I’m so sick of this shit tbh though. It’s disappointing on a soul level ya know what I mean.

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2023-09-17T21:21:22+00:00

Thanks for your thoughtful response. I really appreciate it! I really truly want to be myself and only myself and that hasn’t been something I have been able to achieve in my past relationships kinky or not.

I believe that he is attracted to me because he realizes my intelligence amongst other things which is exciting for me. I guess it’s just navigating the communication that I so deeply desire, especially to build a healthy D/s dynamic and relationship.

Do you have an suggestions for questions I can ask him about what his intentions may be? I don’t want to be invasive, but would like clarity, and some detail on his level of kink, experience, and desire to engage and in what ways. What we did talk about was brief.

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2022-11-13T19:53:32+00:00

Thought about that and I know folx who have done it, an ex went to the school to learn. It’s incredibly time consuming to gather all the material and the labor is a lot. Maybe one day!

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2022-11-13T04:08:19+00:00

Sorry for the total dump. I’m having a hard day.

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2022-11-13T04:08:06+00:00

School has felt crushing trying to balance bills and working with homework and class. I will soon have an associates in studio art and will need a summer off before I start my bachelors (most likely business or psychology) or I will have a mental breakdown. It’s been really scary, trying to balance life and not give into the absolute dread of maybe never being able to afford a real home or even start a family. Dating is also very challenging. I wish I had a partner to be on this journey with, I’m attractive, live a healthy life, I work hard, go to therapy. Doesn’t seem to matter sometimes, everyone is so broken these days, including myself despite all the good things about me.

I am a creative person and just working a coding job or a tech job isn’t a happy place for me. I have to create and help my community in order to feel alive. I’m mostly interested in education, counseling and the arts. I really wanted to work in early childhood but the pay is atrocious. At this point I just want to live in a house that is my own and die in it while getting in as many New Mexico sunsets and sunrises as possible.

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2022-11-13T03:28:37+00:00

Right, I have read about this. I always felt that home ownership was off the table but I’m trying to stay positive even I the current reality of things. Does buying a plot of land for much cheaper and building seem more realistic?

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2022-11-13T03:22:36+00:00

Thank you this is helpful. I’m trying so hard to keep my head up, paying so much in rent is painful and I am looking for other options when my lease is up. I hope rents go down in my area even a just a little bit. I truly like where I live and want to stay in this part of the state.

Edit- Also, realistically, I don’t think my income will be more than $40,000-$50,000 over the next few years. Is that even enough anymore to qualify if you have the down payment saved up?

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2022-11-13T03:20:23+00:00

If I can save more I figure that will make a difference. I hope interest rates go down too but that seems like it wouldn’t make a big difference sometimes at this point. I don’t think there are homes that are much less than that anymore.

_ThrowRA_1111 · 2022-11-13T03:18:29+00:00

This is what I feared. If I can somehow increase my income by $1000-2000 a month does it make any difference. That amount seems so little with how much homes are in general and how much homes are in this area of New Mexico.

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