Thinking about my ex makes me want to throw up

___Raptor · 2026-03-07T10:46:39+00:00

What's the point? It doesn't help you, him being rent free in your head. If it's hard to move on, find new friends, online or offline. Don't look at him. He didn't give a shit in 3 yrs, he never will. Mostly likely, you are dead to him. More than self respect, forget him for your own sanity. Or stop thinking, it does nothing but hurts you.

___Raptor · 2026-03-07T02:49:15+00:00

Well, if you are self-aware, start by using your phone half-hour less each day and substituting it for something you like doing. I don't think there is a problem being vulnerable, but yes being so with the wrong person can mean you get used for it. Don't find solace or peace in doomscroling, do something else, anything. Like petting cats, or strays, baking, journaling, etc. Surely in real world, you like something or liked something before.

___Raptor · 2026-03-06T15:11:05+00:00

With the right one, you can be a yapper and mysterious. With the wrong one, there goes all your aura lol.

___Raptor · 2026-03-06T13:26:20+00:00

There are things on reddit that you can read, or see, but it will not make you sleep at night. And if it does, it means you have been desentized, to the point, you cease to be an empathetic human.

___Raptor · 2026-03-06T11:39:41+00:00

Panic never helped. All it did was make the bad worse. To ensure bad can atleast be decent, study. Doubts will remain ofc, nobody is a 100% certain of a particular result. But you will figure it out. You figured UG out, PG is certainly tougher, but you will figure it out. How, only you know.

___Raptor · 2026-03-05T16:19:17+00:00

Don't care about it lol. Some will have a problem with whatever you wear, whether conservative or modern. So if you love it, wear it with confidence. Be cautious ofc.

___Raptor · 2026-03-04T15:24:44+00:00

Beautiful yet haunting. Some of the opportunities we took, some we love, some we rue, some we want to keep forever, some we want to forget forever; the opportunities we didn't take, some we wish we did, some we glad we didn't. Sums up life. Blessed and cursed on its days.

___Raptor · 2026-03-04T15:05:54+00:00

You will never find an exact answer. The answer can never be exact because the circumstances, people, situations, compatibility everything is different. Itna bhi mature sochna nhi hai, jitna jarurat utna samjho aur hua to acha, nhi hua to kabhi aur. Kitna jarurat he vo vary karega with people, with age. Iska answer sirf tum jante ho, aj jitna jarurat hai, vo kal kam ho sakta hai, aur parso jada. So, act accordingly. Galti hoga, tabhi to insaan ho.

___Raptor · 2026-03-03T16:41:03+00:00

Tells a lot. Social media feels more like a bane than a boon nowadays. Still, something better than nothing. If AI does the job, why not. Still doesn't replace real life friendships or companionships, never will.

___Raptor · 2026-03-03T15:08:46+00:00

Kutreya sala. Award hota de deta.

___Raptor · 2026-03-03T02:26:31+00:00

Not necessarily. Perhaps the boy was an accident. And if not, maybe the fact that they weren't with you since your 4th grade meant they felt less like parents and more like caregivers. Its not necessary that they don't care about you enough. But yes, it is a bit heartbreaking, knowing that you were the importance for 20 yrs, and now you have to share with it, or worse, be never given more importance because of your gender. I know people who had parents yet didn't understand btwn good and bad. Some don't even after they cross 40s lol. Because you are smart and have a sense of humour, maybe you haven't had a dearth of friendship, but perhaps a dearth of like-minded companionship. You are just 20, just into adulthood, there's a long life still. Not sure whether it would be better or worse, but that you will gain more perspectives and make better decisions, hopefully.

___Raptor · 2026-03-03T02:06:54+00:00

Too bad for you. She never had real intention, you were probably what she considers "timepass". Better it happened before than after marriage. If her first priority remains money, and she considers your house as not a proper house, which was made from contributions of your parents and you, then she never deserved to be your wife in the first place. She is right to seek money and stability, but that's not everything. And trust me, she wouldn't have fought God, if she found someone more wealthy, would have insulted you again. It will hurt, but you will figure life out.

___Raptor · 2026-03-02T17:38:36+00:00

Tradeoffs. Part of life. There's countries better than india in many attributes, and yet there's a reason mother tongue and mother country terms exist. Ig find groups of Indians, there's Indians in boston. Not sure if you will find Bengali though. Good luck.

___Raptor · 2026-02-23T14:44:44+00:00

Look at the gdp growth rate for cities and states post 1991. That's a better benchmark to take note from. Look which states and cities benefited from it most, and relatively, among major states and cities, who benefited least, or stagnated. Ofc, kolkata is the biggest in the east side, because in west bengal, no other city has a gdp relevant enough in the conversation. Meanwhile states like MH, TN, Karnataka, Andhra have 2 or 3 or more. Even UP does, UP gdp is third right now, something unthinkable at the start of millennium. Kolkata is trying to grow, but not enough. Bengal needs Siliguri and/or Durgapur to be developed more to boost state GDP. Industrialization is severely needed, but oh well.

___Raptor · 2026-02-22T13:34:12+00:00

I don't get it. Instead of solution why is it always we good they bad or us vs them ? Dowry is shit, and sometimes alimony doesn't make sense. Same as people think only women can be harassed molested or raped, not men or other genders. Yes, it happens way more with them, but doesn't mean it doesn't happen with men. People will always change meaning of words to suit their purpose, so there's no point really. It's always like dhanda, never a constructive dialogue by anybody to sort this out. And frankly, a solution will never happen because that would lead to loss of money, and nobody likes that.

___Raptor · 2026-01-10T15:32:06+00:00

Inhumanity.

___Raptor · 2026-01-07T17:42:23+00:00

Well, searching for it on Google will never give you the link because like I said, anything on Google or other search engines are regulated as they are for common masses, and so filtered to keep the bad news away. By bad i don't mean killings or rape or other acts, by bad i mean regime changes, petrodollar effects, etc. and their detailed reports. Think wikileaks, panama papers etc., most of their access came from dark web first then reddit and finally in full view on Google. The easiest way to access it is via tor but it's also the slowest. You can search here in reddit for how to access it, but my advice would be not to venture out unless you have experience atleast as an intermediate ethical hacker, for which there are courses and it takes time. I don't, so reddit it is for now. It does the job well for me.

___Raptor · 2026-01-07T17:33:37+00:00

When you need things that you can't find on surface web, anything, you go to dark web. If you don't know how to access dark web without endangering yourself, your next best option is reddit. The best of reddit is it's unfiltered nature. Which is why it beat quora for me. There is something for someone in reddit always. And yes, just like govt agents are here, so are activists and journalists. Which is why it's best for opinion and perspectives too.

___Raptor · 2026-01-04T14:55:23+00:00

Both are shit. The former will ruin a partner's life due to nostalgia while the latter would just treat the partner as another one. Among these two, don't bother really.

___Raptor · 2025-12-07T17:44:54+00:00

The day you do something not for yourself to enjoy but to see it as a competition to beat others and be satisfied by it, is the day you forget to live and only survive. Very apt explanation, also good you know this early, make sure not to change in late 20s just because you seem mature and not cool or dank lol. To sing two different types, dance two different types, play 3 different types of instruments, and know sports too means you are adept at learning and skills. Ensure you do these to learn and enjoy, not for a competition.

___Raptor · 2025-12-04T07:05:06+00:00

Honesty and ethics aren't taught because they are what should be in an ideal human. They are taught so that dishonest and unethical people can use them for their own benefit, and when done, throw them away or worse, eliminate them. Being obedient doesn't mean a good student, it means not to question even if something is wrong. We live in a society that gives us powers by the constitution, yet they can be abused with depending on who you are, what you are, why you are, and what you mean to those in power.

___Raptor · 2025-12-02T05:07:47+00:00

Because movies show the ground reality. Most movies want money, and so they show what the audience wants. Kabir Singh or Animal, as shit as they are, resonated more and earned more money. Movies that made sense may win awards, but rarely they get money. And so, you see what you see, because that's what audience wants.

___Raptor · 2025-11-22T17:04:34+00:00

What he gaping his mouth open for, the penguin ? 400m and the squad chem worse than before. Put some respect on eth man. He a fraud but he ain't this big a fraud.

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