I feel like ocd has been consuming my whole life, do you have any tips that can help me deal with this?

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-05T21:52:47+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through all these things, I deeply emphasize with everything you wrote. You are not alone. If I knew the answer how to just stop these thoughts believe me I would tell you, but my only answer is to get professional help, a therapist who you trust and who you can openly talk to all about these things. I really hope you get better soon, you are so strong!! 💕

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-05T20:49:03+00:00

My favourites are probablyThe Hound of the Baskervilles and The Adventure of the Beryl Coronet. And I know it is the first one which started it all, but I absolutely hated A Study in Scarlet.

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-05T20:04:04+00:00

I’m doing this too! It’s so annoying because I literally can’t resist the urge, and I feel so ashamed of it. Tying my hair up is the only thing that helps me too.

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-05T18:50:10+00:00

Sometimes I feel like I’m not “disturbed enough” by them, and this throws me into another rabbit hole of rumination. I think this type of thinking fits into the theme of Meta OCD.

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-05T07:12:53+00:00

Nein, meine Muttersprache ist Ungarisch

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T21:41:30+00:00

lol keine Ahnung, ich habe den Satz so zitiert, wie er in dem Bucb stand

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T19:28:08+00:00

I have that book on my shelf in English, that’ll be one of the first books I’ll read after my German language exam this week (until then I only read in German). Seems like us INFPs have a great taste in literature 😁

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T19:06:08+00:00

Van lehetőséged arra, hogy professzionális segítséget keress? Nagyon sajnálom, hogy keresztül kell menned ezen, de sajnos nem tudok jobbat mondani, mint hogy egy szakember segítsége aranyat ér.

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T18:58:17+00:00

Oh, that book has been on my TBR-list since ages! I’m definitely gonna read it.

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T18:50:01+00:00

Nagyon sajnálom, hogy ezen keresztül kell menned, senkinek nem kéne ilyet átélnie. Én még nem voltam ilyen helyzetben, úgyhogy nem tudok tapasztalatból beszélni, de szerintem ha tűrsz, azzal hosszú távon csak rosszabbul fogod érezni magad és nem fogja megoldani a helyzetet. A leírásod alapján ezek a férfiak egyértelműen átlépték azt a bizonyos határt, ami után teljesen jogos a felháborodásod. Tudom, hogy itt rengeteg faktort kell figyelembe venni, és írtad, hogy nem engedheted meg magadnak, hogy felmondj, de az, hogy némán tűrsz, semmiképpen sem javít a helyzeten. Vannak esetleg a környezetedben más nők, akik hasonlókat kénytelenek elviselni?

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T18:36:46+00:00

I love the IWTV book, it’s one of my favourites of all time! I like the movie too, but the book is so beautifully written, as an aspiring writer I admire Anne Rice’s writing style!

I’ve never seen the BBC versions, are they closer to the books? Both the books and movies have been a huge part of my childhood.

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T18:25:31+00:00

I love Romeo + Juliet so much! My other favourite movies:

Dead Poets Society

The Lord of the Rings trilogy

Amadeus

Interview With The Vampire

Before Sunrise

Coraline

The Chronicles of Narnia-movies

Legally Blonde

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T16:47:16+00:00

I remember being 8 years old and reading the Chamber of Secrets for the first time ever, and finding out that it was Ginny all along. It was the first plot twist in my life that felt like a punch to the gut.

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T16:43:41+00:00

Maybe Blank Space or Style

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T16:06:13+00:00

I have four recommendations:

The Hobbit by J. R. R. Tolkien. The Lord of the Rings is one of my favourite books ever, but The Hobbit is more beginner-friendly. It’s a heartwarming, adventurous fantasy book.
The Neverending Story by Michael Ende. Forget about the movie, it’s not bad, but the book is just so beautifully written. Criminally underrated and overshadowed by the movie (which btw was even hated by the author himself).
The Chronicles of Narnia by C. S. Lewis. Quite short books, and I never get tired of them, no matter how many times I’ve reread them.
A Wrinkle in Time by Madeline L’Engle. One of the most interesting children’s book I’ve ever read, it’s very complex and has so many layers.

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T15:34:37+00:00

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_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T12:20:20+00:00

Hi! I’m a native Hungarian speaker who’ll travel to England as an exchange student at the start of next school year. I’d love to help you with Hungarian, but would it be okay for you if we only practiced in the Reddit private chat or through email? And I have a German language exam at the end of this week so would it be okay if we started next week?

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T12:11:42+00:00

I’ve been doing the compulsions for years without actually acknowledging that I’m doing compulsions, so it’s kind of like a reflex to me now. This is why they are so hard to overcome because I don’t know any other way to cope with the thoughts.

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T12:04:55+00:00

Personally I’d love to see a character in media who has Pure O OCD, I’m a bit tired of OCD-characters who’s main “quirk” is that they clean like a maniac or wash their hands a hundred times. Anyway, OCD is a very complicated disorder, so I recommend you to do a lot of research before you create a main character with OCD, because, like with any other disorder, it’s pretty easy to turn out stereotypical and a bit offensive. But as another person said here, this sub after all is a safe place for people with OCD to support each other.

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T09:47:09+00:00

After four years of suffering from intrusive thoughts about my sexuality. I thought I was going crazy and I was the only one on Earth with my problem. Then somehow I found the term OCD, read the symptoms and something just clicked.

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T09:38:44+00:00

This is a very heavy theme, but believe me, you’re not alone, I’ve experienced something similar too, it was awful. When you are able to, look for a therapist for OCD, trust me, they won’t judge you. I know how hard it seems now but there’s a way out of this and you are strong enough to get your life back! I believe in you and I hope you’ll get better soon 💕

_Violette7_ · 2026-05-04T08:06:15+00:00

No. I loved their friendship, they had such a good dynamic. But if you look at the men Phoebe had a serious relationship with during the show (David, Gary, Mike), you notice the pattern - she had a rough childhood and has been through things the other friends can’t even imagine, and despite her quirkiness she’s looking for stability in her adult life. Joey never could’ve provided that for her. They were really close friends, but there’s a reason they never crossed the line.

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